Under Loving Commandhttp://www.ntmu.net/lovingcommand.htm[3/28/2011 11:46:22 PM]
In contrast we have the two sons of Eli, the priest, in 1 Samuel 2:12: “Now the sons of Eliwere sons of Belial; they knew not the Lord.” The Scripture goes on to tell how Eli's sonswere disobedient and immoral. Eli knew what his sons were doing and he no doubt had taughtthem what was right. In I Samuel 2:23-24, Eli scolds his boys, “And he [Eli] said to them,Why do you do such things? For I hear of your evil dealings from all the people. No, mysons; this is not a good report that I hear; you are making the LORD's people transgress.” Butscolding isn't training.Eli neglected to train his sons: “they did not heed the voice of their father.” And the Lord cutoff Eli’s descendants from being priests. I Samuel 3:13 says, “For I have told him that I willjudge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knows; because his sons made themselvesvile, and he did not restrain them.” He honored his sons above the Lord
(I Samuel 2:29)
. Eli lovedthe Lord, he was sincere, he performed the office of priest, but he did not train his sons toobey.
The struggle with myself to do it God’s way
can we train? How can we train our children to obey us? God has givenus the answer in His Word. Proverbs 22:15 says, “Foolishness is bound up inthe heart of a child; the rod of correction will drive it far from him.”Oh, but Lord. You surely don't mean I am to use a rod, a stick, on my child. My first thoughtis, “What am I to be, a policeman with a stick to keep him in line?” I love him too much towant to hurt him. “He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines himpromptly”
.Then I argue, but there are other ways of discipline. Words can be rods.., the scolding, arebuke. “Do not withhold correction from a child, for if you beat him with a rod, he will notdie. You shall beat him with a rod, and deliver his soul from hell”
.But I want to let him grow up free, without inhibitions. “The rod and rebuke give wisdom, buta child left to himself brings shame to his mother"
.I am tempted to say, “Surely these little disobediences are not serious enough yet. He is soyoung. I will wait until he is older and I can reason with him and he can understand more.“Chasten your son while there is hope…”
.But I am afraid if I discipline him he will only rebel more. “Correct your son and he will giveyou rest; yes, he will give delight to your soul”
.I had to ask myself… do I believe the Lord means what He says in these verses? Do I believethat if I love my children and want to obey God concerning them that I must take a stick andphysically spank them when they disobey? I do believe He means just that. I also believe thatif I, by faith, obey His Word, He will fulfill each promise He has given concerning childtraining.My obedience to God to train my child requires that every time I ask him to do something,either “come here,” “don't touch,” “hush,” “put that down” - or whatever it is, I must see that