the following do you recognize within your self most strongly?
The Sensible Mask
The creator and wearer of this self image tends to consider themselves to be the person who alwaysdoes the right thing, the reasonable thing, the common sense thing. They tend to think, “I am the oneto bring some grounded sense to you and your/this situation”. They want to be seen by others asbalanced, stable, sensibly correct and correctly sensible! They will be quickly on hand to give goodadvice and guidance the moment they sense something might be ‘going south’! They will allowthemselves the feeling of satisfaction once their advice has been dispensed but they will get easilyfrustrated at the sight of others doing what they consider to be stupid and nonsensical. And then theywill worry that others won’t actually follow their advice, which is why they can so easily and regularlylose their happiness.
The Mask of Shame
People wear this mask as soon as they think they have done something wrong, which is frequently.They even watch and identify with others wrong doings and feel guilty on their behalf. Most frequentthoughts include, “I messed up again...I always get this wrong... I am not able to do this withoutletting someone down”. Seeing oneself as guilty is easy if we had a childhood full of judgementalparents or scolding teachers and the regular insinuations that, “You are wrong again!” The built insadness that lives at the heart of guilt and shame will always be waiting to prick any bubble ofgenuine happiness.
The Subserviant Mask
When we wear this mask we bow down to others in our minds. We hold others as greater than us.Thoughts emerge like, “I wish I could do that...I can never be that good...I am just lucky to knowthem”, are all signs that our self image is always of ‘smallness’ in comparison to others. As wesuppress our self in this way we suppress our natural happiness making any lasting contentmentimpossible.
The Superior Mask
We wear this mask when we think of our self as the one who doesn’t just know but ‘knows everything’the most clearly and the most deeply. We think of ourselves as the ‘greater one’, the one who has asolution to everything. There will be an air of superiority and an attitude of ‘I know better’. This is aself image that guarantees we will see others as threats to our throne. There will be the fear thatmaybe we don’t know best/deepest/clearest and that ‘they’ actually do. This will gnaw away at ourhappiness on the inside but we probably won’t notice it.
The Seductive Mask
This is the mask of the needy, worn when we want others attention so that we can feel valued. Weattempt to attract others energy to us. This is not reffering to ‘seductive’ at a physical level. Thatgross self image based on form has already been transcended (!). Seductive here means the elegentwords, the flattering observations, the warmest compliments all expressed in ways that are mentallyand emotionally attractive to ‘the other’. We then create and carry a certain pride when othersgravitate towards us as a result of what we believe to be our magnetic attractiveness. This becomesa dragon that needs to be fed regularly and when the food is threatened, as it will be every day, theanxiety will dispatch any happiness with clinical efficiency.
The Sensitive Mask
This is a popular mask worn when we see ourselves as the one who cares most and best. We arealways on the lookout for opportunities to ‘be there’ for others in their emotional and personal crisis.