Excerpt of Shri Mataji‘s speech, protocols, this, that?

What is the need to

22nd October 1979 in London have this seat for this gentleman, that
seat, after all if there are ten people for
And this ego business is so much prevalent in dinner they can find their seats, there
our society now, with all due apologies I am won‟t be a chaos for ten people. Even for
talking about the Western society, when it twenty, even for three hundred. Why
comes to India I talk to them, but now I‟m should there be seat allotted if you have
talking to you, and think that I am also a invited three hundred people, alright,
Western person, so I can say certain things as they‟ll all sit down. If they are remaining
a Western personality, and don‟t feel bad they‟ll sit down for the second one or for
about it. For in the so-called, certain the third one. What is the hurry of
traditions that we have, today only I was having that program? All together, or in
discussing you see; like on the table we have such a systematic way that everybody
to sit for dinner, alright? Simple thing it is, to feels unsystematic after that. Everybody
sit on the table for dinner, now dinner is there feels disturbed and upset after the
Every because God has been gracious to us; for our program is over? With all the system,
well-being, for our friendship, we are all with all the corrections and with all the
Tuesday going to sit down. But go to any formal great planning we do, ultimately we find
dinner, or you arrange a formal dinner, all have become nitwits, there must be
people would sit down ten times discussing something wrong about it. And it
at 9 p.m. “where is the seat of „X‟ and the seat of „Y‟, becomes a frenzy with mob-like
and the seat of „Z‟.” But if there is a slightest behavior people, you see, everybody will
mistake, in placing the people according to come out with very big faces, “Oh, what
www. a mismanagement you know, they did
their date of birth, their face color, their head
freemeditation.tv color, their height, their noses, their length, this!” What was it? One cannot even
their upper lips, any difference is there found understand what is the value of all these
in the “Who‟s who” book, you see, that things. That‟s why we have to be like
somebody was placed little higher in M.A.D. small children, to them it does not matter
degree, then you‟ve had it. All the good where they sit. And so we are grown up
wishes of entertaining people, of doing, some and matured, supposed to be mature
good friendship of having, creating people also. While children are still
something very, very great, is all lost. All the innocent and still ignorant and still they
effort is lost and you are left wondering, have to grow. We are supposed to be up-
“Now what have I done? I did consult all the grown, what has grown within us is
dictionaries and the „Who‟s who‟, I mean this nothing but this Mr. Ego, not you.
„Who‟s who‟ is another ego pampering you
know. But despite that there was a mistake In today‟s paper I was reading about this
somehow and the person has taken a very bigripper [Yorkshire ripper]. Now the
conclusion is reached that he‟s not a
objection that Mr. X who is one day junior to
psychopath… but he is on an ego trip.
him has been made to sit ahead of him, is the
greatest calamity to his ego. He‟s doing all this for his ego
satisfaction, because he telephones to the
So on and so forth we have so many things, police, he sends a, what you call… a
but if I say “scrap all this nonsense” why tape to the police, that he should be
don‟t you scrap it? Why to have all this, caught. He tells them “you‟ll meet me
here”, and still they cannot catch him so
he thinks oh he‟s such a great person, that
nobody can catch him. The greatest thief
ever born who could not be caught. I
don‟t know what name will you give to
such a man? I mean to an egoist like this,
the one who lives by ego tries to satisfy
his ego, and if his ego is not satisfied by
something he doesn‟t feel satisfied, I
don‟t know what should you call him?
Now how to overcome this ego, because
people start seeing Mr. Ego, “oh very
great, you see it‟s coming up, giving me
ideas, alright”. You feel sometimes very
depressed with the idea that this is Mr.
Ego I was identified with. Then when you
see your ego, then what do you do with it?
Or if somebody says “Better watch your
ego” then what happens? You start
fighting it. You say “No… I will not say
anything, I will just keep quiet! Let them
say anything whatever they like”. Then
you become another type. You become a
person who is suffering from super-ego.
So you are left with desires but do not act,
and you‟d say that “let others aggress me,
I‟m not going to aggress anyone, I‟ll be
very careful about not-aggression.” But
by this kind of a thing, what happens that
when you raise the left side, I mean left
side which goes up on the right hand side
– super-ego, it presses the ego down but
again is bounced back and there‟s a kind
of a bouncing going on. By this behavior
when you fight your ego the ego sits on
your head much more. The more you try
to fight ego it sits on your head. You are
not to fight it. Supposing you take a
balloon and start hitting it, it will hit you
back further. Go on hitting it, it will go on
hitting. Now which is the way to deflate
this ego? How do we deflate a balloon? In
the same manner, take a pin and give it a
prick. You just look at yourself, say
“Alright Mr. „So and So‟, now, how do
you do?” and you laugh at yourself, you
say “Oh you were very unhappy you see
when you saw that you were not placed
very much, alright, now have a pin from
me!” And that‟s how you deflate it, by
seeing it by all the time making fun of it,
yourself, and piercing a pin into it. Not
by deflating, in the way people say that
you deflate the whole thing by pushing it
down, or by killing it, but actually just,
making a hole in it, in the same way if
you start looking at yourself… and make
fun.
Human beings only know very well how
to make fun of themselves, no animals
know that. If you learn how to make fun
of yourself your ego will go down,
otherwise this ego will suggest
“Whatever you are doing is the best, this
has to be done, that has to be done, I am
the best, I am doing everything good”,
and you might be torturing someone,
aggressing someone, you might be just
playing into the hands of ego like a
madcap, and you might be a real madcap
but you don‟t know that you are. Because
with ego a person becomes successful so-
called, he becomes very brilliant, shines
out, in competition he comes up, and
nobody dare say a word to him otherwise
he‟ll have punch on the nose, you see.
He also becomes very mighty and
powerful, and everybody hankers after
such a behavior and such a thing. But, a
time comes when he realizes that “I was
hanging in the air. I forgot my basis, and
now I have to come down”, like Humpty
Dumpty sat on a wall and they had a
great fall. Such a beautiful ryhme this
thing is, written long time back. And all
the Kings horses and all the men, could
not put Humpty Dumpty back again, into
it‟s own shape you see? So don‟t be
Humpty Dumpties, and don‟t live with
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that idea of being a Humpty Dumpty, is a
simple thing to fight your ego and that
happens very often in Sahaja Yoga, is a
very common happening in Sahaja Yoga,
where your Kundalini itself creates such
situations, that you are flabbergasted at
your ego.