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Why Kids Still Wet their Beds - Bedwetting Problem

Why Kids Still Wet their Beds - Bedwetting Problem

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 ==== ====For Great Quality Diapers Products and Tips Check Out This Sitewww.quality-diapers.com ==== ====A second reason for peoples negative feelings toward older children still being in diapers could bethe fact that parents used to use cloth diapers and rubber pants for their babies. This meant lots ofwork for parents especially before the advent of washing machines. In this circumstance parentsfelt compelled to get their children out of diapers as soon as possible. If an older child had to weardiapers to bed for bed-wetting the parents might have been upset about the prospect of having tospend years washing diapers and rubber pants. Subsequently many parents used the shamingapproach to try to get them out of diapers. Over the years we've become more enlightened about this issue(although we still have a long wayto go in my opinion) and most people realize that this approach doesn't work and in many casescan make the situation worse. That being said the people who had the bed-wetting problem whenthey were younger remember their parents using this approach with them and they might use thistechnique with their children also. A third reason for our negative attitudes regarding this stems from our attitudes toward variousmilestones in a person's life. Most cultures have certain expectations of when we're supposed toachieve certain things-we're supposed to get a driver's license by a certain age(I know a womanwho is 24 who still does not have a driver's license),we're supposed to graduate from high schoolby a certain age,etc. Nowhere are our cultural expectations more deep-seated than with bed-wetting and diaper use and if a person needs diapers past the age that is considered sociallyacceptable by most people we instill in them the idea that they should feel ashamed. To get back to parental attitudes toward diaper use I wonder if one of the reasons most parentsare so adamant about getting their child or teenager out of night diapers is that a part of them feelsashamed about it. It's a very competitive world out there and every flaw a child might have islooked at as something that must be hidden or fixed at all costs. The prevailing attitude amongmany parents is that their kids must be perfect at everything because any sign of imperfection isviewed by society as a sign of weakness. There is immense pressure for parents to make suretheir children go to the best schools,to participate in numerous after school activities because itlooks good on their records,play sports,etc. Imagine if it got out that 18 year old Susan is still indiapers and plastic pants at night? So much for going to Harvard! Parents are also competitive with one another and unfortunately some hyper competitive parentsuse their children as pawns either consciously or subconsciously in this competition. They feel thatany flaw the kids might have is a reflection on their parenting skills and might make them look bad."What would our friends and neighbors think if they found out our 15 year old son still wearsdiapers and plastic pants at night? How embarrassing!" We need to grow up! Everybody has someflaws-that's what makes us human! The only thing we can do is accentuate our strengths and dothe best we can to work on our flaws and try to improve ourselves but we shouldn't obsess about
our weaknesses. A fourth reason for our negative feelings concerning using diapers to manage bed-wetting has todo with our emphasis on self-image. Although this is a universal concept this concept is especiallyimportant in the U.S. Most of our ideas of self-image unfortunately tend to be rather superficial.We're very concerned with status,power,image,and success and these four things are inextricablylinked in many people's minds with having a strong self-image. A large number of people believethat wearing diapers represents the opposite of all four of the qualities in which people feel astrong self-image consists of .In particular a significant number of people believe wearing diapersrepresents a feeling of being powerless,no doubt due to the fact that most people associatediapers with babies. Many people of course view babies as the paragon of powerlessness.Because of this view a large number of people develop a negative self-image if they have to usediapers for bed-wetting. A fifth reason is that some people believe that by putting the child in diapers for bed-wetting you inessence "are giving them permission to wet the bed" or that "it's okay to wet the bed." Believe it ornot I've heard some people say this and I think it's one of the most ridiculous things I've everheard. Since the purpose of having the child or teenager wear diapers at night is to keep the beddry I think it sends the opposite message-that it's not okay to wet the bed. In no way can putting achild or teenager in a diaper for a problem they can't control be construed as "it's okay to wet thebed." I think it sends the message that the parents are going to make their children as comfortableas possible until a cure is found. Or if the treatment options currently available don't work or arenot viable for some reason, they're going to have them wear diapers because it's more healthy forthe child and it makes them more comfortable. Diapers should not be the first option used for bed-wetting, but by the same token they should beused if all alternatives have been exhausted or are not desirable or feasible. To me diapers shouldbe viewed no differently than sanitary napkins for women. A sixth reason why most people are so against older bed wetters remaining in diapers at night isgroup think. People in general want to conform and with that tendency comes the fact that peoplego along with the prevailing wisdom without questioning its validity. They internalize it and itbecomes so ingrained in their thinking that they can't imagine anything else. We're like fish inwater-it becomes so much a part of their life and environment that they don't even notice it. Thefact that the majority believe in something is no guarantee that it's right. History shows that inmany cases it is the minority or a sole visionary who is right and the majority wrong. Finally we tend to put too much credence in what experts say without questioning its validity. I 'mnot suggesting that we shouldn't listen to anything the experts say but we should keep thefollowing points in mind: experts frequently have conflicting opinions which could mean either thatthey in fact have opposite opinions on certain issues or that the issue is complex and they need toundertake more research in order to make a definitive conclusion or come to a consensus. Second, there have been many situations where the experts were later shown to be wrong.Childcare is no exception. For example it was originally thought that playing Mozart would have apositive effect on an unborn child's brain development. This theory known as the "Mozart Effect"was later shown to be false(who knows-after further research and an improved understanding ofcognition they might change their minds again-this has also happened with certain things) With
this in mind it's conceivable that our current opinions about using diapers to manage bed-wettingare wrong also( I strongly believe that this is the case and that our thinking on this issue iscompletely misguided) although with how entrenched our attitudes our regarding this issue it mighttake a generation or more to overcome this inertia and reconsider our current attitudes concerningthis situation. A seventh reason why most parents use pull-ups or "Goodnites" instead of diapers for theiryoungster's bed-wetting may be that they're not aware of the different brands and types ofproducts out there to manage bed-wetting. As mentioned previously there are many choicesavailable to manage one's bed-wetting. Also some styles might not be used as much because ofgenerational differences. For example,although some younger parents use pin-on diapers andplastic pants for their babies, most younger parents are probably not familiar with pin-on diapersand plastic pants since they're not as popular as they once were. The parents who do use pin-oncloth diapers and plastic pants for their babies might continue to use them if their child or childrenwho wet the bed since the parents are familiar with them but parents who don't use them or arenot familiar with them might not use them unless their friends,relatives,or other people recommendthem. Second,even if parents are aware of the different choices out there to manage their child orteenager's bed-wetting it's very time consuming sorting through all this information in order tomake an informed decision about the best type of product to buy. There's a bewildering array ofproducts out there to deal with bed-wetting and it can be quite daunting learning about all thedifferent products out there. That's where the role of medical professionals comes in to play. I think urologists,pediatricians,and other medical professionals should have some basic knowledge of the differenttypes of diapers available to manage bed-wetting and the advantages and disadvantages of each.While they obviously can't have an encyclopedic knowledge of this they can apprise their patientsof the basic styles of cloth diapers such as as pin-on diapers,pull-ons,snap-ons,and Velcro; anddisposable diapers such as tape-on diapers and pull-ons. They can also inform them about the different types of waterproof pants such as plastic pants andthe different types of waterproof sheets. If possible they should also have a list of severalcompanies that sell both kinds of diapers and a list of websites(such as bed-wetting forums,incontinence organizations,and other resources) .These organizations can provide furtherinformation not listed in the physicians office such as additional companies that manufacture andsell incontinence products,information about bed-wetting support groups,etc. I was reading that in the U.S. and other countries they have wound,ostomy,and continencenurses. From what I understand wound,ostomy,and continence nurses(abbreviated wocnnurses)perform the following functions: they inform patients of the different types and brands ofproducts available to manage incontinence;the different ways some products may effect the skinsuch as causing diaper rash and/or other problems; what types and brands of skincare products touse if this is the case- Desitin,A&D ointment,powder,petroleum jelly such as the Vaselinebrand,lotions,etc.;the pros and cons of different absorbent products;in addition to the differentcompanies that sell incontinence products in order to help guide the patient in making a decisionabout what type of products to purchase based on their current needs. I think this is a good thing that we have these types of specialists-after all it's very time consumingtrying to find out this information on your own whereas a nurse or other medical professional

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