Rohan Music

Thanks for the comment. You are right in what you say, I've read a lot of Chilton Pearse and other authors on child brain/body dovelopment so I know what your talking about, and about social behavioural modification etc. It is indeed possible to modify even such deep-seated behavioral disfuction as bullying, but this article is aimed at the victim, rather than being a psychological analasis of the bully, and how to "retrain" him. There are many articles that do that, and well. Perhaps I phrased the introduction wrong. My point in this article is to show that it's not "your" (the victim's) responsibily to try to change a bully, and given that most people are not psychologists, behavioral thearapists or psychotheaparists it is most likely that not only will they fail to "change" the bully, they could well make things alot worse for themselves. The big missinterpretation with bullying is that the bully is just a normal person who if simply told not to bully, or if confronted by their victims will see the error of their ways and reform. But bullying is a much more complicated psychological issue that traces back (as you rightly said) to touch as a child and perhaps bullying within their own family. The main points of this article are: Bullying is a more complex issue than most think, it is not the victims resposibility to "stand up for themselves" as this often results in even more problems for the victim, and of course some simple ways of dealing with bullying on a personal level. The article is aimed at the individual, rather than looking at bullying from a top down social perspective. I do understand what your saying, in fact if I'd writing something like: "Bullying as a behavioral disfunction can be modified, but only through psychological/behavioral thearapy and a true wish and willingness on the bullies part to change. Neither of which are your responsibilities as the victim", if I'd written that then do you think the article would have been a little more well rounded? The article is designed to give enough information to survive in a bully situiation, rather than how to "solve" the problem. Perhaps I have over simplified the the subject for the sake of the "self help" aspect of the article. Anyway, thanks for your insight, I'm still new to writing these kinds of articles and appreciate all the help I can get! Rohan.

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Rohan, this article has a full load of factual information. However, your conclusion is in error. Your conclusion is based more on your personal experience and what you have gathered from research than on connected facts. Your facts do not logically result in your conclusion. Anything about human behaviour can be changed, either by external influences (reprogramming) or by internal force (self discipline). Bullies have all the characteristics you mentioned (and explained very well). However, you neglected to note that social skills (what they most lack from your list) may be learned. More importantly, bullies chronically have a deficiency in human touch, usually beginning with a lack of sufficient touch from their mothers and (to a lesser extent) from their fathers. Touch is a basic human need, no less important than the need to eat or sleep. Without understanding this basic need for touch and including it into your matrix, you can't reach a conclusion that can be supported by the facts. I have a Scribd article (or three) that discusses this subject at greater length, but my book tells even more. See: http://www.scribd.com/doc/1968/Prejud... http://www.scribd.com/doc/170004/What... This is a well written article despite my quibble with its negative conclusion.

yankeeinparadise

Most Excellent. You hit it right on the head. Thanks