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DECISION POINT #1: WHAT IS MY IDENTITY?
1. What are my goals?
GOAL: To find out what you would be, to decide what your objectives in lifeare, and be able to talk naturally and passionately about them. YourULTIMATE goal is to get to the point when you can talk to women about yourpath and not care whether or not they join you.POWER RESOURCE:
The Way of the Superior Man, by David Deida
In our first lesson, I want you to ask yourself, “What are my goals?” In anymeeting with women, it is crucial that you establish yourself as a man withdreams, aspirations, and objectives.
David Deida, the author of the fascinating book,
“The Way of theSuperior Man”,
argues for choosing a “life purpose”.
That means deciding on a direction for your life, and fusing everythingyou do into that direction.3
Living a life with purpose is SO much easier than a life without one
"Everything in your life, from your diet to your career, must be aligned withyour purpose if you are to act with coherence and integrity in the world. If you know your purpose, your deepest desire, then the secret of success is todiscipline your life so that you support your deepest purpose and minimizedistractions and detours."
-David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
For example, if your goal is to become, say, a world-renown DJ, everyaspect of your life should feed into that: your friends, your hobbies, yourwardrobe, your job, what you read, where you go--everything shouldpoint towards music as a way of life for you. When you establish whereyou want your life to go, it becomes that much easier to get it there.Everything makes more sense, and you have a path that you arecommitted to.
Girls LOVE to follow people on paths. As one relationship guru said,
“When a guy is doing his own thing, or on his own path, and then he’sincluding others on it, it’s completely different when he’s trying to fitin or trying to be with other people on their paths.”
Would you rather follow, or BE followed? I think you know the answer.Girls LOVE to follow guys who are successful around. Just ask any rocksinger or businessman.
When you have a deep-rooted purpose,
you don't need women as muchas they need you. YOU get your pick of women; they have to fight toearn you!