Relationship Success Tips
1. Avoid placing all your emotional needs on your partner... Develop your ownindividual identity and through those experiences, your relationship will beenriched as you keep breathing new life into it.2. Even if you've been together a long time, never expect your partner to know what your needs are... Mind-reading and making assumptions only lead tomisunderstandings and potential conflicts. Learn to be assertive and ask directly for what you want.3. Periodically have a "check-in" with your partner to re-examine how therelationship is going and how satisfied you and your partner are. This keepsthe channels of communication open and can help renew the relationship,reinforcing the positives and uncovering areas in need of attention beforethings get too misguided.4. Characteristic of relationship development, most couples have adiminishment of that honeymoon phase "high" that's experienced in the beginning of a relationship when they first started dating. This is normal andnot a reason to be concerned that there is something necessarily wrong. Whenthis occurs, strive to bring more creativity and vitality into your relationshipand sex life to spice things up. Surprise your partner. Be spontaneous andplayful. Make him see how special and important he is to you.5. Examine your satisfaction with the roles you play in your relationship. A real advantage of gay relationships is the ability to be flexible with life rolesand not to have to ascribe to traditional sex role stereotypes commonly held inheterosexual relationships. Negotiate such roles and tasks openly and freely with your partner, acknowledging areas of strength and talent in this decision-making.6. Avoid letting disagreements turn into ugly verbal battles where things could be said that are later regretted. Learn basic anger management principlesand know when to call a "Time-Out" to defuse unproductive anger. Also learnhow to re-engage following the cool-down period so issues can be resolvedpeacefully... Learn to apologize and say sorry after the angry words...hugginghelps in such situations...kiss and make up...7. Don't let the business of life take away from your relationship. Find a balance between works, alone time, friends, family, and time spent as a couple.Make "Date Night" a regular part of your lifestyle where you avoid discussing your problems or issues and just enjoy spending that quality time together.Never take each other for granted and remember that you're a team!!!