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All Souls, a place of peace this season a bit stressful, if not down-
PRESENTS away from holiday stress right depressing. Christmas for our
community can be bitter-sweet. Many
by The Rev. Dewayne Messenger may find this a worrisome time because
of the e xpectations to spend money for
Thanksgiving has passed and Christ- gifts, trinkets and food when budgets
mas is coming. The holiday season is are unusually tight. Some in our GLBT
in full swing. Christmas Carols are being community do not have family or loved
played on the radio and stores are sell- ones with which to spend the holiday.
ing their wares. Colored lights adorn Others may find this to be a lonely
windows, trees and homes. Goodies time—a time of regret and sadness.
and sweets are being baked in prepara-
tion for parties. All the world seems to The church is also preparing for
be at peace. Christmas but rather than it being a
season of partying and merrymaking,
While many of us are enjoying the the church calls us away from the hustle
season, there are some of us who find (Continued on page 6)
Holiday
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“Boys will be boys” I had never heard of. It didn’t take age, but I had just accepted it. Gym
A brief memoir of a victim long for me to be reminded that I was class showed me that I also lacked any
only a 7th grader. sporting ability. After a couple of
of school house bulling weeks, during which time we played
It was during the previous summer sports, no captain on any of the teams
by Tom Ryan that I had learned what those feelings wanted me on theirs; hence, I was
of ―being different‖ really usually chosen last. How
Back in the 60s, ―bullying‖ was meant. I was in the 6th ―Almost after humiliating! Not only did I
termed being ―picked on; it was a time grade, and while hiking with every gym class, I come to hate g ym class but
when ―boys will be boys.‖ Well, this is a junior, I was forced to was the victim of showering and lo cker-
my experience of dealing with these perform oral sex on him. I bullying, by having rooms, too. Almost after
types of boys when I attended a small- did not find it offensive; every g ym class, I was the
town junior and senior high school in instead, it felt natural. to run a gauntlet of victim of bullying, by having
Schuylkill County from 1964-1969. Many times after that, I towel whipping to run a gauntlet of towel
admit, that I voluntarily per- while also being whipping while also being
The summer between my last year formed these acts. One called ―faggot ‖ called ―faggot‖ or ―queer.‖
of elementary and junior high school thing I never thought was or ―queer.‖ In the shower, classmates
ended like any other with swimming that he would tell others, would not allow me to
and hiking. I was looking forward to both my classmates, as well as his share any of the showers they were
getting away from the ―little kids‖ classmates, but he did. gathered around.
school and being in the building shared
by both the junior high and senior high Gym class! Even today as an While this was going on, my street
school students. This is where the big adult, the mention of it still brings on clothes were either strewn about the
kids attended! Also, at this time an- feelings of hatred and bad memories. locker-room or hidden in unused
other small school had merged with I knew I was small in stature for my (Continued on page 5)
ours. These students came from towns
BULLYING 4
Bullying: one psycho- Development of sexual identity lating and perpetuating the belief that
occurs during the tumultuous teenage people who are GLBT are ―not like us.‖
logical perspective years, and it is often a confusing and No one is free from bullying of some
difficult time. Teens with good sup- form – even Obama, who holds a very
(Continued from page 1) port systems (family, friends, organi- powerful position. However, some
seats in both the Senate and Congress zations, etc.) develop a good sense of people have greater resources than
definitely made him weaker. Perhaps self and often move into adulthood others. If you are a victim of bullying,
the gain by the other party with a solid sense of who make sure you connect with resources
made them overbearing as they ―Bullying affects they are, including their immediately so you can strengthen or
joined together to press their all people, but the sexual identity. Teens develop the skills necessary to keep
beliefs as the majority group.
GLB T community who are less fortunate you empowered and feeling strong.
The essence of bullying, how- struggle with many issues
ever, is the word ―habitually.‖ is at greater risk
including their sexuality. Resources:
because the Some fail to develop PFLAG
The GLBT community exists dominant culture healthy sexual identities. Parents and Friends
within a larger culture that ha- continues to These people do not have of Lesbians and Gays
bitually chooses to ignore or to marginalize this a strong sense of self and www.epapflag.org
condemn it rather than to ac- community.‖ can either become emo- Locally
cept or understand it. Don’t ti on all y ve ry fra gi le 610-858-9278
ask, don’t tell is one example of many (depressed or suicidal—a form of self email berkspflag@aol.com
on how the dominant culture views the bullying) or become emotionally very Helpline
GLBT community as a distant and very aggressive (a bully). 610- 967-5219
different subculture. These messages
provide a foundation for treating the Bullying affects all people, but the The Trevor Hotline, a national 24-hour,
GLBT community as unequal-—a mes- GLBT community is at greater risk toll free confidential suicide hotline for
sage that is heard by all people. For because the dominant culture contin- gay and questioning youth.
people who are GLBT, these messages ues to marginalize this community. 866-4-U-Trevor or 866-488-7386
promote the feeling of being ―less‖ or Additionally, some people who are
—Linda Dapcic-Angst is a student facilitator for
that anything but heterosexual is wrong GLBT may consciously or uncon- The Center for Acade mic Success at Reading
and should not be validated. sciously feel different and disengage Area Co mmunity Colle ge
with the dominant culture, further iso- Contact: ldapcic@racc.edu
Lisa’s legal view— are bullied every place they go—home, ers and treat LGBTIQ classmates as
church, and school, in the movies, on second-class citizens.
Pride, shame and the law television, in congress and
in the courts. While I write ―[[I]n the United How can a teen watch
by Lisa M. this, an appellate court in States of America the hearings about the
De Long, Esq. C ali forn ia is decidi ng military policy of banning
today, the laws
whether there is a constitu- homosexuals from openly
Over the last few permit the bullying of
tional right for same-sex serving and not determine
months, numerous partners to be married. LGB TIQ people, and that the government is
articles have focused You see, in the United the Government ag ainst h omose xuals?
on several tragic bul- States of America today, leads by example. Some churches inundate
l ying -re la ted tee n the laws permit the bullying How can we expect their congregations with
suicides. These inci- of LGBTIQ people, and the that students in religious intolerance and
dents are heartbreak- Government leads by ex- school would have homophobic slander, and
ing, but they should ample. How can we expect more compassion the parishioners hear that
not surprise us. In fact, unless we act, that students in school they should shun homo-
and fairness than
we should expect the bullying to con- would have more compas- sexuals and be shamed if
tinue and more tragedy to follow. Here adults in positions
sion and fairness than the y a re homosexual
is why. adults in positions of of power? themselves.
power?
Each day a variety o f seemingly in- How does a young LGBTIQ per-
surmountable obstacles related to sex- Every day LGBTIQ people are fired son leave church and not feel bullied?
ual orientation, identity and acceptance from their jobs, discharged from the Schools prohibit students from bring-
confront LGBTIQ youths. School can military, expelled from school, denied ing same-sex partners to proms or
be a difficult place, and there have al- basic civil rights and evicted from their wearing gender-―inappropriate‖ cloth-
ways been and likely will always be homes, and all of it is sanctioned by ing. Students at those schools surely
bullies, but LGBTIQ youth are no the government. Students in school must feel that e ven the school board
strangers to bullying. LGBTIQ people follow the example of our nation’s lead- (Continued on page 5)
BULLYING 5
―Boys will be boys” I went to the principal’s office to get Since I could not count on receiving
help, but I was told the old line, ―boys any support at home or at the princi-
(Continued from page 3) will be boys‖ and ―that I needed to get pal’s office, I realized that I was on my
lockers. By the time I would find my tough and fight back!‖ I had tried to own. The one thing I did do to protect
towel, dry off, locate my clothes and get fight back, only to be told myself was that I started to
dressed, most classmates had already that after school, I would ―Since I received ride my bike to school and
left the locker room and were on their ―get it.‖ Man y times I got no help from the park it at a relative’s house,
way to our next class. Man y times I into fights while walking administration, which happened to be one
would be late for class after gym, either home and always coming I would have to block from school. In re-
because of the acti vities in the locker- out on the losing end. sponse to being told I was
depend on myself.
room or because I broke down and
I stole some script ―dead after school,‖ I
cried while sitting on the bench in the I knew I was reaching a stayed in the school library
empty locker room. I put up with this breaking point as far as pad papers from my until closing. Then I would
during my entire 8th grade in gym class. gym class was concerned. doctor, and I paid a retrieve my bike and be
The excitement of looking forward to Since I received no help classmate who had safely home in no time.
―high school‖ had quickly evaporated. from the administration, I dropped out of school Another thing I did to pro-
would have to depend on $20 to scribble me a tect myself was to become
Outside of gym class there was the myself. I stole some script medical excuse a glorified ―Gunga Din‖ for
other experience. While walking the pad papers from my doctor, from gym class.‖ both the football and track
hallways to change classes, my books and I paid a classmate who teams. Since most of my
were knocked out of my hands to had dropped out of school $20 to scrib- tormentors were on either of these
chuckles and looks of disgust from oth- ble me a medical excuse from gym teams, riding with the coach to practice
ers nearby. After putting up with this class. I received a ―C‖ grade for gym and up front on the team bus, I must
throughout all of 8th grade, 9th grade class that year. admit that life got better. Tenth grade
could not come fast enough! If 7th and was the last time I was harassed. In
8th grade were rough, 9th grade was It was in 10th grade that I was fact, my school days improved so
pure hell. At this time our school had a punched in the mouth which left me with much that my date and I were picked
large influx of former 8th graders from a split lip. I was also slammed into lock- as King and Queen at our class Senior
the local parochial school for 9th grade. ers just as before and called a ―faggot‖ Prom.
Now my private hell (AKA g ym class) all the time. At lunch time I often sat
became tortuous. Everything men- alone. People whom I had called Yes, it does get better. Just give
tioned beforehand continued, but now I friends in elementary school would not yourself some time and with maturity
started to get slammed into lockers even talk to me, let alone sit with me. I learn who your supporters or allies
while on my way to the showers, as well cannot recall looking up while eating really are. It does get better!
as punched and kicked while my back lunch, and I could not get out of the —-To m Ryan is an RP C me mbe r
was turned. cafeteria quickly enough.
RELIGION and SPIRITUALITY 6
—The Bible and queer spirituality tion, America’s largest Protestant de-
Interpreting scripture to justify oppression nomination, finally apologized for the
role it played in the justification of slav-
them for the problems of that society. ery and in the maintenance of a culture
of racism (referenced in The Good
In the United States alone, in less Book: Reading the Bible with Mind and
than 225 years, we can find four major Heart by Peter Gomes).
examples of how scripture has been
used to oppress particular social Got questions? About the Bible?
groups—African Americans, Jews, About other matters of faith? Please
women and now homosexuality, all feel free to email Pastors Deb and Jen
supported by the truth of scripture. at pastor@visionofhopemcc.org
by Revs. Deb Coggin —Rev. De b Co ggin is the Lead Pastor and Rev.
and Jennifer Glass In this article we will cover one of
Jen Glass is a pastor on staff at Vision of Hope
MCC. Vision of Ho pe is a me mber of the deno mi-
As pastors of a Christian church these, slavery and African Americans, nation known as the Universal Fellowship of Met-
that predominately ministers to the and in later articles the next ones, ropolitan Co mmunity Churches. For the last 42
LGBT community, we are frequently leading up to more reference to the years MCC has grown into the world’ s largest
asked, what does the Bible really say Christian faith group providing spiritual support to
Bible and homosexuality. lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgender per-
about Homosexuality? Well, there is sons along with their allies. We are “Led by
no simple answer. In fact, we Scripture was used Christ, E mpowered to Rock the World” with loca-
often present information like ―[I]n1995, . . . the to support slavery. tions in Mountville, York and Reading ( Sundays at
7p m at the Quaker Meeting House, 108 N. 6th
this in a four to six hour work-
Southern Baptist Churches, especially in Street).
shop. Before we even get into
the potential scriptural refer- Convention, Amer- the South, claimed
slavery to be the will
ences, we share some things ica’s largest Protes-
and truth of God.
All Souls, a place of peace
we think are important which we tant denomination, ―Slaves, obey your away from holiday stress
call ―Bible Basics.‖ finally apologized earthy masters with
for the role it played fear and trembling, in (Continued from page 1)
As we consider Biblical inter- in the justification of singleness of heart, as and bustle of the season. The focus
pretation in ―modern‖ times, we slavery and in the you obey Christ,‖ and during Ad vent is one that is pregnant
might ask the question, why maintenance of a ―Tell slaves to be sub-
with expectant waiting, watching and
have interpretations of the Bible culture of racism.‖ missive to their master
been used to justify oppression preparation. It is also a season to
and to give satisfac-
of a specific group of people? make changes – both in our hearts and
tion,‖ Ephesians 6:5
Fear is one answer. Society uses and Titus 2:9, were verses often lives, and in our world. Maybe, you
fear to condemn what it does not un- quoted to support God’s blessing on are finding Christmas a bit too stress-
derstand and attempt to control it slavery. ful, a bit too hectic, or a bit too celebra-
through oppression and keeping one tory. Ma ybe you would like to make
subordinate. Political and economic In 1856 the Reverend Thornton
power is another reason to oppress. some positive changes this Christmas.
Stringfellow, a Virginia Baptist, pub-
The majority or the group in power If so, you might consider reconnecting
lished his sermon ―A Scriptural View of
has used scripture to maintain the with a parish—a family that can sur-
Slavery,‖ arguing that God himself had
status quo which contributes to their sanctioned slavery through Noah, round and support you during this time.
retention of power. Abraham, and Joseph, and that the
biblical re cord was unambiguous A growing number of folks have
Another reason can be the human (referenced in The Bible Tells Me So found All Souls a place where they can
attempt to scapegoat. Throughout by Jim Hill and Rand Cheadle). There bring their whole selves to church—
history society has needed a scape- is no exact scripture verse which con-
goat to take blame for its depravities. their joys, their pains and their worries.
demns slavery and it was practiced
The term scapegoat comes from its If you are looking for a sense of com-
throughout the time of the Hebrew
biblical use on the Day of Atonement. Bible and New Testament. Yet, today, munity this season, I hope you will
A ritual was performed by the priest in perhaps with the exception of white consider joining folks who have found
which the sins of the people were supremacist groups, most people just that at All Souls. In the very least,
symbolically placed on the goat, would not think that slavery was God’s we hope you will consider joining us for
driven into the wilderness, and with it, truth for African American people. our 11:45pm Christmas Eve Service.
the sins and impurities of the people.
(Paul J. Achtemeir, Harper’s Bible Among your GLBT family, you might
In fact, in 1995, 132 years after the
Dictionary) Throughout history we can just find the sense of peace you ha ve
Emancipation Proclamation, 130 years
see how different cultures have made after the end of the Civil War, and 27 been looking for.—-Rev. Dewayne Messen-
enemies of a particular group of peo- years after the death of Martin Luther ger is pastor of All Souls. Contact:
ple and thereby placing blame on Info@allsoulsecu menical.or g
King, Jr., the Southern Baptist Conven-
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RECIPES 8
Directions
Chef Joe D’s Kitchen
Place celery, shallots/
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Savory holiday onions, carrots, and flour
creations in roasting bag. Stuff the
turkey with the meat mix-
by Joe DiCindio ture. An y lefto ver stuffing
cook separately in foil
pan with turkey. Season
Italian Christmas
Turkey with Abruzzi region stuffing turkey all over with oil
Preparation time-two days and seasonings. Truss
Stuffing ingredients bird and put in bag on top
of vegetables. Pour
1 lb each of beef, pork, and veal
lemon juice and wine
6 cloves garlic, chopped fine over top of bird. Salt and
1 cup celery, chopped pepper to taste. Use
1 cup onions or shallots, chopped twist-tie to close bag.
½ cup chicken livers, finely Refrigerate over night. Preheat oven Add remaining ingredients (except
chopped to 3750 and cook for 5 hours. Turkey mussels and shrimp) and the reserved
1 cup parsley, chopped should read 180 degrees on meat fish stock Bring to a boil, reduce heat
thermometer. Delicious! and simmer soup until the beans and
¼ lb of butter
rice are tender. Add the mussels and
Directions Seafood Minestrone Soup the shrimp; remove from heat immedi-
While meat is cold mix in garlic, celery, Yield 2 quarts ately. Serve in heated bowls and gar-
onions, livers and parsley. In a pan, Ingredients nish with ½ tsp of pesto
sauté mixture in butter. Let cool.
½ cup white wine
Refrigerate overnight
16 mussels, cleaned Individual Apple Cobbler
Servings-2
Ingredients 1 ½ quart fish stock
Ingredients
4 stale hamburger rolls or 6 pieces 2 tsps olive oil
2 cups sliced peeled tart apples
of stale bread 2 slices bacon, chopped
3 tbsps brown sugar
2 cups locatelli or Romano 1 tbsp garlic, minced 1 tsp lemon juice
cheese, grated 6 oz leeks, small-diced
¼ tsp ground cinnamon
4 eggs, beaten 4 oz onion, small-diced 1/3 cup flour
¼ tsp salt 2 oz celery, small-diced 1 tbsps sugar
½ tsp black pepper ½ tsp salt
Directions 1 tsp baking powder
2 oz tomato paste
Add last four ingredients to meat mix; 3 tbsps milk
½ tsp rosemary leaves
salt and pepper to taste. Set aside 2 tbsps butter, melted
1/8 teaspoon thyme
Half and half, optional
Turkey ingredients 1 bay leaf Directions
12 lb turkey 1 slice lemon Gently toss apples, brown sugar,
1 large foil pan 2 oz dried kidney beans, soaked lemon juice and cinnamon. Divide
1 Reynolds roasting bag 4 oz Arborio rice between two increased 10oz . custard
cups. In a bowl, combine flour, sugar
½ stalk of celery, diced 1½ cups tomatoes, chopped
and baking powder, stir in milk and
1 small bag of carrots, diced 3 oz shrimp, cleaned, cooked butter just until moistened. Spoon over
1 cup shallots, chopped and chopped apples. Serve with cream if desired
1 cup all-purpose flour ½ tsp of pesto
meat mixture Directions Mock Champagne Punch
Heat wine, on high heat in sauce pan Ingredients
1 cup olive oil Add mussels, cover pan and steam 1 qt white grape juice
10 cloves garlic, finely chopped the mussels just until the shells open.
1 qt ginger ale
½ cup basil leaves, dried Remove the mussels from the shells;
reserve them. Strain the liquid Strawberries, optional
½ cup rosemary
through cheesecloth. Add enough Raspberries, optional
½ cup crushed black pepper
fish stock to equal 2 quarts; reserve Directions
1 cup basil leaves, finely chopped
the liquid and cool. Heat the oil in a Mi x white grape juice and ginger ale.
½ cup kosher salt soup pot, add bacon till it is limp and Top with strawberries or raspberries.
1 ½ cups lemon juice transparent (do not brown). Add gar- Four a little more fun add 1 cup Cap-
1 ½ cups dry white wine lic, leeks, onions, celery, and salt; tain Morgan
sauté. Add tomatoes paste; sauté. —-Joe Di Cindio is an RP C me mber
salt and pepper, to taste
RECIPES 9
Bob’s FEBRUARY
Sweet and Sour Dressing
seasonal Ingredients
kitchen 1/3 cup canola oil (Wesson)
2/3 cup cider vinegar
Winter ½ cup sugar MARCH
by Robert Baile y New England Corn Pudding
½ tsp paprika Preheat oven at 350 0
2 tbsp water
JANUARY 1 tsp salt Ingredients
Sweet Potato Casserole 1 can cream corn
serves 6 – 8 Directions 1 can whole kernel corn (drained)
Preheat oven at 350 0 Place oil in a container with a good
3 eggs beaten
seal. Over medium heat, dissolve
vinegar and sugar in a pan, continu- ½ cup sour cream
Ingredients
ally whisking until sugar dissolves — ½ cup melted butter
8 potatoes, unpeeled
DO NOT BOIL. Then set aside. Add 1 box Jiffy Corn Muffin Mix (8.5oz)
1 cup heavy cream the last three ingredients —paprika, Grated sharp cheddar cheese
1 cup cheddar cheese water and salt—, whisking well to
salt and pepper, to taste incorporate. Pour mixture into con- Directions
paprika tainer with oil. Shake well to com- Combine first five ingredients together
bine. To vary, add citrus zest, such and mix well. A corn muffin mix and
Directions as orange, lemon, or lime. This may mix till well blended. Butter your cas-
Boil potatoes with skins on. Cool, then depend on what you are serving with serole dish. A 12‖x 13‖x 4‖ would be
grate into buttered casserole dish. Put your salad. If you are a diabetic you good. Pour batter into dish, then top
heavy cream over potatoes. Sprinkle can use a with grated sharp cheddar cheese.
with salt, pepper and paprika. Top with sugar Bake for 30-40 minutes or until cake
grated cheddar cheese. Bake at 3500 substi- tester comes out clean .
one hour. tute, such
as —Rob ert Bailey is an RPC me mber
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