Eve Teasing - A Pedagogy
The truth about eve teasing
No girl has been spared from being a victim of eve teasing. This is the harsh reality in India, essentially so inany of the 4000 odd cities and towns in India. Eve teasing is a deplorable act that injects shame, fear, disgustand helplessness in the victim. Being subjected to many instances of eve teasing is an inseparable part ofevery girl's life causing much avoidable mental agony to her. This in turn adversely affects her family and herfriends.
This truth stares at the face of a girl much before she reaches adolescence. Eve teasing is a common incident,be it in buses, shopping arcades, cinema halls, shopping malls, pubs, restaurants, auto/bus-terminals, railwaybooking counters and every other conceivable place; but the one place where it happens with alarmingfrequency is on the road. Girls are never spared in the streets, the most harrowing ones in Bangalore beingthose near women's colleges, in shopping malls and complexes, on Brigade road, MG road and Commercialstreet.
A lewd stare, a sly whistle, a well-timed clap, an unwarranted bump, a seemingly casual touch, a lingeringlook at a vulnerable time, the humming of a suggestive song, passing downright uncouth comments, cheapgestures, the display of an indecent snap or video, bikes flying close with hands stretched to grope you,passing by in slow moving cars blasting loud music with many eyes inside measuring you up... all these aretypical examples of eve teasing.
The ways an eve teaser can harass a woman is surely endless! School children, well-dressed executives, collegekids, auto-drivers, bus-conductors, pedestrians, officials, cine-goers and aged people too have been slaved tothis horrific habit.
The profile of an eve teaser
The average eve teaser is a crafty person, the kind who is sans close interaction with women.
His havingwitnessed many incidents of disrespect to women at home might also have added to this perversion. He alsohuddles with other men and discusses women in a cheap manner. As
, renown Aerobics Instructorstates, It has something to do with their upbringing, or some insecurity in him that he takes out by targetinggirls, a tacky way of feeling macho!
Eve teasing begins as an attempt to irritate a girl or catch her attention, probably by a whistle or a clap, or bydrooling behind tinted windows in a car blaring songs like ?Tumse milne ko dil karta hai?, ?What is mobilenumber??, Aye, Kya bolti tu? Aati kya khandaala??
An eve teaser gains confidence when he notices that the girls he abuses do nothing to harm hi.Encouraged by this inaction he graduates to more active abusive ways like passing uncouth comments orattempting physical contact.
He relishes watching the girls spew fiery words on him or squirm in disgust. Walking on this deplorable path hefinally dons the garb of a veteran by frequently taking pervert pleasure in disrobing their dignity. When a girlconfronts him directly and questions his rude behavior he either feigns indifference or walks away as if theretort did not affect him at all(though he does squirm inwardly).
The eve teaser is fully aware that his act is against minimum standards of morality yet he becomes theprototype of a spineless coward when accosted or caught by others.
He will feign innocence, swear on hisdear life that he was far from the very thoughts of eve teasing, claim that his innocent actions have beenviciously misconstrued and behave like a meek victim caught in a web of deceit; he will go to any extent toslither away.
On being caught red-handed and reprimanded for their acts the most common explanation used by most eveteasers is, Please excuse me, this is the first time. He might otherwise be bold and arrogant initially, claiming