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Intimate Relationships
By: Denise Soller, MA I/O Psy
*Adapted from the Sage Handbook of Social Psychology Chap 10 by Julie Fitness, Garth Fletcher
and Nikola Overall
Subject History Overview
• More studies is based on interpersonal
attraction
• Relatively new – 30 years or so – focus moved
to the development, maintenance and
dissolution of romantic relationships
• Three major developments:
1. Social Cognition and Emotions
2. Attachment Processes
3. Evolutionary Psychology
INTERPERSONAL
ATTRACTION
What attracts you to another
person?
Interpersonal Attraction
• Interpersonal attraction is the
attraction
between people which leads to
friendships
and romantic relationships.
• What attracts?
– A function of socially shared
norms, along with preferred
characteristics derived from
people’s learning histories.
Factors in Attraction
• Familiarity
– Safety or “Goodness”
– Proximity
– Mere-Exposure Effect
• Reciprocity
– I like her because she likes me
• Reward Theory
– Liking those whose behavior is rewarding or who are
associated with rewarding situations
• Attitude Similarity
– more attracted to people who hold similar attitudes
to our own than dissimilar others
Factors in Attraction
• Physical Attractiveness
– Pleasantly looking = more likely to be nice
– Facial Symmetry – Good Genes
– Body Shape
– Voices
– Style or Fashion Sense
– Smell
MATE
SELECTION
Factors in Selection
• Familiarity
• Reciprocity
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Types of Love
• Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love
P I
liking
C
Types of Love
• Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love
P I
infatuation
C
Types of Love
• Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love
P I
empty love
C
Types of Love
• Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love
P I
romantic love
C
Types of Love
• Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love
P I
fatuous love
C
Types of Love
• Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love
P I
companionate love
C
Types of Love
• Sternberg’s Tripartite Theory of Love
P I
consummate love
C
Function of Romantic Love
• The 3 Basic Behavioral Systems that Bond
Couples Together (Shaver)
– I LOVE YOU CAN MEAN:
1. Love as Attachment
2. Love as Caregiving
3. Love as Sexual Attraction
RELATIONSHIP
COGNITION
The Intimate Relationship Mind Model
1Eliciting Events The Relationship
Mind Outcomes
General Social
Theories Unconscious/
Automatic
During Interaction
- Cognition/Emotion2
General 7
Relationship
Processing
- Behavior/Event Theories 5
Cognitions
Emotions
Local
Outside Interaction 3 Relationship 6 Behavior
Theories
- Cognition/Emotion
8
- Behavior/Event
4Conscious/
Controlled
Processing
Stored Relationship Theories
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ideal standards that concern hypothetical relationships or
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• Attachment Working Models (Bartholomew)
• Becomes entwined
and maintain with self
judgements theories.
of the dispositional and
– Positive vs. Negative of Self vs. Others
stable properties of the world.
1. Secure
2. Preoccupied
3. Dismissing
4. Fearful
General Social Theories
Situation Factor Outcome