The Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle states that there is a limit to how well you can knoweverything about an electron, or any other particle.You cannot know
where it is, and
where it is going, at the same time.The important thing, for purposes of this discussion,is the reason why.The reason is: in order to know those things, you have to measure them.Andin order to measure them, you have to reach out and touch that particle with another one.Whenyou do that, you change it, maybe a little, maybe a lot.You don't know exactly how much.Butyou define it, to some extent, just by looking at it.Similarly, to a large extent our interactionswith others define us.So in a very real sense, the smallest, more
, unit of a society isa
of people, and in particular, a group of two.
(Look at them)
When I'm not moonlighting as part of the Clergy of theChurchofSpiritual Humanism, I amactually a member, hopefully still in good standing, of the First Unitarian Society of Madison.Oneof tenets of the UU church is respect for the interdependent web of life, of which we are alla part.Everything we do affects the things and people around us.You don't have to look veryhard to find examples of that.Last year, when people made investments that didn't pan out, wecould all feel it.This morning, when I turned on the lights, and I drove out here, I contributed tochanging the climate of the planet a little. Becky could tell you a lot about how the way your food is grown, shipped, and prepared affects not only your own health, but also the health of theenvironment, and the finances of farmers and their communities.Perhaps she already has toldyou a lot about those things. Like it or not, for better or for worse, we are all connected.We canignore that fact and get ourselves into a lot of trouble.But if we recognize it, embrace it, and actout of love for each other, then that interconnectedness can be a source of comfort and strengthin an uncertain world.On a more personal note: As Becky’s much older cousin, I have literally known her all her life,and as she wrote recently, her personality was pretty much fully formed by the time she was 11.I can remember when she was born, and I have a picture of us, newly framed, dancing at another wedding, when she was 9 years old.But until recently, we lived far away from each other.When first Beth, and then Becky, came toMadison, those of us who live here got to know themin a way we could not have done before.They were already a part of my family, and I alreadyloved them both.But that connection is deeper and more meaningful now than it was before.But when Becky came here, she also brought this guy along with her.Curtis has been part of thedevelopment of that deeper connection all along.Curtis has done laundry at my house.He's fedmy cat when I was out of town.He and my cousin Doug put together my kids' foosball table.We have eaten cake together to celebratecountlessbirthdays, and anything else we felt wasworth celebrating.I can use this occasion to welcome Curtis into my family, and I do, but in avery real sense Curtis has been a part of my family for some time.Similarly, the process of Becky and Curtis becoming married has really been underway for awhile now.Marriage means different things to different people.It is a civil and legal institution;it is a social construct.For some people, it is a religious sacrament.Sadly, some people whowould like to marry are not legally allowed to do so.Some people are allowed to, but never feelthe need to make that kind of official statement.There are lots of different, valid, ways that people choose to live in loving, committed relationships.Becky and Curtis have been doing thisfor a long time.But they decided to get married, and to have this wedding, with all of us as a