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Jan Whitehouse
Judgment Call 4: What Is a Fair Share of Housework and Childcare?
between young dual-career parents who are at a stalemate when it comes to household
and parenting duties. The impasse hinges on their disparate perceptions as to just what
constitutes “realistic” expectations when it comes to the division of labor around the
duties? Has Myranda been left with the bulk of the work, getting precious little help from
her partner? Conversely, is Myranda overstating her burden? Has Scott been
woefully deficient in his understanding and execution of the necessary work around the
house and helping to care for their son, studies would tend to support Myranda.
First of all, Myranda has a lot more on her plate than Scott’s mom did. The
Shriver report: a women's nation changes everything (Shriver, 2009) points out that
women are now 50 percent of the paid workforce. And though only a year has passed, the
most current statistics likely reflect that the percentage of women working has increased,
now since three quarters of the newly unemployed are men. The report goes on to state
that nearly two-thirds of mothers either are responsible for all, or at least half of, the
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We learned in our chapter on gender and education that women make up the
majority of students attending colleges and universities (Wood, 2011). And so it goes, the
more educated a woman is, the more likely it is she works outside the home.
Has parity for housework and child rearing between the sexes kept pace with what
has happened in the workforce? Not really, but there is improvement from the previous
Housework and Gender Equity explains that presently, American men in dual-income
families are handling a third of shopping and meal preparation. Men are doing roughly 15
percent of the laundry, which is an improvement over the paltry 2 to 5 percent their
fathers did in 1970 (Coltrane, 1997). He says, "In general, men try to compare their
contributions to their fathers, and compared to them, they look very good, doing four or
five times more than their fathers did.” (Coltrane, 1997) This speaks to why the Scott in
our example feels justified in his objection. But, as our example shows, having a child
A recent article in The New York Times, “Now, Dad Feels as Stressed as Mom”
by Tara Parker-Pope suggests now that everyone is working, the norms have shifted.
Women have had more time to adjust, as they have struggled to reconcile the workplace
with housework since the 1970’s. Conversely, men are playing catch-up. They are just
beginning to grapple with harmonizing the demands of public and private life. (Parker-
Pope, 2010)
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coming as long as the privileges men enjoy, especially white males, are invisible to them.
In other words, Scott just does not “see” Myranda’s plight, mainly because he does not
perceive his own privilege. In a recent interview, to illustrate this invisibility of privilege,
I think Kimmel’s observation of the power inherent in privilege – and the power
of invisibility has a lot of relevance to our example. Between Scott’s relative blindness to
his gender and having what understanding he does have of his own gender challenged by
these new (to him) demands of a dual-career household, Scott, and men in general, are
grasping and grappling with the limitations of the “traditional” male role. Just as women
did several decades prior, men are learning to create new roles for themselves, as they
My initial thought when I read Myranda and Scott’s dialogue was that they were
turned to my domestic duty heroes, Kim and Aggie of BBC’s reality-intervention series,
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How Clean Is Your House? which is a lot like the U.S. Hoarders, but way campier.
Encountering squalor in each episode, Kim and Aggie are unsparing in their
criticism and counsel – neither men nor women are allowed to claim gender victimhood.
After the scolding, the bulk of the show involves shoulder-to-shoulder cleaning. Kim and
Aggie model the new behavior and work side-by-side with the homeowner, teaching how
to best perform various household cleaning activities. Everyone (even small children) is
involved in a democratic fashion. Once made aware of them, the men respond
protectively to the health hazard consequences (swabs are tested at the lab) posed by
neglect, and they especially welcome the hosts’ clear, step-by-step instructions as to how
best to clean things. Finally, a weekly cleaning schedule is established. The homeowners
are given a posted list of duties which display what needs done on any given day and who
awareness to miraculously flower, perhaps expectations become truly realistic when they
are displayed in the clear light of day rather than burrowed in the smoldering embers of
resentment.
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References
Coltrane, S. (1997) Family man: fatherhood, housework, and gender equity. New York,
Firestone, J. & Shelton, B.A. (1992). Household labor time and the gender gap in
earnings. Gender and society Vol.5, No.1. March, 1989. p. 105 – 112.
Kimmel, M. (2001) Men and gender equality – what can men gain?. Proceedings of the
http://www.europrofem.org/audio/ep_kimmel/kimmel.htm
Parker-Pope, T. Now dad feels as stressed as mom. The New York Times. June 19, 2010
Shriver, M. (2009) A woman’s nation changes everything. The Shriver report: a study by
http://www.shriverreport.com/awn/about.php
Wood, J. T. (2011). Gendered lives: communication, gender and culture. Boston, MA.