MUCH RESEARCH ON FAMILY CONDITIONS AND THE UPBRINGING OF CHILDREN HAS LEDTO THIS IMPORTANT CONCLUSION:
A lot of love and involvement from the people bringing up children, clear limits for whatbehavior is allowed and not allowed, as well as the use of nonviolent methods of upbringing,creates non-aggressive, harmonious, and independent children.Here are some common sense rules for parents/caregivers who want to help childrenhave a positive childhood.
Let your child feel he or sheis important. Children havea great need to feel they areimportant to their parents.Children grow on love andchallenges.Do not frighten your childunnecessarily. Sometimes youmay need to scare your childto keep him or her away fromdangerous situations, but childrenshould not be scared intoobedience. Spare your childupsetting knowledge aboutthings he or she cannot doanything about.Laugh with and not at yourchild. Children are proudand can be deeply hurt whenthey feel you are making funof them. Laugh with yourchild; humor is positive.Praise your child frequently.Encouragement and kind wordsmotivate a child to cooperate.Positive support strengthensthe child’s self-image andcreates an enthusiastic spirit.When new challenges arise,your child will be able tomeet them confidently.Remember that you are a rolemodel for your child. Yourchild is bonded with you in thedeepest love and admiration.That is why he or she wantsto be like you, at least whenhe or she is young. Whateveryou do, your child will do.Whatever you say or believe,your child will repeat.Do not give in to your child toavoid conflict. Children feelmore secure when they havelimits set for them in theireveryday life, but they oftencannot refrain from testingtheir limits.Keep the agreements you makewith your children. Children feelhelpless if you break agreementswithout good reason. If yourchild isn’t sure whether he orshe can rely on you, whomcan he or she rely on?Remember that what youdo today contributes toforming the future.
COMMON SENSERULESFOR PARENTS