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Three Principles for the Prevention of Sexual Abuse and Sexual Violence

Three Principles for the Prevention of Sexual Abuse and Sexual Violence

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Sexual abuse and sexual violence are serious social problems that affect the quality of life of millions of people in the United States and globally. The first step toward dealing with a social problem is to develop understandings that many people agree upon. This article offers three general ideas associated with the prevention of sexually harmful behaviors. They are secure attachments, capacities for negotiations, and appreciation of the sweetness of sex. An agreed upon understanding is like a road map that provides general directions. Various kinds of interventions can lead to common destinations.

These simple ideas cover many complex underlying issues. Whatever kinds of prevention programs that various groups of people develop, effective programs will incorporate these three ideas in their own individualized ways.
Sexual abuse and sexual violence are serious social problems that affect the quality of life of millions of people in the United States and globally. The first step toward dealing with a social problem is to develop understandings that many people agree upon. This article offers three general ideas associated with the prevention of sexually harmful behaviors. They are secure attachments, capacities for negotiations, and appreciation of the sweetness of sex. An agreed upon understanding is like a road map that provides general directions. Various kinds of interventions can lead to common destinations.

These simple ideas cover many complex underlying issues. Whatever kinds of prevention programs that various groups of people develop, effective programs will incorporate these three ideas in their own individualized ways.

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TheMinnesotaSymposiumPrimaryPreventionofSexualAbuseandViolence: ApplyingResearchtoPracticeMinnesotaDepartmentofHealth,St.Paul,Minnesota,USA August26,2011
ThreePrinciplesofPrimaryPreventionofSexualAbuseandSexualViolence
JaneF.GilgunPh.D.,LICSWUniversityofMinnesota,TwinCities,USA
Summary
SexualabuseandsexualviolenceareserioussocialproblemsthataffectthequalityoflifeofmillionsofpeopleintheUnitedStatesandglobally.Thefirststeptowarddealingwithasocial problemistodevelopunderstandingsthatmanypeopleagreeupon.Thisarticleoffersthree generalideasassociatedwiththepreventionofsexuallyharmfulbehaviors.Theyaresecureattachments,capacitiesfornegotiations,andappreciationofthesweetnessofsexarethese principles.Anagreeduponunderstandingislikearoadmapthatprovidesgeneraldirections.Variouskindsofinterventionscanleadtocommondestinations.Thesesimpleideascovermanycomplexunderlyingissues.Whateverkindsofprevention programsthatvariousgroupsofpeopledevelop,effectiveprogramswillincorporatethesethreeideasintheirownindividualizedways.
 AboutthePresenter
JaneF.Gilgun,Ph.D.,LICSW,isaprofessor,SchoolofSocialWork,UniversityofMinnesota,TwinCities,USA.Shehasdoneresearchonthedevelopmentofviolentbehaviorsformanyyears.Hercurrentresearchprojectsare1)alongitudinalstudyofchildreninconflictwiththelawinanattempttoidentifyfactorsassociatedwithchildrenwhoavoidbecomingpartofthejuvenileandadultcorrectionalsystemswhentheyhavemultipleriskstodoso;and2)alifestoryprojectonwhysomepeoplebecomeperpetratorsofvariousformsofviolence,includingsexualviolence,whenpersonswithsimilarrisksdonot.SeeProfessorGilgun’sotherarticles,books,andchildren’sstoriesonscribd.com,Kindle,andiBooks.ThisisapaperpresentedattheMinnesotaSymposiumonPrimaryPreventionofSexualAbuseandViolence,26August2011,St.Paul,Minnesota,USA.
 
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ThreePrinciplesofPrimaryPreventionofSexualAbuseandSexualViolence
Iinterviewedperpetrators
ofchildsexualabuse,rape,andotherformsofviolenceformorethan25years.IdidthisbecauseIwantedtocontributetoprevention.Ireasonedthatperpetratorsaretheproblem.Theycommitsexualabuseandviolence.Theywerechildrenonce.Iwantedtolearnhowchildrenbecomeperpetratorsofchildsexualabuse.Ialsoreasonedthatpreventionisfosteredwhenweunderstandthesebehaviorsfromthepointsofviewofperpetrators.Furthermore,IbelievedthatIcanlearnsomeimportantthingsifIidentitydifferencesbetweenthosewhoperpetratesexualharmandthosewhodon’t.Thatiswhatmyresearchhasinvolved—identifyingdifferencesbetweenthosewhoabuseandthosewhodonot.Ibeginwiththewordsofmenwhoperpetratetoillustratethechallengesofprevention.Theirwordsgiveanideaofwhatwearedealingwith.Dansaid:TheonlyplaceIfoundreliefwasintheact.TherestofthetimeIfeltunworthy,unlovable,heinous.Imean,youknow,whenIcouldgetayoungmaletobesexualwithme,andnoteven,wedidn’tevenhavetogettothatpoint,butwhenIwasbeingshownaffectionfromayoungmale,wrestling,hugs,doingthingstogether,intimate,intimately.ThenIfeltloveable.Ifeltworthy.IfeltallofthesethingsthatIdidn’tfeeltherestofmylife.Theultimateactofthatissex.Therewassex.Itwasalwaysleadingtosex.Jimsaid:AslongasnoneofwhatIwasuptowithkidswasclearlyapparent,Icouldkeepgettingawaywithcallingitbeingaffectionateandnurturingtokids,andclassifyingmyarousalas,oh,that’sjustasideeffect.Thisisgoingoninmyhead.InmyheartI’mnot,aslongasI’mcarefulnottoshowitinmyeyes,myface,myvoice,mymannerismsoractions,aslongasIdon’tgetahintorasignofwhat’sgoingoninme,Icanbenurturingandaffectionatetokids.That’swhereI’mgettingoffon,theexperienceofbeingaffectionate,etcetera,etcetera,andnobodynoticesit.Thatwillmeannoharm,nofoul.That’swhatItoldmyself.IfI’mnotblatant,Idon’tstickmyhandsinkids’clothes,betweentheirlegs,andwhatI,abuse,Ican’tbedoingabuse.That’snotwhatI’mdoingbecausethatwouldmeanWhenwehearpeoplespeakingthesewordsandknowtheymeanthem,weknowwehaveaproblem.Whatdowedotoprotectchildrenfromthem?Whatdowedotopreventchildrenandyoungpeoplefromdevelopingintopersonswhoexperiencechildreninthisway?Danbeganhissexuallyabusiveandexploitivecareersataroundagesix.Jimbeganasateenager.Neitherwassexuallyabused.Bothhad“goodenough”parents.
 
3Furthermore,weknowwehaveaproblemwhenRobertFinn,BishopoftheKansasCity-StJosephdiocese,heldforfivemonthsthephotosthatatechnicianfoundonapriest’scomputer.Thetechnicianhadgiventhephotostothebishopimmediately.Thephotoswereofgirls’genitals.Thegirlswerebetweentheagesof12and15.Thiswasduringthefirstfivemonthsof2011,not25yearsago.Iassumethatthebishopisamanofgoodwill.Whatwashethinking?IhavesoughttounderstandchildsexualabuseandotherformsofviolencefromthepointsofviewofperpetratorsinthehopethatwhatIlearnwillcontributetoprimaryprevention.IalsohopethatmyresearcheducatespeoplelikeBishopFinntoknowwhattodowhentheyareinapositiontopreventoffendersfromhavingcontactwithchildrenwhileintheemployofareligiousinstitutionoranyotherinstitution.Ihopethatmyresearchwillhaveanimpactonpolicyandprogramsatallthreelevelsofprevention:primary,secondary,andtertiary.Today,Iinviteyoutothinkaboutwhatchildsexualabusemeanstoyoupersonally.Ischildsexualabusefairtochildren?Dowehavecommonunderstandingsaboutwhatchildsexualabuseis?Whatpurposesmightcommonunderstandingsserve?Dowehavecommonunderstandingaboutwhatwecoulddotopreventchildsexualabuse?Onecommonunderstandingisthatchildsexualabuseiswrong.Evenmostsexualabusersknowthat.Dan:Ihatedeverythingaboutmyself.IthoughtIwasamonster.Iknew,Ididn’tthink,IknewIwasamonster.IknewthatIwasengaginginbehaviorsthatIwantedtostopandcouldn’tstop.ThattherewasjustnowaybecauseIkeptsaying,“Iwon’tdothisagain,”andIkeptdoingitagain.Itwasaconstant,(3sec)constantthoughts,constant,inmyhead,constant,firstthingIthinkofwhenIwakeup,lastthingIthinkaboutbeforeIgotosleep.Itconsumedme.Somesexualabusersdonotbelievethatsexualabuseiswrong.Mike:AtthebeginningIguessIusedtothinkthatitwasgoodtodothis.Shewasyounger.Shebelievedmethen.Whenshestartedtoresist,itturnedintothreatsandmanipulationwithmoney.Or“You'regrounded,”or“You'renotgoingtogetanything.”“Youcan'tgothere.Youcan'tgohere,ifyoudon'tdothisforme.”Thatnobodywouldwanther,stufflikethat.Iusedalotofshaming.Soitwentfromcaring,whatIfeltwascaring,downtomorestrongerforcing,towardsthelastthreeorfouryears,actually.Junewasconvenient.Shewasalwaysthere.There’snostoppingonce,Istarted.Therewasnoturningbackafterthat.IjustfiguredthatIenjoyeditandwhystop.WhytellanybodybecauseI’dgetthrowninprisonthen.Theactualsex—Ilikedthat.Thenthecontrol,beingincontrolofherlifecompletelywasathrillforme.IthoughtaboutitmorethanIthoughtaboutmywife.

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