Mojo: How to Get It, How to Keep It, How To Marshall Goldsmith with Moe AbdouGet It Back If You Lose It (Unplugged)
I have a few questions that I want to get your perspective on. The first oneis really simple because you’re one of the happiest people that I’ve ever met and that I ever get to speak to. I have to ask you, how do you stay that way?
Number one, I am a Buddhist. There are many schools of Buddhism. So whensomebody says they’re a Buddhist, it doesn’t tell you that much. My school is asimple school. It’s basically, find happiness and meaning now.I think the great Western disease is I’ll be happy when I get the car, the status,the money, the BMW, the achievement, the condominium. I’ll be happy whenwe all have the same win. We’re going to die eventually. I think the secret of life is find happiness, contentment and meaning now, and not next week, notnext month or not next year.By the way, many Western people misinterpret what I just said to mean youhave to be happy every second of all eternity. That’s not what it means at all.You only have to be happy this second, now.
But you know one of the things you talk about in all of your workspecifically in this book is that typically as human beings, at leastWesterners, is our default response in life is typically not to experiencethat happiness.
No, our default reaction in life is to experience inertia. We all tend to gowhere we’ve been going, and do what we’ve been doing, be what we’ve beenbeing. It is very hard for us to break this incredible spell of inertia. One of thegreat challenges is learning how to break that spell of inertia and achievehappiness and contentment where we are, not next week.
From your perspective personally, what do you do to not have to deal withthat inertia from a day to day?
A couple of things, one thing I do is I have a coach. I have this daily questionprocess. If anybody would like a copy of my questions, just send me an email atMarshall@MarshallGoldsmith.com. I’ll send you a copy of them. My coach asksme questions everyday, 24 questions. Every question has to be answered withyes, no, or a number. You put it on an Excel spreadsheet. It’s very simple to do.The first question everyday is how happy were you yesterday on a 1 to 10 scale;and, how meaningful is yesterday. How many times yesterday did you try to