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Speaking Effectively by Dale Carnegie

Speaking Effectively by Dale Carnegie

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By Dale CarnegieThis booklet reveals the secrets of effective speaking that it took meover 40 years to discover. I have tried to tell you these secrets sim-ply and clearly and to illustrate them vividly. I urge you to carry thisbooklet with you and to read it at least three times next week. Read it;study it; underscore the vital parts.
Copyriht © 2008 Dale Carneie & Associates, Inc. All rihts reserved.
Part One: Pblic SpeakinA Qick and Easy Way
 You may be saying to yoursel: “Is there really a quickand easy way to learn to speak in public—or is thatmerely an intriguing title that promises more than itdelivers?”No, I am not exaggerating. I am really going to let youin on a vital secret—a secret that will make it easieror you to speak in public immediately. Where didI discover this? In some book? No. In some collegecourse in public speaking? No. I never even heard itmentioned there. I had to discover it the hard way—gradually, slowly, painully.I, back in my college days, someone had given me thispassword to eective speaking and writing,I could have saved mysel years and years o wasted,heartbreaking eort. For example, I once wrote a bookabout Lincoln; and while writing it, I threw into thewastebasket at least a year o wasted eort that mighthave been saved had I known the great secrets that Iam going to divulge to you.The same thing happened when I spent two yearstrying to write a novel.It happened again while writing a book on publicspeaking—another year o wasted eort thrown intothe wastebasket because I didn’t know the secrets o successul writing and speaking.
What are these priceless secrets that I have beendangling beore your eyes? Just this: talk aboutsomething that you have earned the right to talk aboutthrough long study or
experience. Talk aboutsomething that you know and know that you know.Don’t spend ten minutes or ten hours preparing atalk: spend ten weeks or ten months. Better still,spend ten years.
Talk about something that has aroused your interest.Talk about something that you have a deep desire tocommunicate to your listeners.To illustrate what I mean, let’s take the case o GayKellogg, a housewie rom Roselle, New Jersey. GayKellogg had never made a speech in public beoreshe joined one o our classes in New York. She wasterried. She eared that public speaking might be anobscure art ar beyond her abilities. Yet at the ourthsession o the course, as she made an impromptu talk,she held the audience spellbound. I asked her to speakon “The Biggest Regret o My Lie.” Gay Kellogg thenmade a talk that was deeply moving. The listenerscould hardly keep the tears back. I know. I could hardlykeep the tears rom welling up in my own eyes. Her talkwent like this:“The biggest regret o my lie is that I never knew amother’s love. My mother died when I was only a yearold. I was brought up by a succession o aunts andother relatives who were so absorbed in their ownchildren that they had no time or me. I never stayedwith any o them very long. They were always sorry tosee me come and glad to see me go.
They never took any interest in me or gave me anyaection. I knew I wasn’t wanted. Even as a little childI could eel it. I oten cried mysel to sleep because o loneliness. The deepest desire o my heart was to havesomeone ask to see my report card rom school. But noone ever did. No one cared. All I craved as a little childwas love—and no one ever gave it to me.”Had Gay Kellogg spent ten years preparing that talk?No. She had spent twenty years. She had beenpreparing hersel to make that talk when she criedhersel to sleep as a little child. She had been preparinghersel to make that talk when her heart ached becauseno one asked to see her report card rom school. Nowonder she could talk about that subject. She couldnot have erased those early memories rom her mind.Gay Kellogg had rediscovered a storehouse o tragicmemories and eelings away deep down inside her.She didn’t have to pump them up. She didn’t haveto work at making that talk. All she had to do was tolet her pent-up eelings and memories rush up to thesurace like oil rom a well.Jesus said: “My yoke is easy, my burden is light.”So is the yoke and burden o good speaking.Ineective talks are usually the ones that are writtenand memorized and sweated over and made articial.Good talks are the ones that well up within you as aountain. Many people talk the way I swim. I struggleand ght the water and wear mysel out and goone-tenth as ast as the experts. Poor speakers,like poor swimmers, get taut and tense and twistthemselves up into knots—and deeat their ownpurpose.

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