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Arranged marriage ( argumentative essay)

Arranged marriage ( argumentative essay)

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1Arranged MarriageThe Real Benefits of Arranged Marriage Compared to Love MarriageAimi Aqilah Mohd ZulkifliPurdue University
 
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 Arranged MarriageThe Real Benefits of Arranged Marriage Compared to Love MarriageArranged marriage may sound strange in the United States as it is impractical in this country.According to Gagoomal (
2009),
Arranged marriage is broadly defined as unions in which people otherthan the bride and groom
,
typically parents or other family members
,
play important or decisive roles indetermining who marries whom(p. 5
90)
. Many people assume that an arranged marriage will fail whenthe potential spouse is an awful match; the mate that was arranged might not achieve our satisfactionand the marriage will end up with divorce and disappointment. When I was fifteen years old
,
my sistermarried a man chosen by my parents. After a year
,
my sisters marriage ended in divorce. Since then
,
Ibelieved that arranged marriage is a bad choice. However
,
after I did some research and hadinterviewed with one of the professors in Purdue University
,
I found that an arranged marriage hasmore advantages than disadvantages. Now I strongly believe that the arranged marriage is a goodchoice and beneficial because an arranged marriage is believed to guarantee a mate for us
,
more stablecompared to a love marriage in terms of love
,
and leads to perpetual happiness.First and foremost
,
the obvious benefit of arranged marriage compared to love marriage is itguarantees a mate for us. According to Dr Gecas
,
who is one of the lecturers in Sociology Department of Purdue University
,
it is difficult to find a mate nowadays especially in the United States because peopleare very busy with their work and have no time to find life partner (personal communication
,
October
28,
 
20
1
0)
. This is due to the job prospect as many countries are rapidly developing. People tend tostruggle to ensure their stable economic status in the future thus it is difficult for them to find a mate ontheir own. Meanwhile
,
in arranged marriage
,
the future spouse will be selected by parents and indeed
,
 the selection will be based on the compatibility of both adult children (Gagoomal
,
 
2009,
p. 5
92)
. Ibelieve by practicing arranged marriage
,
the incompatibility between the spouses can be reduced. Thisis due to the fact that in arranged marriage
,
the parents will find a potential partner for their adult
 
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 Arranged Marriagechildren based on several criteria which are suitable to the adult children for instance same religion andsame caste. Hence
,
it is very practical to choose arranged marriage to find a mate because it is not onlyguaranteeing us a mate
,
but also a suitable mate for us.In addition
,
arranged marriage is a good practice because it is more stable than love marriage interms of love and happiness. Dr Gecas concedes that as in arranged marriages
,
love is not the priority sothis makes the marriage to become more stable unless it is just a horrible match. He also claims If themain reason of marriage and for keeping the marriage is love
,
thats not really a solid reason becauselove is going to decline
,
 (personal communication
,
October
28,
 
20
1
0)
. After a few years
,
the marriagethat is based on love will be boring as the love slowly fades day by day. Due to that
,
the couple mightend up with suffering and divorce. As in the article entitle Mate Selection and Marriage Aroundthe World
,
Insgoldby presents some major reasons of arranged marriage which are
,
social status of thefamily
,
mate selection that carried on from generation to generation and spouse replacement by closerelatives (Insgoldby
,
 
2000)
. Hence
,
this shows that in an arranged marriage
,
the couple will not expectanything from the partner instead give a full commitment to adjust themselves with their partner.Furthermore
,
world divorce statistic illustrates that India records the lowest rate of divorce which is1.1% compared to the other countries such as Sweden which records 54% of divorce rate (American ForDivorce Reform
,
 
2002)
. As arranged marriage is a common practice in Indian culture but it is impracticalin Western countries
,
the practice of arranged marriage may becomes one of the factors that contributeto this significant statistic. Based on Dr Gecass argument and the divorce rate statistic
,
we can see thatby practicing arranged marriage
,
we can avoid marriage failure. Therefore
,
these prove that arrangedmarriage is more stable than love marriage.

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