On Accepting What IsCharles Day*www.desmoinesmeditation.comThis talk was prompted by an email exchange with a friend from the WestCoast who is not a meditator but knows of my interest in meditation andBuddhism. The email ended with the statement: "I am juggling so manythings these days that they overlap - give me some Buddhist inspiration soI can get this all done without losing my mind!" My response follows.You asked for it, so here goes. ‘What is, is’. It's always been that way and itwill always be that way. Buddha said that suffering, dissatisfaction,frustration, upset, stress or whatever you want to call any negativeexperience is caused by "wanting it to be different than the way it is.”Accepting that what is, is, does not mean approving of what happens or being passive, indifferent, or insensitive to the reality of the need for actionor change. It means accepting the way it is without reacting negatively. Itmeans letting go of any negative reactions that may arise so that one'senergy is not wasted in emotional reactivity to what can't be changed, sinceit's already happened, or worrying about a future that has not yet arrived. Itmeans using that energy more effectively and efficiently in making anychanges that are possible and beneficial.For most of us, getting even close to experiencing this level of accepting that what is, is, (not approving) takes practice, throughmeditation and mindful living. We need to continuously acknowledge andbe mindful of the fact that suffering is caused, not by situations,circumstances, or others, but by our negative reactions to them and bylearning to let go of these reactions as quickly as possible when they arise.Krishnamurti, an Indian Hindu guru and philosopher whom I had theprivilege of hearing twice, once in Ojai, CA, in the 70's and again inBombay (now Mumbai), India, when I worked there in the late 80's, said itmuch more simply.