before he went back to his putt. His playing companion said, “Frank, thatwas a very touching gesture. Stopping your game to show respect for thedeceased. Very impressive.” Frank replied, “
Well, it was the least I could do. After all, she did give me the 25 best years of her life.”
The point is, the time to love our wives, guys, is not when the end comes.
The time is now
. Paul actually give us
of how to do this.First, verse 25: “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church andgave himself up for her,
There the example is
. Then verse 28: “Inthe same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. Hewho loves his wife loves himself.”There the example is
. Then, inverse 31 he says “the two shall become one flesh.”I find 6 descriptions inthese verses. Our love for our wives is to be
Steadfast, Selfless, Sacrificial, Sanctifying, Sympathetic and Sexual.
The first four are examples fromChrist, the fifth from ourselves and the last from the phrase “the two shall become one flesh.”Together they give us a comprehensive perspective onour role as lovers. First, some general comments.
God instructs in Eph 5:25, “
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved thechurch and gave himself up for her.”Seems obvious, right? We
for love. But to Paul’s audience, this message hit like an
. Loveyour wife? Hard as it is for
to imagine, that instruction was virtuallyunheard of then. Not that it
happened. It did. But it would have beenthe last thing on the mind of any husband in the 1
century Greco-Romanworld. Now note -- this is the
only outright command
that Paul makes tohusbands in this passage –
the only one
it is the linchpin around whicheverything else revolves
. In contrast, there is no such command found inthe OT, nor in any of the reams of rabbinic literature, nor in any of thehousehold codes that governed life among the Greeks and Romans.
What we take as a given, was an absolutely foreign concept to them
. Romanticor otherwise,
no one worried about loving wives
!The comment by Demosthenes bears repeating:
“We have concubines for the sake of daily cohabitation; we have wives for the purpose of having children legitimately, and of having a faithful guardian for all our household affairs
.” Men in that culture breathed adultery. It was not onlyaccepted;
it was expected
. No stigma attached. Wives were a
for managing the home and giving legitimacy to and tending children. And