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Counting Petals

Counting Petals

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Published by Pauldine France
Do they love me or love me not? Pluck, pull and watch a false sense of fortune-telling slowly fall to the ground.SNAP OUT OF IT...Below, I've complied a general list based on several conversations I've had with both male and female friends (varying ages, sexual orientation, social status, race, religion) on how to tell if someone really likes you sincerely, or NOT
Do they love me or love me not? Pluck, pull and watch a false sense of fortune-telling slowly fall to the ground.SNAP OUT OF IT...Below, I've complied a general list based on several conversations I've had with both male and female friends (varying ages, sexual orientation, social status, race, religion) on how to tell if someone really likes you sincerely, or NOT

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Counting Petals - Is the feeling real?By Pauldine FranceCounting Petals - Is the feeling real?By Pauldine FranceDo they love me or love me not? Pluck, pull and watch a false sense of fortune-telling slowly fall tothe ground.SNAP OUT OF IT...Forget psychics, your horoscope, and what the "others" say. They don't know much more than youdo. Hell, you can even forget what I say (written)......but answering the first question should comefrom your gut. What's the gut? It's your instinct. That's little voice inside of you that says "this isgood" and "watch out!" that we sometimes ignore to give into other "talking" parts. How do I knowif its telling me the truth? You don't. That's the gamble in life, love, and human interactions ingeneral. We have to take the leap, but a calculated one. Below, I've complied a general list based onseveral conversations I've had with both male and female friends (varying ages, sexual orientation,social status, race, religion) on how to tell if someone really likes you sincerely, or NOT. Since I,too, have a 50% chance of getting confused between my gut instincts and my hopes, I was happy torealize that no matter how much you think you know, there is always more to learn.Consider below a list of modern day cues, challenged myths and harmless tests in the search for truefeelings. They broken down into categories of "LIKES YOU", "NOT" and WOFT (Watch Out For Thorns). Specific exceptions may follow some of these points indicated by "BUT" (couldn't think of any floral references for this word). As you read, you'll get it. I'm sure the A.D.D is kicking inalready...
DISCLAIMER 
: a) This list in non-exclusive. There are several other thoughts, suggestions and tipsI didn't include so don't write me telling me "you forgot to say blah blah". I'm not writing a novelhere. b) Just because this list clarifies your questions doesn't mean that they aren't subject to change.Love/Like are emotions and emotions are constantly evolving. Only apply these points, to your situation as it stands now, immediate future or in recent past.
1.
Meeting the parents
. WOFT. First of all if they live at home, then you kindda have to meettheir parents anyway so that negates any voluntary intention. Back in the days, meeting parents were the ultimate approval step. Now? I've heard of parents having breakfast with a1 night stand. Observe to see if they may have one of those "modern" families where theyknow about everything and everyone because they have an open-minded mentally. If theysay, "Hope you stick around long"...then run.
2.
Meeting the best friends
. WOFT. This means nothing. Their friends may be the sweetestand coolest people but they may just actually be just that...cool. Their interest is their friend's best interest. If their friend's interest is you on a temporary basis, they'll be cool withit. Don't just start exchanging numbers off the bat and trying too hard to make them like you.
 BUT 
if all of their friends are coupled up every time you hang out, this may mean somethingdifferent. Let your gut tell you if they're just using you to not feel left out though.
3.
Friend in Need
. LIKES YOU. They are and want to be there for you even when you don'task for help...not in a "I have nothing better to do" or "I need a hobby" way. They just wantto contribute to making things within their capacity, easier for you, without anything inreturn. For example, you've been working long hours and didn't have time to get food earlier (but you can now), but they still make you dinner or get some for you. Another example,you are stuck at an appointment and need to get stamps before the post office closes.Without needing to ask, they volunteer to get you some and drop them off at your place after 
 
Counting Petals - Is the feeling real?By Pauldine Francework.
 BUT 
if they ask you to get naked after helping, every time, or now have a list of favors to ask you all of the time...beware.
4.
Overly Jealous
. NOT. Most people would say that the jealousy is the sign of someone that just can't bare the thought of losing them. This is not true. Overly jealous people areinsecure, possessive, control-freaks, and extremely attention hungry. Someone can not careabout you at all and still be jealous! That's because they feel you are their bone (canineanalogy) until they are done with you...and EVEN THEN can still want claim on you. Thereare people who date several people at once and still want each persons' undivided loyalty!Remember, this is a character flaw and most likely will never change so you have to figureout if this is something you can handle giving your personality, lifestyle and habits.
 BUT 
, if the jealousy is subtle, quiet, passive and infrequent, then this is a good sign. A little rational jealousy is good. Keeps the other person on their toes and can be an indication that theydemand a standard of respect in the relationship. This is very healthy so be understanding.
5.
Staring
. LIKES YOU. You catch them staring at you once in a while with a subtle smile ontheir face while you are speaking to others. You are being admired. Relish it. This personfinds the simple things you do, your sweat after the gym, and messy hair in the morning -refreshing. This is nice.
 BUT 
don't confuse the "wow I'm impressed" stare with the dead on"if we were alone, I would put you in pain for days" stare. The latter can be good idea (notto mention needed once in a while), but good doesn't mean sincere feelings. It may justmean the sexual chemistry is explosive and the true feeling is but a lit match.
6.
You are better than the ex
. I say NOT! Someone that keeps comparing you to their ex issomeone that has baggage. Yes, they can reference the ex as a base for comparison from afresh break up, occasionally. But there are the people, that still have ex's pics everywhere(phone, online, home, etc), complains about them, find excuses to talk about them all of thetime, and tells you how much better you are........move on. They need a therapist.
 BUT 
if hisclosest friend or parents mention it once, that's a huge plus. You ARE doing somethinggood. Pat yourself on the back and continue the good work.
7.
Extended Cuddling and Sniffing
. LIKES YOU. After sex and its still relatively early, theywant to pull you closer and hold you all night. They hear/feel them smelling your hair andneck. They just want you close because it makes them feel good. They feel comfortable.This may even occur even when sex isn't involved like at the movies, on a walk through themall, or at a family barbecue. Don't act like a jerk and coy by asking why they are doingthat. You know why. Just let them do it subtly
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8.
Relatively Expensive, Hard to Get, or highly Creative Gifts
. WOFT. If you are gettingwhat you consider very expensive gifts (what most likely you can't get for yourself usually)...this can go either way. Some people learned growing up and/or believe thatrespect and loyalty are bought. Those people also believe that everyone has a price. Theonly good news here is you find out what they think yours is (this may boost confidence or hurt a lot). Examples, multi-millionaire buys you a pair of shoes and a few trinkets....you are priced low. Hotel manager buys tickets to the sold out golf tournaments that you've beendying to go to by combing the internet for weeks...you are priced high. Recent collegegraduate surprises you by buying oils to give you a personal "spa" afternoon and makes their specialty that takes 2 hours to make.......priced very high. Everything is relative. It dependson person, what the gift is and MORE IMPORTANTLY what thought went into the gift,whether $5 at McDonalds because they know you are hungry LOVE the burgers and friesOR a stunning diamond watch just because it would look great on you. Someone that likesyou for real wants it to be just perfect. Its your happiness they want, not just an easy way to brownie points or to boost their own egos.
9.
Anytime, Anyplace
. LIKES YOU. Example, you are at the hottest party of the year, start tofeel tired and say let's go, they just say "ok" or finish their drink , start gathering their things,and initiate their goodbyes. They don't say " not yet..I can't leave my friends"; or "I'm going

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