Bullying is many dierent things.Anyone can be bullied – it’s a lotmore common than people think andcan happen at school, at home, onthe sporting feld or at work. I youare being bullied, it’s important toremember that you are not to blameor responsible or someone pickingon you, and that there are steps youcan take to solve the problem.
WHAT IS BULLYING?
Bullying isn’t a one-o incident – a riend being ina bad mood one day, calling you names and thenapologising later. It’s when name-calling or threatsgo on or some time that it becomes bullying.
People are oten bullied because they are seen as being‘dierent’– oten because o the way they look, or theclothes they wear or even the way they behave. In reality, just about anything can be used as a reason or bullying.There are many ways that someone can be bullied.
includes name calling or put downs, threats,teasing, including sexual harassment and innuendo (thiscan also be done through email or sms).
includes being punched, tripped, kicked or having yourbelongings stolen or damaged. It might also include sexualabuse.
, where you are let out, ignored orhave rumours spread about you, is also very common.
is oten less obvious or direct thanother orms o bullying. You might be given dirty looks orstalked, or made to eel intimidated or manipulated.
is a orm o bullying which is carried outthrough an internet service such as email, chat room,discussion group, online social networking, instantmessaging or web pages. It can also including bullyingthrough mobile phone technologies such as SMS.Being bullied can lead to stress, intimidation and evenphysical injury. People who are bullied oten eel that theyare all alone and think there is nothing they can do to solvethe problem. Ongoing bullying is o great concern. It canlower a person’s sel-esteem and lead to eelings o sadness,depression, anger and conusion. I you are being bullied itis vital to keep reminding yoursel that it’s not your aultand that there is something you can do about the problem.
TAKING ACTIONAGAINST BULLYING
There are many dierent things youmight be able to do i you are beingbullied. Depending on how badthe bullying is (and as long as youaren’t eeling unsae or physicallythreatened), you might decide to tryand work it out yoursel frst. Hereare some tips that may be helpul,especially or verbal bullying.
Ignore the bully
(including mobilephone or email bullying) – Bullies arelooking or a reaction and oten loseinterest i they don’t get one.
Stay with others
– Stick to areaswhere you eel sae and hang out withpeople you trust. Bullies won’t normallypick on you as much when there areother people around.
Stay positive and be confdent
–Try to think o all the things you do well.Bullies usually pick on people that theythink are weaker than they are, so itmay help i you stand up to them.
Keep out o their way
– It might bepossible or you to avoid the bully, orexample by travelling a dierent wayto school, or avoiding the places thatthey hang out.
Don’t reply to bullying messages
–It’ll only get worse i you do. By replyingthe bully gets what he or she wants.Oten i you don’t reply the bully willleave you alone.
Ask or help
– I the bullying doesn’tstop you might fnd it helpul to ask someone else or advice. You shouldalso report it to someone in charge –either at school or at work.
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