Often times, couples will argue extensively over whether or not this relationship is appropriateor is indeed cheating. If find yourself in this situation, a common trademark of an emotionalrelationship is a lack of openness or transparency. Do they hide their screen when they chatonline? Do they only talk or chat on the phone in private? These are telltale signs of aninappropriate emotional relationship.
Getting the Emotional Connection Back Where it Belongs
So what do you do to get your spouse to turn their attention back to you and not to someoneelse? To indeed intercept things before they do indeed turn physical. First, your spouse needsto own up to the fact that they are in fact involved in an inappropriate emotional relationshipwith a member of the opposite sex outside of your marriage. They may not even realize it hascrossed a boundary, but the two of you need to discuss it open and honestly.
1. Rebuilding Your Own Emotional Connection
To rebuild your own emotional connection, you need to first do an analysis of your relationshipwith your spouse. Has there been a breakdown in communication between the two of you? Arethere signs of neglect to one another? When is the last time that you said something to eachother that made you or them feel special? Whatever the answers are, it is time to put forth theeffort to rebuild your emotional bond.
2. Assess All of Your Communication
There are two types of communication that exist in a relationship: verbal and non-verbal. Inorder to have a full and completely intimate relationship, you need to have both.Verbal communication is easy…you talk to each other in a supportive and positive manner.Non-verbal is spending time together. It’s those little things you do when you are together,such as holding hands, touching each other, special looks shared together.Make a commitment to strengthen both types of communication with each other. In mostcases, it is simply a matter of setting aside more time for each other. Make time each night tospend time together instead of watching TV in separate rooms. Set a weekly date night. Gogrocery shopping together.
3. Be Persistent
Communication tends to take time to break down, very much like erosion. Conversely, you mayfind that it takes time for your communication with each other to improve. Be persistent andstay the course. Your marriage and relationship could be at stake.You will probably find that you need to do things differently. Perhaps in the morning, instead of just grunting good morning without looking up from your laptop, get up and give your spouse ahug to say good morning. Look them in the eye and start the day off on a positive note.