This booklet is written for those of you who didn't stop to think thirteen years and nine months ago. Because you didn't, you are now faced with this alien being commonly called a teenager. So what do you do to survive the next five years? Well you could drown the little beastie but that seems rather pointless after already investing the best years of your life in its growth. No a much better idea is to read this booklet.
Nobody is an expert on child rearing. If they say they are, they need a reality check. The ideas expressed in this booklet are just one ordinary woman's opinions. I have no degrees in child behavior but I have something way more valuable, hindsight. This hindsight allows me to look back, see what worked, what didn't and give you the benefit of my knowledge. The first piece of knowledge is:
This is extremely important. How you think of the teen years you're either approaching or now into will have a definite bearing on how well you do. No matter what anyone else has led you to believe, teenagers are a blast. Sure babies are cuddly and cute but then they turn into the terrible twos, threes and fours. Five through twelve has some bearable moments if you have the patience to witness T-ball, beginning band concerts and
Where else can you see such pathos, such drama, such comedy? And all within one twenty-four hour period. The mood swings alone will keep you young and vibrant just trying to keep up. Add to this, the blossoming of reason and hey, this clump of nothing you started with is now a walking, talking marvel. Of course this walking, talking marvel can sometimes be a pain in the you know what so you'll need to keep your:
Especially when your little sweetheart is ranting, raving and having a_ _ _ _ fit for no reason other than you are breathing in their space. Yes, you could deck them but then they are controlling you, not you them.
No what you should do in this situation is merely smile or even laugh. Once they realize they're not upsetting you, they'll do one of two things. Say "you're hopeless" and stomp off in a huff, leaving you with peace and quiet (not a bad thing) or they'll ask you why you're smiling. You then answer, "I was thinking how much you remind me of myself when I was your age."
This should stop them in their tracks \u2014 "Like their mother or father \u2014 oh yuk". Just watch their behavior change. The whole point of rebelling is to be different. With one little statement, you've taken away their motivation. Chances are they will try to upset you again, so you'll smile your little knowing smile and before long, they'll get the message:
Maybe just a teensy bit more spoiled but who's to blame for that? The object here is to survive their hormonal changes while coping with your own. A sense of humor will do that. It will lighten your load considerably. True there is acceptable and unacceptable behavior; but, if your child is merely
A mouthy teenager is only trying to assert their independence. The same goes for their hair and clothes. If both are clean, why should you care? Your friends will understand, they are either sharing your dilemma or have already gone through it. The key to understanding your teenager is:
Think back and consciously remember how you felt at their age. Every event was a big deal. You didn't care about anything except what concerned you. Life centered around you and nothing else. Well, nothing has changed. Your teenager's emotions are just as volatile as yours were at the same age. Nobody goes through adolescence well.
You didn't, the guy or woman next door didn't because nobody is born with that much confidence. Absolutely nobody. Time has a way of dimming memory. Don't believe? Try whining to your parents about your teenager's behavior. Don't be offended when they laugh uproariously and remind you about all the episodes you've chosen to conveniently forget. Your parents are not being unsympathetic or callous, they are just enjoying this moment \u2014 paybacks are so sweet.
Listen closely to your parent's stories and if you're honest, you'll realize you weren't the perfect child. Neither is your teenager. But don't worry your teen's "know it all attitude" only lasts until they are eighteen or have a child of their own,which ever comes last.
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