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Emotional Pain

Emotional Pain

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Published by Marcus Mottley
This article explains how to heal emotional pain.
This article explains how to heal emotional pain.

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Published by: Marcus Mottley on Jan 06, 2012
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 ==== ====Fear of Public Speaking? This article is very helpful!www.speakandtrain.com ==== ====It has many names; glossophobia, communication apprehension, stage fright, having butterflies inthe stomach. It has several symptoms; a rapid heartbeat, sweaty palms, a dryness in the mouthand unsteady hands. Most people are familiar with one recent poll or another showing thatAmericans rank fear of public speaking ahead of fear of death. Find something people are afraid ofand you can sell a cure. Unfortunately, many "cures" out there are platitudes peddled by the snakeoil salespeople of presentation training. They can actually increase apprehension as well assabotage other aspects of the presentation. Here are the top five popular gimmicks for calmingyour nerves followed by three that actually work. Imagine everyone in the room sitting in his or her underwear. The results of your imagination could range from highly erotic to downright scary. One thing's forcertain; your mind won't be on your presentation. Pick a spot in the back of the room and focus only on it. Your audience will wonder why you refuse to look at them. Eye contact is essential to create goodrapport. Presenters who establish and maintain eye contact are perceived to be more honest andmore persuasive. A little bit of nervousness is good. You've probably heard the saying "It's okay to have butterflies in your stomach. Just make surethey fly in formation." Enthusiasm, energy and excitement are good. Nervousness is bad. Nervoussymptoms are easily recognized and rarely mistaken for energy. If you're speaking to a hostile orindifferent audience, a little bit of nervousness is like a little bit of blood around sharks; it only takesa little to start a feeding frenzy. In other words, swat those butterflies! Use visual aids to channel your nervous energy. Visuals should be used because they provide a visual reinforcement of your message, notbecause they provide an outlet for nervous movement. Presenters who use visuals to reduce theircommunication apprehension turn visual aids into visual distractions. Memorize your speech, then recite it. People who memorize tend to think of information as something stored up inside them waiting forrelease. When they start reciting, they want to dump it out as quickly as possible. Look up"recitation" in the dictionary and you'll find one meaning is "reading or repeating aloud." Would you
want your presentation to be described as "reading or repeating aloud"? "To conquer your fear, you have to focus on what caused it. Attack the cause and you diminish thecondition." What Works Be prepared. When you bring the requisite knowledge to your presentation, you have eliminated one of themajor causes of apprehension. Do sufficient research to ensure you are the expert on your topic.Anticipate difficult questions and prepare responses. Another aspect of preparation is practice.You should have rehearsed your presentation three to five times before you deliver it before a liveaudience. Ask a friend or association to listen in and "red flag" any unfamiliar language orconfusing statements. The fewer the surprises, the more in control you'll be. Focus on the audience. Research their needs, their knowledge level, their concerns and their motivations. Tailor yourpresentation to this unique audience, not some abstract conglomerate of people. Arrive early andmingle with individual audience members. Get to know a few of them. Ask them why they'reattending the presentation and what they hope to gain from it. Refer to some of them by nameduring the presentation. Remove some of the anonymity and you'll also remove some of theapprehension. Visualize success. The perspective you bring to the situation frames your experience. Thoughts of failure oftenbecome self-fulfilling prophecies. Instead, picture yourself speaking confidently and accomplishingyour purpose. Don't think about it simply as something to "get over with." Presentations provideexcellent opportunities for business development and networking. When you have developed yourpresentation skills, you'll enjoy a competitive edge. Leadership development specialists, businesscoaches and performance experts all agree: Effective communication skills are essential toachieving growth in any profession. There's also no doubt that public speaking causes anxiety.You probably won't be able to eliminate it completely, but if you're sufficiently prepared, audience-focused and success-oriented, you'll be able to keep anxiety under control and your career ontrack. Â©2006 Peak Communication Performance As a leading authority on the language of influence, Dr. Joseph Sommerville shows professionalshow to increase visibility, credibility and sales through better communication. Contact him atSommerville@PeakCP.com  

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