TEACh ANd PRACTiCEhiNduism iN yOuR hOmE
Take responsibility or being the primaryteachers o Hinduism to your children.
I is wondful mny mls v in l duionl o-gms fo you bo ffiv nd oul. howv,i is imon fo ns o v iud s ogmssulmn bu do no l nd fo m o hindu-ism o i ildn in om. pns indd sguu. ty in mny diffn wys, su s by xml, x-lnion, nd giving dvi nd diion. t ild’s dsimssions om fom w ns do nd sy. tfo,if ns follow sysmi o o ing ildhinduism s o s gows u, Snn Dm will b fullyingd ino is o lif, mking i lss likly o b sidlindo bndond in dul ys.
Without your help, there is no guarantee thatyour children will ollow their aith as adults.
Look ound young gnion of hindus nd you will ndmny wo v no ins wsov in iing hinduligion. On undd ys go, bfo movis, lvision ndomus, in iis nd villgs of Indi nd hindu ommuni-is in o ounis, hindu ml ws mos insingl in own. Bsids fsivls, w dms, dns ndmusil ons. t ml ws soil nd duionl ns wll. In ou modn wold w do v movis, lvision ndomus, nd mny hindu ildn would mu sndi f im njoying m wi i finds n bing ml. Wy is is? t mny sons. Fmilis no so los nd using. and i usd o b f si o g il-dn o om o ml, sin i ws n of villg lif.tims diffn, nd ody’s ildn ofn onsid mlboing omd o ll-vsiv ndv mo omlling sul foms of n-inmn vilbl. So, ns llngd mo n v o nswkids’ uzzling quis—s gndns didno v o do—by giving snsibl, g-mi xlnions o ml wosi ndhinduism’s i y of ulul nd mys-il is. Kids ody wn nsws mk sns o m. ty no ll onn wi “t’s wy w vlwys don i.” Wn ns unblo m is llng, hinduism dos nobom mningful nd usful of i ildn’s livs. Mny you ody dono viw i of i fi s im-on o mking i lif i, moligious nd mo sussful. tis is llng vy hindu n fs. Bull is no los. Nw gnions go lofy us, nd os usn b xlind in wys ngg ndinsi young sks, ounblning owfully mgni inuns of modn wold.
Establish a shrine in the home.
hinduism is in no wy mo dynmillysngnd in livs of ildn nd fmily n by sblising sinin om. t om sin woks bswn i is n ni oom. t wy i nb sily svd fo wosi nd mdi-ion, unsullid by woldly lk o oiviis. tis is idl. howv, wn is no ossibl, i sould ls b qui on of oom, nd mo n siml slf o los.Nully, s imon s ving sin is wo-siing dily. In sin oom off fui,ows o food. Visi you sin wn lving om, nd uon uning. Wosi in -fl dvoion, ling inn nnls o Godnd Gods, so i g ows owd you ndlovd ons. Mk sin fug fo ll fmilymmbs, w y n nd nd sol,w y n onn wi Gods nd offi is, ys nd il nds. tin youildn o wosi in sin bfo ny imo-n vn in lif, su s mjo xm sool, own fd wi sonl llng o oblm.Following is siml, diionl i in s-d s wiin om will do mu o mkhinduism lvn o m on dy-o-dy bsis.
Worship together in the homeshrine each morning.
a oul sying in englis is “t fmily ys og sys og.” In hinduism, idllyis fs o ll mmbs of fmily ii-ing in moning wosi in om sinbfo bkfs. t ildn n b ind olwys bing n offing of ow o ls lf. t x ouin followd dnds on fmily’s ligious bkgound nd ling. tyilis inlud siml
o long uj,singing dvoionl songs, ing mn, d-ing siu nd n mdiing o fomingsiml
nd yogs. as ildn gold, y n k on g sonsibiliis du-ing moning wosi. a numb of hindus vold us w k m sun, iinghindu, dsi xosu in i you o oligious diions, sool nd lsw, ws f ni fmily id hinduismog in om.
a l l p h o t o s b y d i n o d i a a l l p h o t o s b y d i n o d i a
Parents can consciously and systematically develop key qualities in their children that will helpthem to be happy, religious and successul when they reach adulthood. A wise mother wrote tome once on e-mail saying, “I truly believe we live out part o our karma through our children, andwe grow and improve as they do.” Though parents may think they are just helping their childrenbe more happy, successul and religious, in truth parents cannot separate themselves rom their
children. The child’s growth and spiritual evolution is the parents’ as well. There are nine key quali-ties we want our children to possess. We will explore each o these to see what children should be
taught, or not taught, by parents to develop that quality. The nine qualities are:
Prociency in Conict Resolution
A positive sel-concept arises when wethink o ourselves as a worthy individualdeserving o a wonderul lie. Howis this accomplished? It is throughbeing generous with your praiseand appreciation, making childrenknow they are loved and valued,that who they are makes a di-erence and lie is ull o promise.
Unortunately, many children reach
adulthood with a negative sel-con-cept, eeling that others are better
than they are and lie has little to ofer. A
negative sel-concept is developed through
verbally running down a child through teasing, joking orinsulting remarks. This, o course, needs to be stopped andreplaced with encouragement and praise. When it comesto correcting misbehavior, it is wise to distinguish betweenthe person and the behavior. The behavior was oolish, notthe person. For example, you can tell your children when
they misbehave, “What you did was very oolish, but you are
smart, and I’m sure you now know better and won’t do thatagain.” Parents should also not allow their children to calleach other names, such as “at” or “lame.” Having a positive
concept about one’s outer sel allows the child to accept the
Hindu teaching that one’s inner sel is a divine being, a radi-
ant soul. My Gurudeva wrote: “Praise your children. Celebrate
their Divinity. Enjoy them and enjoy good times with them.”
ChARACTER BuildiNG, PART ONE
CulTivATE NiNE sPiRiTuAl quAliTiEs
what is hinduism?chapter 37: raising children as good hindus
kids learnprimarily throughobservationyour exampleas a parent iswhat they learnfrom the most