50 things to know about marriage 1. Great relationships don’t just happen; they are created. You have to work at it. 2. If your job takes all of your best energy, your marriage will suffer. 3. One of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is your own happiness. 4. It is possible to love and hate someone at the same time. 5. When you complain about your spouse to your friends (which you shouldn’t), remember that their feedback can be distorted. 6. The only rules in your marriage are those you both choose to agree with. 7. It is not conflict that destroys marriage; it is the cold, smoldering resentment that you hold for a long time. 8. It’s not what you’ve got, it’s what you do with what you have. 9. If you think you are too good for your spouse, think again. 10. Growing up in a happy household doesn’t ensure a happy marriage, or vice versa. 11. It’s never too late to repair damaged trust. 12. The real issue is usually not the one you are arguing about.