Make Criticisms Work for You
, when we ask for critical comments, what we usually hope to get arecompliments. Who wants to be criticized anyway? After all, criticisms always seem out towound our pride and deflate our ego.Are you getting the most out of criticisms? How can you make criticisms work for you?
Ponder over it
In order to benefit from other people¶s assessments, pause for a moment and examine thecriticisms objectively. Be careful though, for being receptive to criticisms does not mean simplysmiling in agreement. You must learn to identify those criticisms which can actually help you toimprove and those which cannot.Not all criticisms are unkind, unjustified words from someone out to hurt you. Somepeople are just not very tactful and their good intentions can easily be mistaken for nastiness.Their comments may very well be sincere and legitimate, so do not brush these aside.On the other hand, you should be wary of those who seem overly confident and ever willing to offer their supposedly worthwhile observations. Most of these very eloquent criticshave very little constructive suggestions to offer. Comments which are cleverly worded are notalways useful ones. Some are the result of mere sarcasm, meant to discredit and intimidate you.Your best response will be to ignore them.
Sometimes when someone has, deliberately or not, belittled your efforts and hurt your feelings, it is very difficult to remain cool. But nothing will be gained from launching animmediate counter-attack.Instead of lashing out in a moment¶s anger, give yourself time to cool down. When youare sufficiently calm, think over the remarks. Analyse them and assess their validity. Decide for yourself if they are reasonable and helpful. Look at the situation with an unjaundiced eye.Remind yourself not to get too sensitive and overwrought. Do not shut your mind off by settingup a defensive barrier.
Act on the fair criticisms
Once you have decided that a particular criticism is constructive, the next step is to acceptit with a positive attitude and do something about it. A constructive criticism will only be helpfulif you act on it. Consider the things you will gain and think over how you should work to get it.Make extra efforts to improve.It would also be a nice gesture on you part if you take the trouble to express your appreciation to the critic. This basic courtesy not only reflects maturity of character, but alsoyour sense of responsibility. At the same time, it can help establish a rapport between you and