There is potential for soul mate love all around us at every moment. It is a matter of
recognizing the connection, sensing the "charge" of energy, and then cultivating a
relationship that will take us beyond our present limitations.
A soul mate brings us enormous joy and fulfilment, but even more importantly, soul
mates lead us into our life's lessons. They get under our skin and push our buttons. They
inspire us to look at who we are and where we need to grow.
So we can begin practicing masterful ways
of relating with whomever stands before us, and in this way, we become better and more
enlightened human beings. We can become the love we want to find; we can source it
Seeing your partner through the lens of love rather than fear automatically elevates the
relationship to a higher place. When you can get quiet and note when you are projecting
fear, you can make the adjustment to see through a different filter. So often we feel
resentful or irritated, but upon closer inspection we will find that we are really afraid.
Once we assume our partner's core goodness rather than focusing on their "guilt," they
will be freer to show us their best, which accelerates the process of shifting our
perspective from one of blame and anxiety to one of acceptance and peace.
Being willing to forgive yourself and your partner, and to make amends when necessary is an ongoing process of cleanup. We all make mistakes; it's human. But when we hold fast to a grudge it eats away at our sense of peace and serenity. If you aren't willing to forgive, you might ask yourself what habit of ego you're attached to. Do you want to continue life with unresolved issues hanging over you?
When we take a stand and refuse to let go of something, we can always find evidence to
justify it. Or we can try to make peace. Instead of blaming or making excuses, we can
clean things up and move forward. This is not an excuse for staying in a dysfunctional
situation, but an opportunity to see innocence. Once we do that, we gain\u2014or give\u2014
freedom to move out of a "stuck" place.
Relaxing when times get tough; assuming that this too shall pass.
If you know things will inevitably arise to challenge you, you can be more detached when
they do. Problems become worse when we dig in our heels and try to force a solution. By
relaxing into whatever struggle arises, we remain flexible and open to inspiration and
very seriously, which in itself helps to detach you from the experience of anxiety.
Whatever is happening now won't be happening a year from now, so just keep breathing
through the situation and see if you can take things a little less seriously.
Seeing in the dynamic of the relationship the reflection of what you need to learn helps
bring you back to what is important. Sometimes we get lost in the chatter of day-to-day
patterns and lose sight of the soul's mandate to bring us closer to realizing our Oneness.
The best way to see where we need to work on things is to observe who we are and what
we do within the context of a relationship. Any time you recognize your impulse to create
distance rather than intimacy, you can make the adjustment and get back on track.
Honoring your partner's path and allow them the space to find their own way sends a
clear message of respect. People need to work things out in their own manner and in their
own time. If you try to help where help is not requested, you are signalling your lack of
belief in your partner. If you back off and assume someone is strong and intelligent,
strength and intelligence are what they will likely find.
Although we are all on this path of realization and expansion together, each of us is
unique in our lessons to be learned; the way you do something might be totally different
than how someone else needs to process a situation. Rest assured that Spirit is at work in
all of our lives, and give yourself a rest from overseeing your partner's personal business.
Keeping up your personal growth work means you will keep your mind sharp and your
awareness keen. Read, study, don't rest on , of what you think you already know. The
moment we think we have it all figured out is the moment things will come crashing
down around us. Arrogance leaves no room for intimacy or growth . When you immerse
yourself in learning, you will always have new skills and interests to apply to a
Following the path of your own creativity keeps you attuned to that which moves and
inspires you. As you indulge your creative side, you become less dependent on your
partner to feel whole. Creative energy is the force that breaks new ground. To sustain
love, we need to continually fuel whatever inspires us on the deepest level. Also,
creativity balances out the egoic and intellectual side of life; it teaches us to play and
This action might not be possible to undo. Are you sure you want to continue?