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INTRODUCTION
MY OWN QUEST FOR HAPPINESS
MASLOW'S CLASSIC STUDY OF SELF-ACTUALIZING PEOPLE
MASLOW'S METAVALUES (OR "BEING" VALUES)
MOVING TO HIGHER LEVEL RELATIONSHIPS AND GROUPS
EXTERNALLY-CENTERED (EC) VERSUS INTERNALLY-CENTERED (IC) VALUES
WHAT IF WE MAKE HAPPINESS A CONSCIOUS ULTIMATE CONCERN?
WHAT’S WRONG WITH MAKING HAPPINESS A TOP GOAL?
A NEW UNDERSTANDING FOR SOME COMMON TERMS
LOVING YOURSELF MEANS TAKING GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF
CHOOSE TO LEARN AND BE HAPPY WHILE READING THIS BOOK
THE YOU CAN CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY SELF-DEVELOPMENT PLAN
WE CAN CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY:
DO YOUR EMOTIONS SEEM TO HAVE A "MIND OF THEIR OWN"?
WE CAN CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY NOW
EMOTIONS ARE CONTROLLED MORE BY THOUGHTS THAN BY EXTERNAL EVENTS
RESTATE "HELPLESSNESS" LANGUAGE INTO "CHOICE" LANGUAGE
WE HAVE MANY ROUTES TO HAPPINESS--WE ARE NEVER HELPLESS
EXTERNAL ROUTES TO HAPPINESS
INTERNAL ROUTES TO HAPPINESS
LIFE AS A JOURNEY WITH MANY ROUTES TO HAPPINESS
NEGATIVE EMOTIONS AS GROWTH OPPORTUNITIES
HARMONIOUS FUNCTIONING AND HAPPINESS
SELF-EXPLORATION AND PROBLEM-SOLVING SKILLS
HOW I USE SELF-EXPLORATION AND PROBLEM-SOLVING SKILLS
PERSONALITY CHANGE CAN BE SUDDEN, DRAMATIC, AND ENDURING
HOW DO PEOPLE MAKE RADICAL PERSONAL OR LIFE STYLE CHANGES?
REASON AND EMOTION AS DECISION GUIDES
GIVING OUT OF UNSELFISH CARING INSTEAD OF OBLIGATION
THE POWER OF THE HIGHER SELF DEPENDS ON
UNPRODUCTIVE BELIEF SYSTEMS-- THEY DEVALUE HEALTH AND HAPPINESS
GOAL OF HIGHER SELF IS HARMONY AMONG ALL MIND-BODY SYSTEMS
LIFE AND BODY AFFIRMING BELIEFS--HOW DO WE KNOW WHAT TO BELIEVE?
ELEGANT BELIEFS--BOTH COMPREHENSIVE AND SIMPLE
AN INNER GROWING FORCE
REPLACE OLD BELIEFS WITH MORE FUNCTIONAL HIGHER SELF BELIEFS
THE SOURCE OF MY NEW IDENTITY
SELF-ACTUALIZATION--THE RESULT OF A STRONG HIGHER SELF
LIST YOUR TOP BELIEFS TO GIVE YOUR HIGHER SELF MORE POWER
WE CAN NEVER KNOW THE REAL EXTERNAL WORLD--ONLY OUR PERCEPTIONS
OUR TRUE REALITY IS OUR INNER WORLD--NOT THE EXTERNAL WORLD
THERE ARE DIFFERENT LEVELS OF REACTIONS
ACCEPTING THE "UNACCEPTABLE"--SUCH AS PAIN, CRUELTY, AND DEATH
WE CAN CHOOSE HOW WE WILL REACT TO DAILY NEGATIVE EVENTS
HOW CAN WE BE BOTH CARING AND HAPPY WHEN OTHERS ARE SUFFERING?
IS CHOOSING TO THINK POSITIVELY BEING HONEST WITH MYSELF?
TURNING THE TIDE OF THOUSANDS OF THOUGHTS
OUR SELF VIEWS HAVE POWER (INCLUDING THEIR OWN INERTIA)
WHAT IS SELF-WORTH?
HOW DO WE GET UNCONDITIONAL SELF-LOVE?
WHAT DOES "SELF-IMAGE" MEAN?
SELF-ACCEPTANCE IS A PREREQUISITE FOR SELF-LOVE AND SELF-WORTH
ACCEPTING OUR BODIES AND OUR BASIC CAPABILITIES IMPROVES SELF-WORTH
YOUR SELF-IMAGE IS MORE POWERFUL THAN YOUR ACTUAL IMAGE
A PROCESS FOR ACCEPTING YOUR BODY AND APPEARANCE
NEGATIVE SELF-BELIEFS GENERATE DYSFUNCTIONAL THOUGHTS AND HABITS
OUR SUBPARTS CAN UNDERMINE OUR UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
OUR SELF-CONCEPT AFFECTS OUR SELF-CONFIDENCE
DEALING WITH PAST "FAILURES"--AND LOW SELF-CONFIDENCE
SELF-CONFIDENCE AND LIFE SKILLS
RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN LIFE SKILLS, HAPPINESS, AND SUCCESS
SELF-CONFIDENCE AND LIFE SKILLS RESEARCH—AREA BY AREA
ADDITIONAL FACTORS THAT INCREASE SELF-CONFIDENCE
USING EXTERNAL VERSUS INTERNAL EXPECTATIONS TO EVALUATE YOURSELF
WHAT DO THEY WANT VERSUS WHAT DO YOU WANT
APPROVAL AS A "MUST" VERSUS APPROVAL AS A "BONUS"
TRYING TO IMPRESS OTHERS VERSUS FEELING GOOD ABOUT WHO YOU ARE
BEING TERRIFIED OF DISAPPROVAL VERSUS ACCEPTING DISAPPROVAL
LETTING OTHERS MAKE DECISIONS FOR YOU VERSUS MAKING THEM YOURSELF
LETTING OTHERS TAKE CARE OF YOU VERSUS TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF
"I SHOULD" VERSUS "I WANT"
THREE-WAY CONFLICTS: EXTERNAL PEOPLE, INTERNALIZED PEOPLE, AND ME
SOCIETY AND THE MEDIA
REFERENCE GROUPS
EVEN COMPLIMENTS AND SUPPORT CAN FOSTER DEPENDENCE
YOUR BASIC PSYCHOBIOLOGICAL NEEDS
YOUR HIGHER SELF
YOUR OTHER SUBPARTS (ROLES, INTERESTS, KNOWLEDGE AREAS, ETC.)
ELIMINATING INTERNAL BARRIERS TO INTERNAL CONTROL
SUMMARY OF INTERNAL BARRIERS TO INTERNAL CONTROL
COPE WITH INTERNALIZED PARENT CONTROL STATEMENTS
EXAMPLES CONTRASTING AN EXCUSE WITH A CONSCIOUS CHOICE
REMIND YOURSELF OF EXTERNAL CONTROL CONSEQUENCES
BECOME AWARE OF AUTOMATIC NONASSERTIVENESS
MONITOR EXTERNAL CONTROL FOCUS VERSUS INTERNAL CONTROL FOCUS
HIDDEN MESSAGES, MANIPULATION, AND GAMES PEOPLE PLAY
DEVELOP INTERPERSONAL SKILLS TO GET MORE INTERNAL CONTROL
SET BOUNDARIES OF RESPONSIBILITY AND CONTROL
PEAK FUNCTIONING OF OUR MIND AND BODY
HARMONIOUS FUNCTIONING IS OUR MOST BASIC DRIVING FORCE
1. OPTIMAL LEARNING AS THE BASIS OF HAPPINESS--DR. GEORGE KELLY
2. OPTIMAL STIMULATION AS A BASIC HUMAN MOTIVE—DR. DONALD BERLYNE
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN INTEREST, LEARNING, AND MEMORY
THE HARMONIOUS FUNCTIONING MODEL EXPLAINS OUR EMOTIONS
THE MAGIC OF MENTAL CONTROL
TO CREATE HARMONIOUS FUNCTIONING REPLACE OR CONVERT ACTIVITIES
REPLACE ACTIVITIES TO GET MORE IN THE ZONE
CONVERT ACTIVITIES TO GET MORE IN THE ZONE
HARMONIOUS MOTIVATION VERSUS CONFLICTED MOTIVATION
SELF-EXPLORATION--THE FIRST STEP TO RISE ABOVE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
RESOLVING ONE INNER CONFLICT BRINGS HARMONY TO MANY SITUATIONS
REPLACE "SHOULDS" WITH NEW CHOICES
USE POSITIVE CONSEQUENCES TO INCREASE MOTIVATION
UNDERSTANDING: Understand the situation and create a road map to success
A ROAD MAP TO SUCCESS--HOW DO WE GET WHAT WE WANT?
EPISODE ANALYSIS CAN INCREASE OUR UNDERSTANDING AND SKILLS
UNDERSTANDING AT A HIGHER LEVEL--A MENTAL SAFETY NET
OPTIMAL EXPECTATIONS INCREASE HARMONIOUS FUNCTIONING
ADJUST CHALLENGE OF THE GOAL TO GET INTO THE ZONE
ADJUST THE LAPDS GOAL DIMENSIONS TO ADJUST AROUSAL
FIVE GOAL CHANGE METHODS TO LOWER ANXIETY AND STRESS
MULTIPLE GOALS: GO FOR THE GOLD--BE PREPARED FOR THE WORST
OVERCOME UNDERAROUSAL EMOTIONS— DEPRESSION, GRIEF, and APATHY
FACTORS THAT PREDISPOSE SOMEONE TO DEPRESSION
OPTIMISM BASED UPON OUR CONTROL OF OUTCOMES
DEEP OPTIMISM BASED UPON TRUST IN BENEVOLENT FORCES
PROBLEM-FOCUS VERSUS SOLUTION-FOCUS
FOCUSING ON THE BALL CAN HELP US OVERCOME ANXIETY
FOCUS ON YOUR ULTIMATE CONCERN FOR CLEAR INNER DIRECTION
YOU CAN ACHIEVE MENTAL CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS
FEELING IN CONTROL OF OUR LIVES VERSUS FEELING HELPLESS
CHANGING OUR ACTIONS AND ENVIRONMENTS TO FIND HAPPINESS
AUTOMATIC HABITS--HABITS CONSUME MOST OF OUR TIME
BALANCE BETWEEN PARTS OF OURSELVES
BALANCE BETWEEN PRESENT AND FUTURE SATISFACTION OF VALUES
TECHNIQUES FOR CLARIFYING IMPORTANT UNDERLYING VALUES
VALUES TEND TO LAST, BUT CAN BE CHANGED RADICALLY
WE LIVE IN UNIQUE PERSONAL WORLDS
ACHIEVING EXCELLENCE CYCLE--ACHIEVING DISTANT DREAMS AND GOALS
O-PATSM BRIDGES THE GAP BETWEEN VALUES AND ACTIONS
RULES FOR SETTING PRIORITIES
YOU CAN ACCOMPLISH MORE AND HAVE MORE FUN!
HURRY SICKNESS--TOO MUCH TO DO, TOO LITTLE TIME
BRIEF BIBLIOGRAPHY
INDEX OF BOXES, TABLES, AND FIGURES
BIOGRAPHICAL SKETCH OF THE AUTHOR
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