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Under Loving Command

Under Loving Command

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Under Loving Commandhttp://www.ntmu.net/lovingcommand.htm[3/28/2011 11:46:22 PM]
Formerly: “Children - Fun or Frenzy?”by Al & Pat Fabrizio
A word of warning
The primary message of this booklet is to relate to parents our struggle inlearning to obey instructions in Scripture from a loving Heavenly Father.Therefore it is a word shared specifically from our experience rather than atechnique or method for child rearing. For that, more than these few wordswould need to be written.Throughout our experiences we always felt the assurance of our Father's loving attentivenesseven during our reluctance to obey. We wanted to give our children the same assurance as webegan to train them. Whatever lessons we learned were never intended to gain power over ourchildren in order to manipulate and control their lives. The rod, training, or any form of discipline should never become license for arbitrary commands for the parent's benefit, norshould the home become authoritarian, cold, or militant.Of all the places on this earth's troubled globe, home must become that place where a childknows throughout his life he will always find unconditional support, love, and forgiveness.., arefuge where his heart, mind, and hopes can find full expression.., a place of pleasant historieswhere his soul has become a storehouse full of good memories and gratefulness for hisparents' loving and gentle care.
— Al Fabrizio
“For I know him [Abraham], that he will command his children and his household afterhim, and they will keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgment; that the Lord maybring upon Abraham that which he has spoken of him” 
(Genesis 18:19)
to bless him and make him a blessing
Gen. 12:2
). Not long ago our three-and-a-half-year-old son prayed, “Lord, help me to look at your eyesand do what you say,” I thought how beautifully he expressed Psalm 32:8-9, “I will instructyou and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with my eye. Do not be like thehorse, or like the mule, which have no understanding; which must be harnessed with bit andbridle.” This is the kind of response we desire in our own lives toward God.., not as the mulewith no understanding that needs to be jerked about from one direction to another, but as onewith a submissive heart who has
decided to obey and merely waits to be guided with
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His eye. We pray for this quality of obedience for ourselves and also for our children.Any victory which God has given in our experience has come as we have been brought to theend of ourselves in failure and defeat. Then He has taken over and done the work in us. Thereis no other area in our lives where we are more completely cast in dependence on the Lordthan with our children.
In Proverbs 22:6 God promises, “Train up a child in the way he should go, andwhen he is old, he will not depart from it.” There is a distinction between
Many of us are
our children the way theyshould go, but we are neglecting to
them in the way they should go. Achild can be trained to respond to his parents in willing obedience and trust.The dictionary gives the meaning of the word ‘train’ – “to mold the character, instruct byexercise, drill, to make obedient to orders, to put or point in an exact direction, to prepare fora contest.” This is what God wants us to do with our children.
All of us are training our children in some way.., either consciously orunconsciously. When we ask a child to do something more than once, we aretraining him to wait until we have told him twice before he obeys.., or we aretraining him to wait until we have raised our voice before he obeys.., or we aretraining him to wait until we have threatened him before he obeys. We can train him to obeyimmediately when we tell him once in a normal conversational tone.The child who is only
“the way he should go” can also hear other teaching and departfrom the way he has been taught. But the promise to the parent who
his child is:“WHEN HE IS OLD, HE WILL NOT DEPART FROM IT.”Here are two examples in Scripture: one in which the child was
the way he ought togo and the other in which two brothers were
the way they ought to go, but were not
In I Samuel 1:11, Hannah asked the Lord for a son. She prayed, “If you... will give yourservant a son, then I will give him to the Lord.” She did not say, “Lord, if you give me a son,I will do my best to teach him to serve you, and if he is willing and won't object, I will takehim up to the tabernacle to serve you.” No, she never doubted that Samuel would do anythingelse but what she chose for him. I Samuel 1:27 says: “For this child I prayed; and the Lord hasgiven me the petition which I asked of him; therefore also I have lent him to the Lord; as longas he lives, he shall be lent to the Lord. And he worshiped the Lord there.” Samuel did go tothe tabernacle and was a willing servant to Eli, the priest. That Samuel had been trained toobey is evident in I Samuel 3 when, as a young boy, he gets out of bed three times to run toEli and ask him what he wants. And he served God as long as he lived.
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In contrast we have the two sons of Eli, the priest, in 1 Samuel 2:12: “Now the sons of Eliwere sons of Belial; they knew not the Lord.” The Scripture goes on to tell how Eli's sonswere disobedient and immoral. Eli knew what his sons were doing and he no doubt had taughtthem what was right. In I Samuel 2:23-24, Eli scolds his boys, “And he [Eli] said to them,Why do you do such things? For I hear of your evil dealings from all the people. No, mysons; this is not a good report that I hear; you are making the LORD's people transgress.” Butscolding isn't training.Eli neglected to train his sons: “they did not heed the voice of their father.” And the Lord cutoff Eli’s descendants from being priests. I Samuel 3:13 says, “For I have told him that I willjudge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knows; because his sons made themselvesvile, and he did not restrain them.” He honored his sons above the Lord
(I Samuel 2:29)
. Eli lovedthe Lord, he was sincere, he performed the office of priest, but he did not train his sons toobey.
The struggle with myself to do it God’s way
can we train? How can we train our children to obey us? God has givenus the answer in His Word. Proverbs 22:15 says, “Foolishness is bound up inthe heart of a child; the rod of correction will drive it far from him.”Oh, but Lord. You surely don't mean I am to use a rod, a stick, on my child. My first thoughtis, “What am I to be, a policeman with a stick to keep him in line?” I love him too much towant to hurt him. “He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines himpromptly”
(Proverbs 13:24)
.Then I argue, but there are other ways of discipline. Words can be rods.., the scolding, arebuke. “Do not withhold correction from a child, for if you beat him with a rod, he will notdie. You shall beat him with a rod, and deliver his soul from hell”
(Proverbs 23:13-14)
.But I want to let him grow up free, without inhibitions. “The rod and rebuke give wisdom, buta child left to himself brings shame to his mother"
(Proverbs 29:15)
.I am tempted to say, “Surely these little disobediences are not serious enough yet. He is soyoung. I will wait until he is older and I can reason with him and he can understand more.“Chasten your son while there is hope…”
(Proverbs 19:18)
.But I am afraid if I discipline him he will only rebel more. “Correct your son and he will giveyou rest; yes, he will give delight to your soul”
(Proverbs 29:17)
.I had to ask myself… do I believe the Lord means what He says in these verses? Do I believethat if I love my children and want to obey God concerning them that I must take a stick andphysically spank them when they disobey? I do believe He means just that. I also believe thatif I, by faith, obey His Word, He will fulfill each promise He has given concerning childtraining.My obedience to God to train my child requires that every time I ask him to do something,either “come here,” “don't touch,” “hush,” “put that down” - or whatever it is, I must see that

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