3 just something for alcoholics. But let me tell you - we are all in need of recovery. The Bible tellsus that we have all fallen, so we are all in need of recovery.I’m going to use the word
as an acronym for eight principles that are used inour Celebrate Recovery Small Group that meets on Tuesday nights. Each week we’ll look at oneof the principles. Today we are looking at the
in recovery. R stands for Realize…
RealizeI’m not God.
The first principle tells us that when you realize that you are not God you
admit that you are powerless to control your tendency todo the wrong thing …
What it’s telling us is that our problem is that we like to Play God.
Now, your first reactionis probably, “
What do you mean? I don’t play God”.
But we DO play God when we try tosolve our problems with our own power.Let me give you a few examples of what I mean byplaying God:
We play God when we try to control our image
.Some people hide their hurt behind a happy face. They may be dying inside but they do theirbest to put on a good front. Others work long and hard at buying the right clothes and applyingthe right make up to at least
good, even if they don’t
good. One man told me that hedressed in black and wore a fumanchu mustache to look tough even though he said he was scaredto death inside.
We play God when we try to control our environment
.Have you ever met a person whose life is a mess but their closets were immaculate? Every shirtis facing the same way. All the shoes are lined up perpendicular to the wall. Why is that?Because, their life may be a mess but if they can at least control their closet then they don’t feellike
We play God when we try to control other people.
Sometimes we don’t stop at controlling our closets. We have to control everyone around us.You see, we think they are the problem – their behavior is what’s wrong. If they just acted right,we wouldn’t get upset. But the truth is, WE are the problem. We’ve got the issue. We just don’tsee it or want to admit it.
We play God when we try to control our problems
.We do this by minimizing our problems – acting like they aren’t serious. When my father wasalive, I considered him an alcoholic. He’d never admit that. He might admit that he drank toomuch at times. But in his mind, alcoholics drank all day and all night. Alcoholics lost their jobsand weren’t responsible. My dad limited his drinking to the hour before supper. That made himthink he was in control. But he drank so much in that hour that he would often lose control forthe entire night.
We play God when we try to control our pain.
Some people control their pain with illegal drugs or alcohol. And some of us do it by starvingourselves, or by overeating or binging and purging. Still others do it by cutting themselves oreven beating themselves. Isn’t it ironic that we
pain in a desperate attempt to
Everything that I’ve just described is an issue that I talk to people about on a regular basis.These things aren’t the exception - They are the norm. And this is how we play God.