How to Read Body Language1
How to Read Body Language2
If the eyes are the windows of the soul, then
the body is the mirror of our feelings.
If we are feeling great it shows in how we hold and use ourbody. Conversely, if we look at someone else’s body we can often tell howthey are feeling by the signals their body is giving.So when it comes to dating, using/reading body language signals is a greattool. You can observe this by watching a couple flirting with each other.In case you don’t think learning how to read and use body language is notimportant, here are some statistics about the messages we receive fromsomeone we meet.
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7% of the information we receive is from what they actually say.
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38% of information we receive is from the tone, inflection and speedof their voice.
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A staggering 55% of the information we receive is from theirbody language.
These non-verbal signals will help you in dealing with the person but stayfocussed on what the person is saying. If you focus too much on their bodylanguage signals, you and/or the other person may feel uncomfortable.It is useful to be able to read people’s body language, but it is equally usefulto learn how to get your body to send the right signals and eliminate thewrong signals. See below for some body language signals.
Be warned
: body language is very much
open to interpretation.
Manysignals have different meanings depending on the person/situation. Keep thismind when you assess a body language signal.
Note: Look for 3 or 4 signals that convey a similar message or the one-off inconsistent signal. Also, consciously practise reading/doing some of the signals as much as you can. Learning, as you practise, what worksand what doesn’t work for you will help you gain confidence to use bodylanguage techniques consciously.
How to Read Body Language3
Body Language Signals:
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Open arms:
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Energetically open and possibly feeling vulnerable
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A good way to show you are approachable, especially whencombined with open palms
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Palms up/open hands:
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Defences down
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An open heart
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Palms on chest – When a person uses open palms that occasionallytouch their chest, they are signalling honesty
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Outward, upward hand movements – This conveys an open andpositive message
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Folded arms:
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A defence mechanism that shows the person is not open to whatis being said or done
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May mean rejection
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Physically cold
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Stubborn in their outlook
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Hands closed – A closed heart
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Doodling – Bored
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Fist:
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Anger and to be avoided
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Physically cold
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Very tense
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Defiant or triumphant when held in air
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Feet under the chair – A sign of eagerness
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Looking around:
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Wants to get away
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Thinking about something else
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Bored with situation/conversation
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Stroking chin
– evaluating
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Mirroring
– This is evidence of two people getting on really well.Each person copies the other’s body language, usually subtly.Mirroring occurs with:
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Breathing
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Gestures
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Eye movement
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Leaning towards each other at the same time
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Crossed or uncrossed legs
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