How To Succeed In Biblical Christian Marriage

How to avoid failure in Biblical Christian Marriage.

"Divorce rates among people who identified themselves as "born-again
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I. Ten Keys to Marital Success for the Husband
II. Nine Keys to Marital Success for the Wife

THIS POST CONTAINS "R" RATED EXPLICIT AND ADULT BIBLE SCRIPTURES
ABOUT HUMAN INTIMACY AND IF SUCH SCRIPTURES OFFEND OR UPSET YOU,
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I. Eight Keys to Marital Success in Biblical Christian marriage for the

Husband:

[I.1] Since it is naturally and normally impossible for the man to be a godly
husband in Biblical Christian marriage on his own and by his own efforts
(John 15:1-5), to become a godly husband in Biblical Christian marriage the
man must {1} hear the Word of God (Romans 10); {2} receive into his
heart and soul the Word of God and come to believe Jesus and His Word,
and trust in and rely on and ask Jesus Christ alone to save him from all of his
sins (John 1:12;3:16; 1 John 5:13) and make him compatible with the Father
so he can be in His Heaven.
******Joh 15:4 Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch CANNOT BEAR FRUIT
OF ITSELF, except it abide in the vine; so NEITHER CAN YOU, EXCEPT THAT
YOU ABIDE IN ME. 5 I am the Vine, you [are] the branches. He who abides in
Me, and I in him, the same brings forth much fruit; FOR WITHOUT ME YOU
CAN DO NOTHING
***Joh 5:19 Then Jesus answered and said to them, Truly, truly, I say to you,
the Son can do nothing of Himself but what He sees the Father do. For
whatever things He does, these also the Son does likewise. . . . :30 I CAN DO
NOTHING OF MY OWN SELF. As I hear, I judge, and My judgment is just,
because I do not seek My own will, but the will of [the] Father who has sent
Me.
***John 1:12But to as many as did receive and welcome Him, He gave the
authority (power, privilege, right) to become the children of God, that is, to
those who believe in (adhere to, trust in, and rely on) His name-- . . . 3:16For
God so greatly loved and dearly prized the world that He [even] gave up His
only begotten (unique) Son, so that whoever believes in (trusts in, clings to,
relies on) Him shall not perish (come to destruction, be lost) but have eternal
(everlasting) Life. from AmpB
***1 John 5:13I write this to you who believe in (adhere to, trust in, and rely
on) the Name of the Son of God [His character and nature], so that you may
know [with settled and absolute knowledge] that you [already] have Life,
yes, eternal Life. from AmpB

[I.2] As a result of receiving and accepting Jesus as his own Lord, Master,
King, Savior and Deliverer; he is born again from above by the Spirit of God
and is then indwelt by the Holy Spirit of God (1 Cor 6; Romans 8:1-10). The
Holy Spirit of God works and wills in him to both will to do and actually do
God's work and will (Phil 2:13; 4:13; Gala 2:20; Heb 13:20,21). The Holy
Spirit works and wills in him to obey Jesus' Word and this obedience becomes
his "birthmark", the "fruit" and "works" of the Spirit being the proof in his life
that he genuinely is a child of God (John 14:15,21; Ephes 2:8-10; Gala 5;
Titus 3:5-8; James 2; 1 John 2:3-5; 3:6-10)
***Ephes 2:8For it is by free grace (God's unmerited kindness) that you are
saved (delivered from judgment and made partakers of Christ's salvation)
through [your] faith. And this [salvation] is not of yourselves [of your own
doing, it came not through your own striving], but it is the gift of God; 9Not
because of [ your] works [not the fulfillment of the Law's demands], lest any
man should boast. 10For we are God's [own] handiwork (His
workmanship), recreated in Christ Jesus, [born anew] that we may do those
good works which God predestined (planned beforehand) for us, that we
should walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made
ready for us to live].
***1 Cor 6:19 Do you not know that your body is the temple (the very
sanctuary) of the Holy Spirit Who lives within you, Whom you have received
[as a Gift] from God? You are not your own, 20 You were bought with a price
[purchased with a preciousness and paid for, made His own]. So then, honor
God and bring glory to Him in your body. AmpB
***Romans 8:9But you are not living the life of the flesh, you are living the
life of the Spirit, if the [Holy] Spirit of God [really] dwells within you [directs
and controls you]. But if anyone does not possess the [Holy] Spirit of Christ,
he is none of His [he does not belong to Christ, is not truly a child of God].
10But if Christ lives in you, [then although] your [natural] body is dead by
reason of sin and guilt, the spirit is alive because of [the] righteousness [that
He imputes to you]. 11And if the Spirit of Him Who raised up Jesus from the
dead dwells in you, [then] He Who raised up Christ Jesus from the dead will
also restore to life your mortal (short-lived, perishable) bodies through His
Spirit Who dwells in you. AmpB
***Phil 2: 13[Not in your own strength] for it is God Who is all the while
effectually at work in you [energizing and creating in you the power and
desire], both to will and to work for His good pleasure and satisfaction and
delight. . . . 4:13I have strength for all things in Christ Who empowers me [I
am ready for anything and equal to anything through Him Who infuses inner
strength into me; I am self-sufficient in Christ's sufficiency]. AmpB
***Hebrews 13:20Now may the God of peace . . . 21Strengthen (complete,
perfect) and make you what you ought to be and equip you with everything
good that you may carry out His will; [while He Himself] works in you and
accomplishes that which is pleasing in His sight, through Jesus Christ (the
Messiah); to Whom be the glory forever and ever (to the ages of the ages).
Amen (so be it).
***John 14:15If you [really] love Me, you will keep (obey) My commands.. . .
21The person who has My commands and keeps them is the one who [really]
loves Me; and whoever [really] loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I
[too] will love him and will show (reveal, manifest) Myself to him. [I will let
Myself be clearly seen by him and make Myself real to him.]
***1 John 2:3And this is how we may discern [daily, by experience] that we
are coming to know Him [to perceive, recognize, understand, and become
better acquainted with Him]: if we keep (bear in mind, observe, practice) His
teachings (precepts, commandments). 4Whoever says, "I know Him" [I
perceive, recognize, understand, and am acquainted with Him] but fails to
keep and obey His commandments (teachings) is a liar, and the Truth [of the
Gospel] is not in him. 5But he who keeps (treasures) His Word [who bears in
mind His precepts, who observes His message], truly in him has the love of
and for God been perfected (completed, reached maturity). By this we may
perceive (know, recognize, and be sure) that we are in Him: 6Whoever says
he abides in Him ought to walk and conduct himself in the same way in
which He walked and conducted Himself. . . . 18 . . . even now many
antichrists have risen up, from which we know that it is the last hour. 19
They went out from us, but they were not of us; for if they were of us, they
would have continued with us. But [they went out] so that it might be
revealed that they were not all of us. . . . 3:6 No one who lives in Him
[deliberately and knowingly] keeps on doing sin. No one who [deliberately
and knowingly] continues to do a sin has either seen Him or known Him. 7
Little children, let no man deceive you: he that keeps on doing righteousness
is righteous, even as He is righteous. 8 He who [deliberately and knowingly]
continues to do sin is of the devil; for the devil keeps on sinning from the
beginning. . . . 9 Whosoever is born of God does not [deliberately and
knowingly] continue to do sin; for His seed remains in him: and he cannot
[deliberately and knowingly] keep on doing sin, because he is born of God.
10 In this the children of God are manifest, and the children of the devil:
whoever does not keep on doing righteousness is not of God, neither he who
is not loving his brother. . . 14 We know that we have passed from death to
life, because we keep on unselfishly and kindly Loving our brothers. Anyone
who does not continue to unselfishly and kindly Love his brother remains in
death. . . 24 And he who continues to GUARD, FULFILL, HOLD FAST AND
KEEP<5083> His commandment dwells in Him, and He in him. And by this
we know that He abides in us, by the Spirit which He gave to us.
***Hebrews 12: 5 And have you [completely] forgotten the divine word of
appeal and encouragement in which you are reasoned with and addressed as
sons? My son, do not think lightly or scorn to submit to the correction and
discipline of the Lord, nor lose courage and give up and faint when you are
reproved or corrected by Him; 6 For the Lord corrects and disciplines
everyone whom He loves, and He punishes, even scourges, every son whom
He accepts and welcomes to His heart and cherishes. 7 You must submit to
and endure [correction] for discipline; God is dealing with you as with sons.
For what son is there whom his father does not [thus] train and correct and
discipline? 8 Now if you are exempt from correction and left without
discipline in which all [of God's children] share, then you are illegitimate
offspring and not true sons [at all]. 9 Moreover, we have had earthly fathers
who disciplined us and we yielded [to them] and respected [them for training
us]. Shall we not much more cheerfully submit to the Father of spirits and so
[truly] live? 10 For [our earthly fathers] disciplined us for only a short period
of time and chastised us as seemed proper and good to them; but He
disciplines us for our certain good, that we may become sharers in His own
holiness. 11 For the time being no discipline brings joy, but seems grievous
and painful; but afterwards it yields a peaceable fruit of righteousness to
those who have been trained by it [a harvest of fruit which consists in
righteousness--in conformity to God's will in purpose, thought, and action,
resulting in right living and right standing with God]. AmpB
***1 Corinth 11:30 That [careless and unworthy participation] is the reason
many of you are weak and sickly, and quite enough of you have fallen into
the sleep of death. 31 For if we searchingly examined ourselves [detecting
our shortcomings and recognizing our own condition], we should not be
judged and penalty decreed [by the divine judgment]. 32 But when we [fall
short and] are judged by the Lord, we are disciplined and chastened, so that
we may not [finally] be condemned [to eternal punishment along] with the
world. AmpB

[I.3] Since both he and his wife were genuinely saved in Jesus and free in
the Kingdom of God to marry when they married, then the godly husband
chooses to abide, remain and stay with his own wife, being careful to NOT
forsake, leave, divorce or separate himself from his own wife as long as they
both live, which behavior would cause her to be tempted by Satan because
of her normal and natural inclination to fail to abstain from immorality when
wrongfully separated from her husband. He accepts the Word that shows
that sexual immorality or marital infidelity does not terminate a marriage,
but should result in Galatians 6:1; 2 Timothy 2:24-26; Matthew 18:15-17a; 1
Cor 5:1-5; (if there is no chastening - 1 Cor 11:30-32 - followed by genuine
repentance with godly sorrow - 2 Cor 7- and reconciliation - 2 Cor 2) then the
result is Matt 18:17b with 1 Corinth 7:12,13,15.
***1Cor 7: 2 but because of and to avoid immorality each man should be
[intimately] having his own woman, and each woman should be [intimately]
having her own man. 3 The husband should render unto the wife [the]
kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence and good will <Strong's 2133>
[that is] due, owed and obligated <Strong's 3784> ; and likewise also the
wife [should render the kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence and
good will that is due, owed and obligated] unto the husband. . . . 5 Do not
be denying each other [intimately], unless, it may be, by consent for a time,
that you may devote yourselves to fasting and prayer, and again be
conjugally cohabiting [intimately reuniting], that Satan tempt you not
because of your failure to control yourself. . . 10 I command the married —
not I, but the Lord—a [believing] wife is not to leave, depart or separate from
[Strong's 5563] her [believing] husband. 11a But if she does leave, depart,
and/or separate [Strong's 5563], she must remain unmarried or be
reconciled to her husband; —and a [believing] husband/man should not
forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send) away and/or divorce [Strongs 863] his
wife/woman. . . 39 A [believing] wife is bound to her husband by [God's] Law
as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to
anyone she wants—only in the Lord.
***Mat 5:32 But I tell you, everyone who divorces his wife, except in a case
of immorality/adultery, CAUSES her to commit ADULTERY. And whosoever
shall marry her when she is put away (sent away, left, divorced, forsaken)
commits adultery.

[I.4] He being genuinely saved and free to marry in the Kingdom of God
when he married his unsaved wife, or he becoming genuinely saved after he
married her as his unsaved wife. He accepts God's Word that declares {1} a
believing husband/man unlike the woman does not have the option of
celibate marital separation but in contrast should not forsake, lay aside,
leave, put or send away and/or divorce [Strongs 863] his wife/woman; {2}
that since he is genuinely saved, then he is maritally bound to the unsaved
in the Kingdom of God as long as she {3} is willing, consents, or would like
to keep on occupying a house, residing , cohabiting and/or dwelling [3611]
with him; or {4} has not left him, departed from him or separated herself
from him. The believing husband is free to marry another in the Lord and is
not legally, morally, maritally bound in such cases in the Kingdom of God if
the unsaved wife {1} no longer is willing, consents, or would like to keep on
occupying a house, residing , cohabiting and/or dwelling [3611] with him; or
{2} has left him, departed from him or separated herself from him.
***1Cor 7: 10 I command the married —not I, but the Lord— . . 11 . . . a
[believing] husband/man should not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send)
away and/or divorce [Strongs 863] his wife/woman. 12 But to the rest I, not
the Lord, say: If any brother has an unbelieving wife/woman, and she is
willing [consents, would like] to continue on occupying a house, reside ,
cohabiting^ and/or dwelling [3611]> with him, he must not forsake, lay
aside, leave, put (send) away, and/or remit [Strongs 863] her. 13 Also, if any
woman has an unbelieving husband/man, and he is willing [consents, would
like] to keep on occupying a house, residing , cohabiting^ and/or dwelling
[3611] with her, she must not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send) away,
and/or remit [Strongs 863] her husband/man [But if she does leave, depart,
and/or separate [Strong's 5563], she must remain unmarried or be
reconciled to her husband, v.11]. . . .15 But if the unbeliever leaves, departs
and/or separates himself [Strong's 5563], he should go
away/depart/separate/leave, [he should separate, make the separation]. A
brother or a sister is not [legally, morally, maritally] bound in such cases [in
the Kingdom of God]. God has called you to peace.

[I.5] Choose and do NOT fail to reverence, venerate and treat your wife with
deference. This reverence, venerate and deference DO NOT HAVE TO BE
EARNED, for they are commanded by God Almighty. A husband should
submit to the Word of God seen in her lifestyle, to Christ who lives in her,
and do for her what he would do for Christ (Matt 25:31-46). In Solomon's
Song of Songs the husband shows us that reverence, respect and veneration
of a wife takes the form of his regularly telling her what he appreciates and
likes about her and/or what she does, thanking her when she does
something he appreciates and respects..

***Eph 5:21 Submit yourselves to each other in the reverential fear and awe
<Strong's 5399> of Christ <Strong's 5399>: to fear (i.e. hesitate) to do
something (for fear of harm -weighing the consequences-); to reverence,
venerate, to treat with deference or reverential obedience
***1 Peter 2:16 As God's slaves, . . . . 17 Give respectful Honor to everyone.
Love those who are in Christ. Reverently fear God [for He is the Consuming
Fire]. Honor the Emperor. . . . submit yourselves to those in authority over
you with all respect, not only to the good and gentle but also to the cruel. . . .
21 For you were called to this,
because Christ also suffered for you,
leaving you an example [of godly suffering],
so that you should follow in His steps. . . .
23 when [He was] verbally abused,
He did not revile in return;
when suffering, He did not threaten,
but committed Himself to the One who judges justly. . . .
3:7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives intelligently in an understanding
and knowledgeable way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel,
since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may
not be hindered. [See Strong's, WEY, NASB, ESV, HCSB, AmpB, NKJV]

[I.6] Be diligently thoughtful to {a} Love her in the same way you love and
care for yourself; {b} nourish, cherish, provide and care for her; {c} and
call on and ask Father to work and will in you and so enable you to Love her
after the manner of 1 Cor 13^ with a Love that has long patience, is kind; is
not emulous/envious; is not insolent and rash, is not puffed up, does not
behave in an unseemly manner, does not seek its own, is not quickly
provoked, does not impute or take account of evil, does not rejoice at
iniquity/unrighteousness but rejoices with the truth; that patiently endures;
that always believes and hopes; that patiently remains, perseveres, and
abides; and that never drops away, never is driven out, never fails, falls
away or becomes ineffective.
***Ephes 5:25 Husbands, [patiently, kindly, humbly and unselfishly^] Love^
your wives, just as also Christ [patiently, kindly, humbly and unselfishly^]
Loved^ the church and gave Himself up for her, . . . 28 In the same way,
husbands should [patiently, kindly, humbly and unselfishly^] Love their
wives as their own bodies. He who [patiently, kindly, humbly and
unselfishly^] Loves his wife [patiently, kindly, humbly and unselfishly^]
Loves himself. 29 For no one ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes,
cherishes, provides and cares for it, just as Christ does for the church, 30
since we are members of His body. 31 For this reason a man will leave his
father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one
flesh. . . . 33 To sum up, each one of you is to [patiently, kindly, humbly and
unselfishly^] Love his wife [in the same way] as [he patiently, kindly, humbly
and unselfishly nourishes, cherishes, provides and cares for] himself, . . . [^
= 1 Cor 13; ~ = set apart for God's purposes; See Strong's, WEY, NASB, ESV,
HCSB, AmpB, NKJV]

[I.7] "Wash" her with the Word by teaching her the Word (even though she
might know the Word better than you), to wash "her feet" with the Word's
water when they get dirty from the sins of the day (even though your soul's
"feet" might be dirty), to identify her needs and problems and serve her by
helping her with them; and to be an example of godly living for her to follow
by speaking out for the desolate, the poor, the needy, the bereft, the
afflicted, the destitute; doing your best with God's enabling to obtain justice
for them, to rescue them and deliver them from the wicked.
***Ephes 5:25 Husbands, [patiently, kindly, humbly and unselfishly^] Love^
your wives, just as also Christ [patiently, kindly, humbly and unselfishly^]
Loved^ the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 to make her
holy/sanctified, cleansing her in the washing of water by the Word. 27 He did
this to present the church to Himself in glory and splendor, without spot or
wrinkle or any such thing, but holy and blameless. ^1 Cor 13
***Prov 31:8 Speak up for the speechless who have no voice, for the
justice of all who are dispossessed or appointed to die. 9 Speak up, judge
righteously, and defend and plead the cause of the poor, oppressed and
needy. HCSB
***Psalm 82:3Judge [justly] the poor and fatherless. Do justice to the afflicted
and destitute. 4 Rescue the poor and needy. Deliver them out of the hand of
the wicked.
***John 13:13 You call me the Teacher and the Lord, and you say well, for I
am. 14 If I therefore, the Lord and the Teacher, have washed your feet, you
also ought to wash one another’s feet; 15 for I have given you an example
that, as I have done to you, you should do also. 16 Verily, verily, I say to you,
The bondman is not greater than his Lord, nor the sent greater than he who
has sent him. 17 If you know these things, blessed are you if you do them.
***Gala 6:2 Bear one another’s burdens, and thus fulfil the law of the Christ.
***Luke 22:25 And He said to them, "The kings of the nations rule over them,
and they that exercise and have authority over them are called benefactors.
26 But ye shall not be so; but the greater among you should be as the
younger, and the leader or chief, as he that serves. 27 For which greater, he
that is sits to eat at table or he that serves? [Is it] not he that is sits to eat at
table? But I am in the midst of you as the one that serves.
***1 Peter 5:1 The elders among you I exhort, . . . 2 Tend the flock of God
which is among you, exercising the oversight, not of constraint, but willingly,
according to the will of God; . . . 3 neither as lording it over the charge
allotted to you, but making yourselves examples to the flock.
***Titus 2:1 But speak the things which befit the sound doctrine and
teaching: 2 that aged men be temperate, grave, sober-minded, discreet,
sound in faith, in Love^, in patience: . . . 6 the younger men likewise exhort
to be sober-minded and discreet: 7 in all things showing yourself an example
of good works; in your doctrine and teaching showing uncorruptness, gravity,
8 sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is opposed of the
contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of us.

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THIS POST CONTAINS "R" RATED SEXUALLY EXPLICIT AND ADULT BIBLE
SCRIPTURES ABOUT HUMAN SEXUALITY AND IF SUCH SCRIPTURES OFFEND
OR UPSET YOU, YOU SHOULD NOT READ IT

[I.8] Recognize that sex is not a priority for most women and so fail to make
your body pleasant and desirable to her, making it easier for her to respond
intimately as she should. Nothing like a dirty body, bad breath or body odor
to kill desire.
***Song of Songs 1:3 The fragrance of your anointing oil is intoxicating;
your name is perfumed oil poured out. No wonder young women adore you. .
. .13 My lover is to me a sachet of myrrh resting between my breasts. 14 My
love is a cluster of henna blossoms to me, in the vineyards of En-gedi.. . . 3:6
What is this coming up from the wilderness like columns of smoke, scented
with myrrh and frankincense from every fragrant and scented powder of the
merchant? 7 It is Solomon's royal traveling couch . . . [WIFE] 5:13 His cheeks
are like beds of spice, towers of perfume. His lips are lilies, dripping with
flowing myrrh. . . .16 His mouth is sweetness. He is absolutely desirable. . . .
[See NASB, ESV, HCSB, AmpB, NKJV]
***Psa 45:8All your garments smell of myrrh, and aloes, and cassia; Out of
ivory palaces stringed instruments have made you glad.

[I.9] Show your Love for Jesus by obeying the following Scriptures that
confirm that marriage is a sexual relationship, by regularly allowing your wife
to be sexually having you; by regularly rendering the kindness, intimate
marital duty, benevolence and good will that is due, owed and obligated unto
your wife; by regularly being satisfied/intoxicated/saturated with her breasts
and affectionate loving; by regularly accepting and acknowledging your
wife's sexual authority over your body; by accepting her sexually and
conjugally cohabiting with her:
***1 Cor 7:2 but because of and to avoid sexual immorality each man should
be [sexually] having his own woman, and each woman should be [sexually]
having her own man. 3 The husband should render unto the wife [the]
kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence and good will <Strong's 2133>
[that is] due, owed and obligated <Strong's 3784> ; and likewise also the
wife [should render the kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence and
good will that is due, owed and obligated] unto the husband.
***Prov. 5:18 Your [sexual] fountain should be blessed; and rejoice and be
glad with the wife of your youth. 19 . . . her breasts should
satisfy/intoxicate/saturate you at all times; you should be intoxicated
continually with her affectionate loving
***1 Cor 7:4. The woman doesn't have [sexual] authority over her own body,
but the husband [does]; in like manner also the man doesn't have [sexual]
authority over his own body, but the woman [does]. 5 Do not be denying
each other [sexually], unless, it may be, by consent for a time, that you may
devote yourselves to fasting and prayer, and again be conjugally cohabiting
[sexually reuniting], that Satan tempt you not because of your failure to
control yourself.

[I.10] Choose to reverence, venerate and treat her with deference; to live
with her intelligently with knowledge and understanding of her weaker body
and nature, so that your prayers won't be hindered and you won't suffer
God's chastening (1 Cor 11:30-32; Heb 12). Psychologist Doctor Harley in his
book, "His Needs Her Needs" documents that a woman's primary needs in
marriage are sincere affection, meaningful conversation, honesty and
openness, adequate financial support and commitment to family. Sex doesn't
even make it to the top five. For a woman, sex without affection is like
driving a car without enough engine oil. It doesn't work for long. Read the
Bible's Song of Songs/Solomon to see how it is done right. If any of these
needs are not met by the husband, the marriage has a significant problem.
***1 Peter2:16 As God's slaves, . . . . 17 Give respectful Honor to everyone.
Love those who are in Christ. Reverently fear God [for He is the Consuming
Fire]. Honor the Emperor. . . . submit yourselves to those in authority over
you with all respect, not only to the good and gentle but also to the cruel. . . .
21 For you were called to this,
because Christ also suffered for you,
leaving you an example [of godly suffering],
so that you should follow in His steps. . . .
23 when [He was] verbally abused,
He did not revile in return;
when suffering, He did not threaten,
but committed Himself to the One who judges justly. . . . 3:7 Husbands, IN
THE SAME WAY [like Jesus did in 1 Peter 2], live with your wives intelligently
with knowledge and understanding of their weaker nature/vessel, yet
showing them honor as co-heirs of the grace of Life, SO THAT YOUR PRAYERS
WILL NOT BE HINDERED.
[See Strong's, WEY, NASB, ESV, HCSB, AmpB, NKJV]

He can cause her to sin by failing to remember that his wife is the weaker
vessel, possibly a weak believer or of weak faith, and so failing to live with
her according to Romans 14. Marital applications are found in text in
[brackets].
***1 Accept anyone who is weak in faith, but don't argue about doubtful
[marital] issues - - - AS FOR the man [or wife] who is a weak believer,
welcome him [or her into your fellowship], but not to criticize his [or her]
opinions or pass judgment on his [or her] scruples or perplex him [or her]
with discussions [about controversial marital issues]. . . 10 But thou, why
judgest thou thy brother [or wife]? or again, thou, why dost thou make little
of thy brother [or marital partner]? For we shall all be placed before the
judgment-seat of God. 11For it is written, *I* live, saith [the] Lord, that to me
shall bow every knee, and every tongue shall confess to God. 12So then
each of us shall give an account concerning himself to God [in the matter of
harmless Biblical marital intimacy]. 13 We should no longer therefore judge
one another ; but judge ye this rather, not to put a [spiritual] stumbling-block
or a fall-trap before his brother [or his marital partner]. . . .15But if your
brother [or marital partner is being pained or his/her feelings hurt], [then]
you are no longer walking in LOVE. [You have ceased to be living and
conducting yourself by the standard of LOVE toward him/her.] Do not let
what you eat [or do in the matter of personal lberty] hurt or cause the ruin of
one for whom Christ died! 16Let not then your good be evil spoken of; . . .
19 So then we should pursue the things which tend to peace, and things
whereby one shall build up another. 20 For the sake of meat [or some act] do
not destroy the work of God. All things indeed [are] pure; but [it is] evil to
that man who eats [or does something] while stumbling [another spiritually
in doing so]. 21[It is] right not to eat meat, nor drink wine, nor [or do
something] in which thy brother [or wife spiritually] stumbles, or is offended,
or is weak. 22 Do you have faith [based on the Word of God [about
something]? Have [your faith about it ] to thyself before God [privately
and/or discretely]. Blessed [is] he who does not judge himself in what he
allows [in his personal liberty]. 23 But he that doubts [that it is right to do
this or that], if he eat [or does this or that], is condemned; because [his
behavior is] not of faith; but whatever [behavior is] not of faith [based on the
Word of God] is sin. 15:1 But we that are strong [in our faith and its liberty in
Christ], *we* ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please
ourselves [in controversial matters]. 2 Each one of us should please his
neighbour [or marital partner] with a view to what is good, to edification.
3For the Christ also did not please himself; . . . [From Darby and AMPB]
***1 Cor 11:17 Now in giving the following instruction I do not praise you,
since you come together not for the better but for the worse. 18 For, to begin
with, I hear that when you come together as a church there are divisions
among you, and in part I believe it. 19 There must, indeed, be factions
among you, so that the approved among you may be recognized. 20
Therefore when you come together in one place, it is not really to eat the
Lord's Supper. 21 For in eating, each one takes his own supper ahead of
others, and one person is hungry while another is drunk! 22 Don't you have
houses to eat and drink in? Or do you despise and look down on the church
of God and humiliate or embarrass or shame those who have nothing? . .
30That's why many of you are sick and weak and why a lot of others have
died. 31If we carefully judge ourselves, we won't be punished. 32But when
the Lord judges and punishes us, he does it to keep us from being
condemned with the rest of the world. [See CEV, WEY, NASB, ESV, HCSB,
AmpB, NKJV]

The marital application of this passage would go like this:

Now in giving the following instruction I do not praise you, since you come
together maritally not for the better but for the worse. For, to begin with, I
hear that when you come together as a couple there are divisions between
you, and in part I believe it. There must, indeed, be faction [disputes,
discords, strifes, conflicts, frictions, arguments, disagreements, quarreling,
wrangling, bickering, squabbling, disharmony, disunity] between you, so that
the one approved may be recognized. Therefore when you come together in
one place, it is not really to be godly in your marriage. For one takes or gets
what he/she wants with no thought or care for the other, so that one has and
takes and the other doesn't have or take. Why don't you act like that when
you are alone? Or do you despise and look down on your mate and humiliate
or embarrass or shame your mate who doesn't have what she wants/needs
while in front of her you please yourself with what you want/need? . . 1 Cor
11:30 "That's why many of you are sick and weak and why a lot of others
have died. 31 If we carefully judge ourselves, we won't be punished. 32 But
when the Lord judges and punishes us, he does it to keep us from being
condemned with the rest of the world."

If a wife's husband is sinning against her according to what is stated above,

she should do all of Matt 18:16,6,7; Gala 6:1; 2 Tim 2;24-26; 1 Cor 5:11; 2
Thess 3:6; and remember what the Word says about her being maritally
bound to him.

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II. Nine Keys to Marital Success for the Wife:

[II.1] Since it is naturally and normally impossible for the woman to be a

godly wife in Biblical Christian marriage on her own and by her own efforts
(John 15:1-5), to become a godly wife in Biblical Christian marriage the
woman must {1} hear the Word of God (Romans 10); {2} receive into her
heart and soul the Word of God and come to believe Jesus and His Word,
and trust in and rely on and ask Jesus Christ alone to save her from all of her
sins (John 1:12;3:16; 1 John 5:13) and make her compatible with the Father
so she can be in His Heaven.
******Joh 15:4 Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch CANNOT BEAR FRUIT
OF ITSELF, except it abide in the vine; so NEITHER CAN YOU, EXCEPT THAT
YOU ABIDE IN ME. 5 I am the Vine, you [are] the branches. He who abides in
Me, and I in him, the same brings forth much fruit; FOR WITHOUT ME YOU
CAN DO NOTHING
***Joh 5:19 Then Jesus answered and said to them, Truly, truly, I say to you,
the Son can do nothing of Himself but what He sees the Father do. For
whatever things He does, these also the Son does likewise. . . . :30 I CAN DO
NOTHING OF MY OWN SELF. As I hear, I judge, and My judgment is just,
because I do not seek My own will, but the will of [the] Father who has sent
Me.
***John 1:12But to as many as did receive and welcome Him, He gave the
authority (power, privilege, right) to become the children of God, that is, to
those who believe in (adhere to, trust in, and rely on) His name-- . . . 3:16For
God so greatly loved and dearly prized the world that He [even] gave up His
only begotten (unique) Son, so that whoever believes in (trusts in, clings to,
relies on) Him shall not perish (come to destruction, be lost) but have eternal
(everlasting) Life. from AmpB
***1 John 5:13I write this to you who believe in (adhere to, trust in, and rely
on) the Name of the Son of God [His character and nature], so that you may
know [with settled and absolute knowledge] that you [already] have Life,
yes, eternal Life. from AmpB

[II.2] As a result of receiving and accepting Jesus as her own Lord, Master,
King, Savior and Deliverer; she is born again from above by the Spirit of God
and is then indwelt by the Holy Spirit of God (1 Cor 6; Romans 8:1-10). The
Holy Spirit of God works and wills in her to both will to do and actually do
God's work and will (Phil 2:13; 4:13; Gala 2:20; Heb 13:20,21). The Holy
Spirit works and wills in her to obey Jesus' Word and this obedience becomes
her "birthmark", the "fruit" and "works" of the Spirit being the proof in her
life that she genuinely is a child of God (John 14:15,21; Ephes 2:8-10; Gala 5;
Titus 3:5-8; James 2; 1 John 2:3-5; 3:6-10).
***Ephes 2:8For it is by free grace (God's unmerited kindness) that you are
saved (delivered from judgment and made partakers of Christ's salvation)
through [your] faith. And this [salvation] is not of yourselves [of your own
doing, it came not through your own striving], but it is the gift of God; 9Not
because of [ your] works [not the fulfillment of the Law's demands], lest any
man should boast. 10For we are God's [own] handiwork (His
workmanship), recreated in Christ Jesus, [born anew] that we may do those
good works which God predestined (planned beforehand) for us, that we
should walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made
ready for us to live].
***1 Cor 6:19 Do you not know that your body is the temple (the very
sanctuary) of the Holy Spirit Who lives within you, Whom you have received
[as a Gift] from God? You are not your own, 20 You were bought with a price
[purchased with a preciousness and paid for, made His own]. So then, honor
God and bring glory to Him in your body. AmpB
***Romans 8:9 But you are not living the life of the flesh, you are living the
life of the Spirit, if the [Holy] Spirit of God [really] dwells within you [directs
and controls you]. But if anyone does not possess the [Holy] Spirit of Christ,
he is none of His [he does not belong to Christ, is not truly a child of God]. 10
But if Christ lives in you, [then although] your [natural] body is dead by
reason of sin and guilt, the spirit is alive because of [the] righteousness [that
He imputes to you]. 11And if the Spirit of Him Who raised up Jesus from the
dead dwells in you, [then] He Who raised up Christ Jesus from the dead will
also restore to life your mortal (short-lived, perishable) bodies through His
Spirit Who dwells in you. AmpB
***Phil 2: 13[Not in your own strength] for it is God Who is all the while
effectually at work in you [energizing and creating in you the power and
desire], both to will and to work for His good pleasure and satisfaction and
delight. . . . 4:13I have strength for all things in Christ Who empowers me [I
am ready for anything and equal to anything through Him Who infuses inner
strength into me; I am self-sufficient in Christ's sufficiency]. AmpB
***Hebrews 13:20Now may the God of peace . . . 21Strengthen (complete,
perfect) and make you what you ought to be and equip you with everything
good that you may carry out His will; [while He Himself] works in you and
accomplishes that which is pleasing in His sight, through Jesus Christ (the
Messiah); to Whom be the glory forever and ever (to the ages of the ages).
Amen (so be it).
***John 14:15If you [really] love Me, you will keep (obey) My commands.. . .
21The person who has My commands and keeps them is the one who [really]
loves Me; and whoever [really] loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I
[too] will love him and will show (reveal, manifest) Myself to him. [I will let
Myself be clearly seen by him and make Myself real to him.]
***1 John 2:3And this is how we may discern [daily, by experience] that we
are coming to know Him [to perceive, recognize, understand, and become
better acquainted with Him]: if we keep (bear in mind, observe, practice) His
teachings (precepts, commandments). 4Whoever says, "I know Him" [I
perceive, recognize, understand, and am acquainted with Him] but fails to
keep and obey His commandments (teachings) is a liar, and the Truth [of the
Gospel] is not in him. 5But he who keeps (treasures) His Word [who bears in
mind His precepts, who observes His message], truly in him has the love of
and for God been perfected (completed, reached maturity). By this we may
perceive (know, recognize, and be sure) that we are in Him: 6Whoever says
he abides in Him ought to walk and conduct himself in the same way in
which He walked and conducted Himself. . . . 18 . . . even now many
antichrists have risen up, from which we know that it is the last hour. 19
They went out from us, but they were not of us; for if they were of us, they
would have continued with us. But [they went out] so that it might be
revealed that they were not all of us. . . . 3:6 No one who lives in Him
[deliberately and knowingly] keeps on doing sin. No one who [deliberately
and knowingly] continues to do a sin has either seen Him or known Him. 7
Little children, let no man deceive you: he that keeps on doing righteousness
is righteous, even as He is righteous. 8 He who [deliberately and knowingly]
continues to do sin is of the devil; for the devil keeps on sinning from the
beginning. . . . 9 Whosoever is born of God does not [deliberately and
knowingly] continue to do sin; for His seed remains in him: and he cannot
[deliberately and knowingly] keep on doing sin, because he is born of God.
10 In this the children of God are manifest, and the children of the devil:
whoever does not keep on doing righteousness is not of God, neither he who
is not loving his brother. . . 14 We know that we have passed from death to
life, because we keep on unselfishly and kindly Loving our brothers. Anyone
who does not continue to unselfishly and kindly Love his brother remains in
death. . . 24 And he who continues to GUARD, FULFILL, HOLD FAST AND
KEEP<5083> His commandment dwells in Him, and He in him. And by this
we know that He abides in us, by the Spirit which He gave to us.
***Hebrews 12: 5And have you [completely] forgotten the divine word of
appeal and encouragement in which you are reasoned with and addressed as
sons? My son, do not think lightly or scorn to submit to the correction and
discipline of the Lord, nor lose courage and give up and faint when you are
reproved or corrected by Him; 6For the Lord corrects and disciplines
everyone whom He loves, and He punishes, even scourges, every son whom
He accepts and welcomes to His heart and cherishes. 7You must submit to
and endure [correction] for discipline; God is dealing with you as with sons.
For what son is there whom his father does not [thus] train and correct and
discipline? 8Now if you are exempt from correction and left without
discipline in which all [of God's children] share, then you are illegitimate
offspring and not true sons [at all]. 9Moreover, we have had earthly fathers
who disciplined us and we yielded [to them] and respected [them for training
us]. Shall we not much more cheerfully submit to the Father of spirits and so
[truly] live? 10For [our earthly fathers] disciplined us for only a short period
of time and chastised us as seemed proper and good to them; but He
disciplines us for our certain good, that we may become sharers in His own
holiness. 11For the time being no discipline brings joy, but seems grievous
and painful; but afterwards it yields a peaceable fruit of righteousness to
those who have been trained by it [a harvest of fruit which consists in
righteousness--in conformity to God's will in purpose, thought, and action,
resulting in right living and right standing with God]. AmpB
***1 Corinth 11:30That [careless and unworthy participation] is the reason
many of you are weak and sickly, and quite enough of you have fallen into
the sleep of death. 31For if we searchingly examined ourselves [detecting
our shortcomings and recognizing our own condition], we should not be
judged and penalty decreed [by the divine judgment]. 32But when we [fall
short and] are judged by the Lord, we are disciplined and chastened, so that
we may not [finally] be condemned [to eternal punishment along] with the
world. AmpB

[II.3] She chooses to reverence, venerate, treat with deference and respect
(his primary need from his wife) her own marital partner, to voluntarily
submit herself to her husband and his God given authority, as she would
submit to the authority of the police, a judge or a supervisor at work. The
reverence, veneration and deference due the husband DO NOT HAVE TO BE
EARNED, for they are commanded by God Almighty. A wife should submit to
Christ who lives in him, and do for him what she would do for Christ (Matt
25:31-46). Psychologist Doctor Harley in his book, "His Needs Her Needs",
documents that the husband's greatest need in marriage is his wife's respect
and honor. In Solomon's Song of Songs the wife shows us that reverence,
respect and veneration of a husband takes the form of her regularly telling
him what she appreciates and likes about him and what he does, thanking
him when he does something she appreciates and respects..
***Rom 13:1Every person should submit [themselves] to the governing
authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist
have been instituted by God. 2Therefore whoever resists the authorities
resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment.
***Eph 5:21 Submit yourselves to each other in the reverential fear and awe
of Christ 22 A wife should be submitting herself to her own husband, as she
does to the Lord. 23 A husband is the head of his wife, as Christ is the head
and the Savior of the church, which is His own body. 24 But as the church
submits itself to Christ, so also wives should submit themselves in everything
to their husbands..33* Nevertheless every one of you in particular should so
love his wife even as himself; and the wife [should] see [to it] that she
reverence <5399> her husband.
<Strong's 5399>: to fear (i.e. hesitate) to do something (for fear of harm
-weighing the consequences-); to reverence, venerate, to treat with
deference or reverential obedience
***1 Peter 2:16 As God's slaves, [live] as free people, but don't use your
freedom as a way to conceal evil. 17 Give respectful Honor to everyone. Love
those who are in Christ. Reverently fear God [for He is the Consuming Fire].
Honor the Emperor. . . . submit yourselves to those in authority over you with
all respect, not only to the good and gentle but also to the cruel. . . . 21 For
you were called to this,
because Christ also suffered for you,
leaving you an example [of godly suffering],
so that you should follow in His steps. . . .
23 when [He was] verbally abused,
He did not revile in return;
when suffering, He did not threaten,
but committed Himself to the One who judges justly. . . . . . . . . .
3: 1 Wives, IN THE SAME WAY [like Jesus did], submit yourselves to your own
husbands . . . [See Strong's, WEY, NASB, ESV, HCSB, AmpB, NKJV]
***Psa 45:10Hear, O daughter, consider, submit, and consent to my
instruction: forget also your own people and your father's house; 11So will
the King desire your beauty; because He is your Lord, be submissive and
reverence and honor Him. . . . 10Hear, O daughter, consider, submit, and
consent to my instruction: forget also your own people and your father's
house; 11So will the King desire your beauty; because He is your Lord, be
submissive and reverence and honor Him. . . 16Instead of Your fathers shall
be Your sons, whom You will make princes in all the land.

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OR UPSET YOU, YOU SHOULD NOT READ IT

[II.4] she avoids choosing the second best option of separating herself
celibately from her genuinely saved husband, both of them being free to
marry in the Kingdom of God when they married. She avoids this second
best option because it sets him up to be tempted by Satan because of his
normal and natural inclination to failure to abstain from sex sin, putting him
under God's command to marry again even though he is still bound to her
maritally in the Kingdom of God. If she does separate herself she does it
celibately because she accepts God's Word that declares that since both she
and her husband were genuinely saved and free in Jesus to marry each other
when they married, then they are maritally bound to each other in the
Kingdom of God as long as both live. Se accepts the Word that shows that
sexual immorality or marital infidelity does not terminate a marriage, but
should result in Galatians 6:1; 2 Timothy 2:24-26; Matthew 18:15-17a; 1 Cor
5:1-5; (if there is no chastening - 1 Cor 11:30-32 - followed by genuine
repentance with godly sorrow - 2 Cor 7- and reconciliation - 2 Cor 2) then the
result is Matt 18:17b with 1 Corinth 7:12,13,15.

Psychologist Doctor Harley in his book, "His Needs Her Needs", documents
that the husband's second greatest need in marriage, no surprise, is fulfilling
sexual relations. A man's most vulnerable moments in marriage are during
and right after sexual climax with his wife. If respect, acceptance and
welcome are not there for him, the marriage has a significant problem,
especially if he can't find it at home and finds it outside of the marriage. A
wife who chooses to separate her self celibately denies to her husband God's
ordained way to avoid immorality (1 Cor 7:2), exposes him to Satan's
temptations (1 Cor 7:5), and if he fails to abstain from immorality, he comes
under God's command to marry again (1 Cor 7:2,8,9). If her separation from
him results in him succumbing to the predicted (1 Cor 7:2,5,9) temptations
and/or immorality, she has to live with the fact that she is still maritally
bound to him as long as they both live since there is not one Scripture in the
New Testament that declares that immorality terminates a marriage, but
should result in Matt 18:15-17; 1 Cor 5:1-5 or 7:2,8,9.
***1Cor 7: 2 but because of and to avoid immorality each man should be
[intimately] having his own woman, and each woman should be [intimately]
having her own man. . . 5 Do not be denying each other [sexually], unless, it
may be, by consent for a time, that you may devote yourselves to fasting
and prayer, and again be conjugally cohabiting [sexually reuniting], that
Satan tempt you not because of your failure to control yourself. . . . . . . 8 To
those without a marital partner and the widows (women bereft of a husband)
I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. 9 But if they are not
continuing to restrain themselves [are not abstaining from sex sin ], they
should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with desire. . . 10 I
command the married —not I, but the Lord—a [believing] wife is not to
leave, depart or separate from [Strong's 5563] her [believing] husband. 11a
But if she does leave, depart, and/or separate [Strong's 5563], she must
remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband . .
***Mat 5:32 . . . whosoever shall marry her when she is put away (sent
away, left, divorced, forsaken) commits adultery.
***1 Cor 7:11b—and a [believing] husband/man should not forsake, lay
aside, leave, put (send) away and/or divorce [Strongs 863] his wife/woman . .
. 39 A [believing] wife is bound to her husband by [God's] Law as long as he
lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to anyone she wants
—only in the Lord.
***Romans 7:1 Do you not know, brethren--for I am speaking to men who are
acquainted with the Law--that legal claims have power over a person only for
as long as he is alive? 2 For [instance] a married woman is bound by law to
her husband as long as he lives; but if her husband dies, she is loosed and
discharged from the law concerning her husband. 3 Accordingly, she will be
held an adulteress if she unites herself to another man while her husband
lives. But if her husband dies, the marriage law no longer is binding on her
[she is free from that law]; and if she unites herself to another man, she is
not an adulteress

[II.5] She avoids choosing the second best option of separating herself
celibately from her unsaved husband, she being genuinely saved and free to
marry in the Kingdom of God when she married her unsaved husband, or she
became genuinely saved after she married her unsaved husband. She
avoids this second best option because it sets him up to be tempted by
Satan because of his normal and natural inclination to failure to abstain from
sex sin. If she does separate herself she does it celibately because she
accepts God's Word that declares that since she is genuinely saved, then she
is maritally bound to the unsaved in the Kingdom of God as long as he {1} is
willing [consents, would like] to keep on occupying a house, residing ,
cohabiting and/or dwelling [3611] with her; or {2} has not left her, departed
from her or separated himself from her. The believing wife is free to marry
another in the Lord and is not legally, morally, maritally bound in such cases
in the Kingdom of God if the unsaved husband {1} no longer is willing
[consents, would like] to keep on occupying a house, residing , cohabiting
and/or dwelling [3611] with her; or {2} has left her, departed from her or
separated himself from her.
***1Cor 7: 10 I command the married —not I, but the Lord—a [believing]
wife is not to leave, depart or separate from [Strong's 5563] her [believing]
husband. 11 But if she does leave, depart, and/or separate [Strong's 5563],
she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband—and a
[believing] husband/man should not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send)
away and/or divorce [Strongs 863] his wife/woman. 12 But to the rest I, not
the Lord, say: If any brother has an unbelieving wife/woman, and she is
willing [consents, would like] to continue on occupying a house, reside ,
cohabiting^ and/or dwelling [3611]> with him, he must not forsake, lay
aside, leave, put (send) away, and/or remit [Strongs 863] her. 13 Also, if any
woman has an unbelieving husband/man, and he is willing [consents, would
like] to keep on occupying a house, residing , cohabiting^ and/or dwelling
[3611] with her, she must not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send) away,
and/or remit [Strongs 863] her husband/man [But if she does leave, depart,
and/or separate [Strong's 5563], she must remain unmarried or be
reconciled to her husband, v.11]. . . .15 But if the unbeliever leaves, departs
and/or separates himself [Strong's 5563], he should go
away/depart/separate/leave, [he should separate, make the separation]. A
brother or a sister is not [legally, morally, maritally] bound in such cases [in
the Kingdom of God]. God has called you to peace.

[II.6] She obeys the following Scriptures, by regularly allowing her husband
to be sexually having her; by regularly rendering the kindness, intimate
marital duty, benevolence and good will that is due, owed and obligated to
the husband; by regularly allowing her husband to regularly be
satisfied/intoxicated/saturated with her breasts and affectionate loving; by
regularly accepting and acknowledging her husband's sexual authority over
her body; by accepting him sexually and conjugally cohabiting with him:
***1 Cor 7:2 but because of and to avoid sexual immorality each man should
be [sexually] having his own woman, and each woman should be [sexually]
having her own man. 3 The husband should render unto the wife [the]
kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence and good will <Strong's 2133>
[that is] due, owed and obligated <Strong's 3784> ; and likewise also the
wife [should render the kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence and
good will that is due, owed and obligated] unto the husband.
***Prov. 5:18 Your [sexual] fountain should be blessed; and rejoice and be
glad with the wife of your youth. 19 . . . her breasts should
satisfy/intoxicate/saturate you at all times; you should be intoxicated
continually with her affectionate loving
***1 Cor 7:4. The woman doesn't have [sexual] authority over her own body,
but the husband [does]; in like manner also the man doesn't have [sexual]
authority over his own body, but the woman [does]. 5 Do not be denying
each other [sexually], unless, it may be, by consent for a time, that you may
devote yourselves to fasting and prayer, and again be conjugally cohabiting
[sexually reuniting], that Satan tempt you not because of your failure to
control yourself. [See Strong's, WEY, NASB, ESV, HCSB, AmpB, NKJV]

[II.7] She follows the examples given in the Bible to prepare herself and her
body for marital intimacy with her own husband:
***Esther 2:12 Before a girl's turn came to go in to King Xerxes, she had to
complete twelve months of beauty treatments prescribed for the women, six
months with oil of myrrh and six with perfumes and cosmetics.
****Song of Songs 2:14 My dove, in the clefts of the rock, in the crevices of
tthe cliff, let me see your face and form, let me hear your voice; for
your voice is sweet, and your face and form are lovely. . . .
y
[HUSBAND] 4:1Behold, you are beautiful, my love,
behold, you are beautiful [to me]! . . .
5 Your two breasts are like two fawns,
like twin fawns of a gazelle
that browse among the lilies.
6 Until the day breaks
and the shadows flee,
I will go to the mountain of myrrh [one of her breasts]
and to the hill of incense [her other breast ]. . . .
10How beautiful is your loving, my sister, my bride!
How much better is your loving than wine,
and the fragrance of your perfumes than any spice!
11Your lips drip nectar, my bride;
honey and milk are under your tongue;
the fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon. . . .
13 Your branches [arms and legs] are a paradise of pomegranates
 with choicest fruits,
henna with nard—
14 nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon,
with all the trees of frankincense,
myrrh and aloes,
with all the best spices [available at most supermarkets].
[WIFE]4:16 Awaken, north wind—
come, south wind.
Blow on my garden [her body],
and spread the fragrance of its spices.
My love should come to his garden [HER]
and eat its choicest fruits.
[HUSBAND] 5:1 I have come to my garden—my sister, my bride.
I gather my myrrh with my spices.
I eat my honeycomb with my honey.
I drink my wine with my milk. . . .
5 I rose to open for my love.
My hands dripped with myrrh,
my fingers with flowing myrrh . . .
7:8 I said, "I will climb the palm tree;
I will take hold of its fruit [her breasts]."
May your breasts be like the clusters of the vine,
the fragrance of your breath like apples,
9and your mouth like the best wine.. . .
[WIFE] 8:3 His left hand is under my head,
and his right hand embraces me. . . .
14 Come away, my lover,
and be like a gazelle
or like a young stag
on the spice-laden mountains [her breasts].
[See NASB, ESV, HCSB, AmpB, NKJV]

[II.8] She is not idle, mercilessly self-indulgent, dedicated to sensual

pleasure but is strong and dignified, speaking kindly and wisely, busy doing
what she is called to do, like feeding the hungry, finding shelter for the
homeless, clothing the unclothed, visiting and caring for the sick and/ or the
imprisoned (Matt 5:32-46; James 2:15,16); all the time doing good to others,
working willingly, getting up early in the morning, instructing those under her
authority, shopping and using money wisely (Prov 31).
***1 Tim 5:5 Now she that is a widow indeed, . . . has her hope set on
God, and continues in supplications and prayers night and day. . . . 10 well
reported of for good works; if she has brought up children, if she has
exercised hospitality to strangers, if she has washed the saints’ feet, if she
has imparted relief to the distressed, if she has diligently followed every
good work.
***Titus 2:3 that aged women likewise be reverent in demeanor, not
slanderers nor enslaved to much wine, teachers of that which is right and
good; 4 that they may admonish and train the young women to
affectionately love their husbands, to affectionally love their children, 5 to be
discreet, sober-minded, chaste, workers at home, kind, being in subjection to
their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed:
***1 Peter 3:2 having witnessed your pure conversation in respectful fear; 3
whose adorning let it not be that outward one of tressing or braiding of hair,
and wearing gold, or putting on apparel; 4 but the hidden man of the heart,
in the incorruptible of a meek and quiet spirit, which in the sight of God is of
great price. 5 For thus also the holy women who have hoped in God
heretofore adorned themselves, being subject to their own husbands; 6 as
Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord; whose children ye have become,
doing good, and are not put in fear by any terror.

[II.9] She honors and shows respect for her husband by obeying the Lord's
Word given through Paul in 1 Timothy 2 and 1 Corinthians 14:
***1 Cor 14:33 . . . As in all the churches of the saints, 34 the women/wives
[Strong's 1135] should be silent in the churches, for they are not permitted
to speak, but should subject themselves and be submissive, as the [Gen
3:16; Isaiah 28:11] Law also says. 35 And if they want to learn
something/anything, they should ask their own husbands at home, for it is
shameful, disgraceful and improper for a woman/wife to speak in the church
meeting. 36 Did the word of God originate from you, or did it come to you
only? 37 If anyone thinks he is a prophet or spiritual, he should recognize
that what I write to you is the Lord's command. 38 But if anyone ignores this,
he will be ignored. [See HCSB, NASB, ESV, YLT, NKJV]
Strong's 1135 gunh>, — goo-nay’;a woman; specially a wife: — wife, woman.

Since there is no other Scripture forbidding single women to teach men, and
all comparable Scriptures forbidding wives from teaching their own husbands
or speaking in the assembly (1 Cor 14), since the Greek word in the text
means woman or wife, and since only wives have their own husbands at
home to ask, I believe that the correct translation/interpretation here is
"wife."

***1 Timothy 2:11 A woman/wife [Strong's 1135] should quietly learn from
others with entire submissiveness [Strong's 5292]. 12 I do not permit a
woman/wife to teach [Strong's 1321] [a man], nor have authority
over[Strong's 831] a man, but she must remain silent. [See Strong's,WEY,
NASB, ESV, HCSB, AmpB, NKJV]

Strong's 1135 gunh>, — goo-nay’;a woman; specially a wife: — wife, woman.

Since there is no other Scripture forbidding single women to teach men, and
all comparable Scriptures forbidding wives from teaching their own husbands
or speaking in the assembly (1 Cor 14), and since the Greek word in the text
means woman or wife, I believe that the correct translation/interpretation
here in 1 Tim 2:11,12 is "wife."

Strong's 5292 hupotage; n f

1) the act of subjecting
2) obedience, subjection

Strong's 1321 didasko; v

1) to teach
1a) to hold discourse with others in order to instruct them,
deliver didactic discourses
1b) to be a teacher
1c) to discharge the office of a teacher, conduct one's self
as a teacher
2) to teach one
2a) to impart instruction
2b) instill doctrine into one
2c) the thing taught or enjoined
2d) to explain or expound a thing
2f) to teach one something

Strong's 831 authenteo; v

1) one who with his own hands kills another or himself
2) one who acts on his own authority, autocratic
3) an absolute master
4) to govern, exercise dominion over one

I believe that gives us the following:

A wife should quietly learn from others with full and entire obedience,
subjection and submissiveness . I do not permit a wife to teach, instruct,
enjoin, explain or expound to [a man], nor govern, exercise dominion over or
have authority over a man, but she must remain silent.

If a husband's wife is sinning against him as stated above, before he marries

again, he should do all of Matt 18:16,6,7; Gala 6:1; 2 Tim 2;24-26; and
remember what the Word says about him being maritally bound to her.
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