Mitch Teberg, MA Associate Member

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International Women's Day: What is Gender?
Tuesday, March 8, 2011

On this International Womens Day, I would like to address the issue of Gender. But what is Gender? Is it sex? Is it the physical difference between men and women? Is it something to do with the cognitive differences between the sexes? What exactly is gender?? Ponder those questions, just for a moment. Before answering what is gender, read the story below.

Activity 1...
After you read the story, rank the five characters from the most offensive to the least offensive character. The names of the men and women in the story are in Vietnamese, so it may help to take notes so as not to get confused.

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CROCODILE RIVER STORY

Once upon a time in a beautiful village there was an attractive young woman named May, who was in love with a man named Hung who lived on the shore of the river. May lived on the opposite shore of the river. The wide river that separated the two lovers was teeming with maneating crocodiles. May wanted to cross the river to be with Hung for his birthday. Unfortunately, the bridge had been washed out. So she went to ask Lam, a riverboat captain, to take her cross. She was wearing a tight and short skirt, because she wanted to look sexy for Hung. Lam said that he would take her across; however, the look in his eyes frightened May. So she went to her friend Hoa and explained her plight to her. Hoa did not want to be involved at all in the situation. May felt that her only alternative was to take the riverboat, even though she did not trust Lam. After leaving the river shore, Lam told May that he could not control himself and had to have her. When May refused, he threatened to throw her overboard. He also said that if she complied he would deliver her safety with the other side. May was afraid of being eaten alive by the crocodiles, and didnt see any other alternative for herself, so she did not resist Lam. Lam delivered her to the shore where Hung lived and threatened her not to tell anyone. When May told Hung about what had happened to her, instead of taking her in, he yelled at her for asking for such a thing to happen because of the way she was dressed. He said she was unclean, and cast her aside with disdain. Heartsick and dejected, she turned to Khanh, who was a classmate and had a black belt in karate. Khanh felt anger for Hung and compassion for May. He sought out Hung and beat him brutally. May was overjoyed at the sight of Hung getting his due. As the sun set on the horizon we hear May laughing at Hung. Rank the five characters, making the most offensive number 1.

1. 2. 3. 4. 5.
It may help if you list the characteristics of each person next to their name as you rank the individuals in the story. When you complete the exercise, read on What was the most offensive to you? Without discussing the details, let's examine what influenced your decision-making process. To do that, we begin by exploring the answer to the first question, What is gender?

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If you find that your answer is along the lines of Gender is sex, then what is sex?

Simply stated, sex is the biological difference between men and women. To be clear, there are only five biological differences between men and women, and all are centered in the reproductive functions of our bodies: in men, the penis and testicals; in women, the breasts, vagina and ovaries. Beyond that, men and women are identical. If we are identical, what is the difference between the sexes outside of these biological differences? Answer: none. There are no cognitive or intellectual differences; no difference in capacity to function as a member of society; and no difference in their value as a human being. All are equal.

So, what is gender?

Gender is a social construct; it is how society views and judges men and women differently based on those five physical differences. To understand that gender is a social construct is to examine the effects of this construct in our own lives. Ask yourself, what roles women have in the household, in the family, in the community, in society and within culture. How do those roles differ from the roles of men? What are the expectations a given society places on women and men based on those roles. When we separate sex from gender, we begin to see the differences between men and women are nothing more than socially constructed differences. It isnt that men are better decisionmakers just because they have a penis; or that women are better caretakers of children just because they can give birth. These are all assumptions; social constructs surrounding reproductive functions, not based on fact.

Mitch Teberg, MA Associate Member When and how do we take on these gender roles? Gender roles are the roles we are expected to embrace from the day we are born. How we differentiate a baby from being a boy or girl is based on the styles and colors they are clothed in. Generically speaking, blue for boys and pink or yellow for girls. People interact with male and female babies more less the same (gently), but from the day they are born we are wrapping them in social expectations and gender roles. Included in those roles are identities of masculine and feminine that the baby is supposed to adopt as s/he grows up.

The toys we play with

When children reach a playful age, people interact differently with boys from girls. It starts with the toys we give them. I recall a research paper I read while attending the university. I cannot properly site the paper here, as it has been too long ago and I do not remember the authors, but I will summarize. It was a study that wanted to prove 1) there existed inherent mental differences between men and women, and 2) those differences appeared in childhood. The researchers presented wooden blocks for a boy to play with by himself. A large percentage of the time, boys created buildings, or cities and streets out of the blocks. They did the same for girls and most often found that the girls would recreate the inside of houses complete with bedrooms and a kitchen. With their results they proudly proclaimed to have proven there is a difference between the way boys think and the way girls think. Boys are outward looking while girls are naturally caretakers.

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The study went so far as to associate the different outcomes with the biological difference boys have their reproductive organs on the outside, so they are outward looking. Girls, however, have reproductive organs on the inside of their bodies, and therefore recreated internal settings. Seems logical, but is it realistic? The study itself is easy to replicate. However, the researchers did not consider that for several years, boys have been given toys such as little cars, planes, and toy guns to play with. It would be within the realm of a boys reality to recreate an environment in which his toys can function; and the same for a girl, who is often given dolls and toy houses to play with. At very young ages we begin to take on those social expectations based on five biological differences. It begins with the toys we are given and what activities are reinforced by those around us. Our concepts of masculine and feminine are formed by social expectations and gender roles. In my work where I have conducted assessments in rural villages, I have often found that boys are allowed to play while girls are expected to help their mother and care for the younger siblings. Simply stated, gender roles introduced and reinforced. During the formative years of life, we accept such realities. Unless we are challenged to rethink, gender roles go unquestioned. What would make us question these assumptions?

Activity 2...
Think about the varying degrees of offenses we may endure in our lifetime, from being personally offended or insulted, to being the victim of a violent crime. Here are five possible offenses:

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ignoring someone raping someone rejecting someone laughing at someone physically attacking someone

List them from the least offensive to the most grievous offense. Obviously rape is the worst offenses and deemed illegal and immoral in most societies. This is generally followed by physically attacking someone. Rejecting, ignoring and laughing at someone are personal offenses that have relevance, but not as serious.

How does gender influence your decisionmaking?

Take the list of offensive actions devoid of context and compare it to the answers you listed from the Crocodile River Story. What was the action of the most offensive character in the story? Was it to ignore, to rape, to reject, to physically attack, or to laugh? Reflect on the actions that are explained away as associated with gender, i.e. men are opportunists, or that girl knew the risks. Without going into all the possible ranking of offenders in the Crocodile River Story, the main point is that we come to see that gender is a social construct that has been formed since we were born. How we interpret actions and excuse behaviors is influenced by social constructs that we are often blind to. It is just that way. In some cases like the story above, social constructs such as gender can invert what would otherwise be very clear to a logical mind to rape someone is a crime and much worse than laughing at someone. Succinctly stated, the unquestioned assumptions surrounding gender roles and social expectations can be powerful it can excuse the inexcusable on one hand, and blame the victim on the other.

Mitch Teberg, MA Associate Member When we hear calls for gender equity, it is not just for gender equality in its simplest form. Gender equity is a call to correct existing imbalances and to re-examine our social norms in a way that puts an end to countless generations of discrimination and inequality that were initially based on five biological differences.

This post is dedicated to all the women in the movement for gender equity, the women of Fair Trade, and in particular to Chou, my life partner and soul mate who has heart-fully joined me on this Journey for Fair Trade. It is my hope that this blog posting will initiate a self-evaluation for men and women alike, if one has not already been done, on the unquestioned assumptions surrounding gender; assumptions we hold so dear that to question them would require nothing short of calling for social change. Sincerely, Mitch Teberg, MA 2011 International Consultant Sustainable Development / Fair Trade Researcher / Trainer / Consultant www.journeyforfairtrade.blogspot.com Posted on: http://journeyforfairtrade.blogspot.com/2011/03/international-womens-day-post.html