ow! Can you feel that? Have you ever felt like that, maybe without even knowing you are doingit? Do you know what it feels like to me? Pure poison (anything that harms or destroys). Wantingsomething so much you feel hatred towards the other person for possessing it.
People who are jealous would rarely admit it, even to their closest friends. They would much rather seethewith anger inside. Why? Because to tell someone “they are ugly, don't deserve a man like that, and haveterrible taste in clothes” wouldn't look good, would it? We may want what they have, but we would never letothers know it. We all want to keep up the appearance we are happy for them, although we may make snidecomments under our breath.Deep down, we know that jealousy is a poisonous feeling. We don't want it, but we just can't help it. Wealso feel jealous when our partner talks to someone who we believe is more successful than us, has moremoney, or who looks more beautiful than us, and we believe our partner may be enticed away and we will beon our own. The more we feel jealous, the more angry we get, and given enough time this may actually leadto physical violence.Do you not think this is a terrible emotion to have? To feel such anger towards someone; not because of something they have done, but because of something they have that you want (beauty/possessions).Unfortunately, it seems to exist in every one of us. It is not a disease, so why do so many of us have it?
1.A feeling of pride in yourself
It starts with a feeling we are inadequate, and we begin to resent other peoples success. We want the powerful job, the fast car, the gorgeous husband and the worse we feel about ourselves the more insatiablethe desire becomes. Only through seeing ourselves as worthy can we cure ourselves. The problem starts withone word: Comparing (
examining resemblances or differences
). We compare ourselves to everyone. Wecompare our waist sizes, our clothes, our cars, our girlfriends, and our wallets.
Walking around a supermarket.
“Why is he looking at her, does he think she's more attractive than me?”
you! You're always looking at other women! She's nothing but a cheap tart, I can't believe you prefer her over me.”
Argument with boyfriend/husband. Resentment building on both sides. The man can't believethat the girlfriend/wife is jealous over something he wasn't even really aware of, and the woman begins to wonder if he can be trusted, especially if he's out on his own.If she were uglier, fatter or wore more unattractive clothes than you, you wouldn't care, would you? No onehas ever been jealous of someone with an older car or a worse job. The only time the jealousy monster rearsits head is if someone is wealthier than you, or more attractive than you. Jealousy doesn't care if the personwith the large diamond necklace is a horrible person, and you are caring and nice. It only cares about the possessions.But this only happens when you feel low; when you feel bad about yourself, or you are unhappy withyour lot in life, and you feel as though you deserve better. It takes advantage of the fact that you are notfeeling positive about your own qualities and offers a solution. “Why has she got it and you haven't, youdeserve it more than she does.” So you agree with the thought, “Yes I do, I am better than her, I should bewearing the diamond necklace.”If you were happy with yourself, satisfied with, what are in fact, only temporary possessions. If youweren't constantly wanting to be someone else, but content to just be you, comparison would not begin. Whywould you compare yourself to someone who had a diamond necklace and expensive clothes if you never had a desire to possess them?
1.Excessive desire to acquire or possess more (especially more material wealth) than one needs or deserves