job and your going to be really really working hard when you realize it’s going to
cost your children hundreds of thousands of dollars to go to college so good luck with this right now but were over it. And this is a funny thing because the notion of family as you all heard this morning is also changing. So to give you another insideinto conversation I had with a young person. Another super successful young manworking in a great law firm doing great work and is that that point now turning
thirty realizing that he’s got to make some decisions about his career and he’s
engaged. And he said to me you know I look at my wife to be, a
nd we’re talkingabout having kids and we live in a big city where it’s really expensive and I know
that if I stay here and do this kind of work and climb this ladder I will be able to buy
an awesome expensive house and our kids won’t graduate with any debt and we’ll
be able to have all the things we want in between now and then. And he says youknow I look at the people though in my office who are in that position now and they
work really hard all day, when we’re working on a project, they’ll leave for hal
f anhour so they can see their kids and kiss them goodnight and put them to bed and
then they’re back in the office and their kids don’t know them, and so if not the way Iwant to know my kids, so if there’s some sense that my kid may graduate and have
to takeout a loan or he may not live in the nicest neighborhood or have the biggest
house or maybe he’ll share a room with his brother or sister that isn’t the worst thing that I can imagine. I have different sets of expectations for what it is I’m
looking
for and they don’t necessarily include that model. And
interestingly I sawthis evolve over the course of the recession because at the beginning I saw this wasstarting to happen and percolate up to the top, I was here and executives say it is allover now
, we don’t have to work on this gen y stuff because you all need paychecks.
Good. Done. And what I was hearing from my cohert was actually the opposite.Because the very best people again who of course think about this stuff first because
they’re confident
they have the resume they have the resources were saying wait a
minute. So I went to an awesome ivy league school and I’ve got all those things in mybackground but it kind of seems it’s not awesome to be at merril or leiman so what
am I working toward. Maybe I need my own shingle or I need something about work
that making me excited because the bets we’ve been placing don’t seem to be
making a lot of sense. And of course they were seeing their own parents paying theprice for making that gamble and putting their money on organizatio
n that weren’t
as committed to them as they were to those organizations. So, as that time haspassed, and in an interesting way the recession has recalibrated the way that a lot of us think about what we want. a lot of the entit
lemnent that you’ve al
l heard about has been shifted a lot of ways so that our expectations from one perspective may belower but the actually from another perspective much more holistic. Much smarter
in the long term. So that’s kind of notion number one w
hich is desire. Notionnumber two is ability. So as great as we are, there are some challenges. And I knowyou know what they are. So it is interesting to watch how this generation has I think evolved because we talk a lot about technology about we talk about the great thingsthat have come of that we a
ll know there’s an underside to that entire conversation
right. It is very difficult for this generation to communicate a lot of the time, and Ifirst realized how this was going to play out a couple years back when the new york times did a blog called the graduates and it was a young journalist at colleges who