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Self Confidence

Self Confidence

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How to Build Self Confidence 
Do you want to be confident and feelconfident, but what if you're starting with littleor
no
confidence? How do you get from Point Ato Point B? True self-confidence isn't an overnightacquisition. It takes dedication to realize you are agood human being that is worthy of respectand love.
1. RECOGNIZE YOUR INSECURITIES
 What does that voice in the back of yourmind say? What makes you ashamed of yourself? This could be anything from acne, to regrets,or friends at school. Whatever is making you feel unworthy, ashamed or inferior, identify it, giveit a name, and write it down? You can also tear these written pieces to start feeling positive onthose points.
2. TALK ABOUT IT WITH FRIENDS AND LOVED ONES
.Wear it on your sleeve. Each day you should chip away at it; wear it down. There's noquick fix.Get to the root of the problem; focus on it and understand that you need to resolve eachissue before you can move on.And that doesn't mean you have to get rid of whatever makes youfeel bad (many times, you simply can't). You need to learn to
accept 
yourself, your past, andyour circumstances as they are, without necessarily thinking of them as "bad".
3. REMEMBER THAT NO ONE IS PERFECT
.Even the most confident people have insecurities. At some point in any of our lives, wemay feel we lack something. That is reality. Learn that life is full of bumps down the road.
4. IDENTIFY YOUR SUCCESSES
 Everyone is good at something,so discover the things at which
 you
excel, then focus onyour talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for yoursuccesses.Inferiority is a state of mind in which you've declared yourself a victim. Do not allowyourself to be victimized. Express yourself, whether it's through art, music, writing, etc. Findsomething you enjoy. Everyone is born with talents and strengths. You can develop and excel inyours. If it's difficult to name two or three things you have some ability in or just plain love todo, think about things others do that you would like to do too and take some lessons or join anenthusiasts club. When you're following your passion, not only will it have a therapeutic effect,but you'll feel unique and accomplished, all of which can help build your self confidence. Plus,
 
adding a variety of interests to your life will not only make you more confident, but it willincrease your chances of meeting compatible friends!5.
BE THANKFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE
.A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of nothaving
enough
of something, whether it's emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. Byacknowledging and appreciating what you
do
have, you can combat the feeling of beingincomplete and unsatisfied.Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence 
6. BE POSITIVE, EVEN IF YOU DON'T FEEL THE SAME WAY
.Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others.Never allow others to make you feelinferior--they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself,others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about yourfuture, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others.By doing so, you reinforce those ideas in your mind and encourage your growth in a positivedirection.7
7. ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS GRACEFULLY.
 Don't roll your eyes and say, "Yeah, right," or shrug it off. Take it to heart andrespond positively("Thank you" and a smile works well).
8. LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND SMILE.
 Studies surrounding what's called the"facial feedback theory"suggest that theexpressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So bylooking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and moreconfident in the long run
9. FAKE IT.
 Along the same lines of smiling to make yourself feel happy, acting confident mightactually make you believe it. Pretend you're a completely confident version of you; go throughthe motions and see how you feel!10.
STICK TO YOUR PRINCIPLES
.It might be tough, but if you don't have something you can believe in, you don't haveanything. If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything. No matter what's happenedin your life, you can always lay claim to the fact that from this day forward, you've followedyour principles to the best of your ability
 
 11. HELP OTHERS.
 When you know you're kind to the people around you, and are making a positivedifference in other people's lives (even if it's just being kinder to the person who serves youcoffee in the morning), you'll know that you are a positive force in the world--which will boostyour self confidence. Just recognizing who or what you're like inside will help you become thaton the outside. Exercise helps you build strength and confidence, increases libido, and has manyother positive effects.
Tips:
 
Exercise and eat healthy. Exercise raises endorphins and makes one feel happier and healthier. Itis certainly an easy and effective way to boost your self-confidence.
 
When you are feeling terribly insecure, write down your positive traits and read them back. Thisfeedback would give you surprising results.
 
Do not be afraid to push yourself beyond your physical or mental limits. Such a pressure wouldhelp you see how easily things can be achieved and thereby helps you hone skills. Step out of your comfort zone.
 
Conditionyourself to talk positively about yourself . Every time your mind wanders and say youare not apt at it, pause for a minute, undo those negative vibes and say you can do it. At least youshould make an attempt to accomplish that daunting task. With that, you will learn more aboutyourself.
 
Avoid perfectionism. Perfectionism paralyzes you and keeps you from accomplishing yourgoals.
 
You can provide yourself with an extra dose of confidence by using theBest Me Techniqueof self-hypnosis to pre-experience the rewards of a long-term goal, thereby reducing the stress.
 
Have a good group of friends that will support you in any decision making
 
Look forward to what lies ahead in the day or the future: try not to express any bad feelings inany way.
 
Most people lack self confidence because theyworry how others view them. The first thing youhave to do is be happy with yourself and your abilities. Focus less on how others see you becauseyou only get back what you dish out. If they see you're self assured your self confidence will ruboff on them.

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