Whether or not Tiger Woods became a golfer, he was going to be successful. His dad’sfatherly coaching prepared him for greatness. A lot can be learned from their relationship. I’msure we all can think of other great examples of fathers and sons. The big take-away here isthat fatherhood is about mentoring. In your son’s life, it’s a role that will determine what kindof man he will be. The following are two keys to fatherly coaching:
The first and most important element to coaching your son is connecting to him. From the dayhe was born, there was already an innate connection between the two of you. This is God-given.Your son is essentially your seed, an extension of you. He has your DNA. He has your name. Heprobably has your facial features, or is built like you. Without any effort or investment, yourson embodies many of your attributes. Without one conversation, one game of catch, or onefishing trip, there is a powerful connection between you two. This alone is pure and wonderful.The innate connection between fathers and sons is entirely invisible, yet tangible. When youlook into his eyes, you are looking into a reflection of who you are. However, as beautiful andwonderful as this initial connection is, it is not enough to last a lifetime, or even toadolescence. Lasting connections between fathers and sons, namely between you and yours, arecreated through building a relationship. Building a relationship comes through spending qualitytime together. I cannot tell you just how important it is that you have a meaningful, practicalrelationship with your son, especially when he’s young and impressionable. While I’m not alicensed psychologist, you don’t need a degree to understand the power of a healthyrelationship between a father and son.Being your son’s life coach begins with strong connection, and strong connection is built withclear communication and time investment. Talking with your son is life to his soul andnourishment to his masculine character. The more time you spend with him, the more he learnsabout himself. As stated in previous chapters, a son needs his father to tell him who he is.
He won’t know he’s a king, unless you affirm his value.
My father didn’t merely take time to be with my brothers and me; he gave time, made time,prolonged time, and invented time for us. Having him standing in the bleachers at our footballgames was a small act in comparison with the time he devoted to mentoring and shaping us.My dad always maintained a connection with me. Even though I might have acted in ways hedidn’t approve or totally understand, he never tuned me out. Thank God! Even today, theconnection we have is unbreakable.
Counsel is so important. But its success is entirely dependent on the first key. Counsel withoutconnection is ineffective. Fathers who correct or discipline without connection run the risk ofhurting their sons. This is one of the main reasons that many sons grow up bitter toward theirfathers. Their fathers scored high on discipline, but failed miserably in connection andaffection. My dad’s connection with me validated his counsel. I knew he cared. I knew he loved