Of Mothers, Daughters and the Wounds That ShapeUs…
Posted by Anjuelle Floyd | Filed under Articles and Essays,Relationships
Abandoned, a photo bytobibritschon Flickr.
Injury to the mother-daughter relationship rents a profound wound, and gives rise toserious strain between both daughters and mothers.
Does my mother love me?
Why does my daughter hate me so much?
Why doesn’t she love me?
A question often asked by both daughter and mother.And for the daughter, “
If mama doesn’t love me, when who will
Or who can
?”These questions and more along with the associated feelings of worthlessness, anger andultimate hurt, usually possess an ancestral quality.The emotional trauma that both mother and daughter experience and inflict each upon theother stands rooted in a history of tense relations between the mothers and daughters fromgenerations past in the family.Bringing awareness to the fact they live embroiled in a larger we of interactions that cam before them offers the first part of healing.
“Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me.
”Psalm 51:5 The iniquity in to which all women and men are born contains the hurt and pains of pastgenerations, words wrongly spoken, acts committed without concern of affect, hatred born and nurture out of a love, we hold for those with whom we sleep, live and eat, andthat is greater than that which we hold for God and ourselves.Sin lies in our refusal to acknowledge how much we hurt.