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The 7 Masks of Zorrow!

The 7 Masks of Zorrow!

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The 7 Masks of Zorrow!
It’s often forgotten that one of the dragons that must be slain on the road to happiness is the cause ofsorrow. It seems likely that few of us will clearly see what brings our spirit down, simply because it’stoo close to home. It is so close, so subtle and very often so subconscious. It’s those moments whenwe are trying to be someone we are not, without realising it. Those moments can last from a fewminutes to a lifetime! They are not easy to spot because they are events that originate and happenentirely within our consciousness. And unless we have developed a ‘fine’ degree of self awarenesswe won’t be able to recognise we are not being our self!
 
The basic principle is: If you try to be anything or anyone other than your self then a loss ofhappiness and some form of sorrow must result.
 
A good analogy to describe the origins of such moments of sorrow is the mannequin party. Everyoneturns up holding a mask on a stick in front of their face, which makes them almost (but not quite)impossible to recognize. You could say that they are both hiding
and 
attempting to project an unrealimage of themselves. Without being fully aware of it we do the same within our consciousness whenwe create what is known as a ‘subtle self image’. It’s as if we hold the self image like a mask in frontof our consciousness and we attempt to ‘wear’ that image/mask. All our thoughts, feelings andbehaviours are then ‘shaped by’ and ‘flow from’ that image.There are of course many ‘gross’ or obvious self images that we have all learned to create and hideourselves behind. These include images based on what our bodies look like, what we do, the groupthat we ‘believe’ we belong to or align with (from a football team to a religion!), our family history, ournations etc. We create and use such images to define our sense of identity and depending on thesituation and circumstances we will switch between these images, which is like switching masks, aswe wander through the party we call life! This is probably one reason why we have an identity crisisin the world in general, and why many people in particular, will at some stage of their life spend timeand energy searching for themselves, as they try to find out who they are...exactly! It takes a littlewhile to realise we are all no one! But that’s another seminar!
 
In the meantime, while we may realise the obvious i.e. that we are not what we do, not what we looklike in the mirror and not where we were born, we will probably find it hard to see the more ‘subtlemasks’ that we wear and switch between during the course of an average day. There are many.They are all sources of sorrow simply because they block out or distort the light of our naturalhappiness. Here are seven of many masks, many subtle images that we create and identify with.What you might call the 7 Masks of Zorrow!
 
Remember everything that we think, feel, decide and do is shaped by our subtle self image. Which of
 
the following do you recognize within your self most strongly?
 
The Sensible Mask
 
The creator and wearer of this self image tends to consider themselves to be the person who alwaysdoes the right thing, the reasonable thing, the common sense thing. They tend to think, “I am the oneto bring some grounded sense to you and your/this situation”. They want to be seen by others asbalanced, stable, sensibly correct and correctly sensible! They will be quickly on hand to give goodadvice and guidance the moment they sense something might be ‘going south’! They will allowthemselves the feeling of satisfaction once their advice has been dispensed but they will get easilyfrustrated at the sight of others doing what they consider to be stupid and nonsensical. And then theywill worry that others won’t actually follow their advice, which is why they can so easily and regularlylose their happiness.
The Mask of Shame
 
People wear this mask as soon as they think they have done something wrong, which is frequently.They even watch and identify with others wrong doings and feel guilty on their behalf. Most frequentthoughts include, “I messed up again...I always get this wrong... I am not able to do this withoutletting someone down”. Seeing oneself as guilty is easy if we had a childhood full of judgementalparents or scolding teachers and the regular insinuations that, “You are wrong again!” The built insadness that lives at the heart of guilt and shame will always be waiting to prick any bubble ofgenuine happiness.
 
The Subserviant Mask
 
When we wear this mask we bow down to others in our minds. We hold others as greater than us.Thoughts emerge like, “I wish I could do that...I can never be that good...I am just lucky to knowthem”, are all signs that our self image is always of ‘smallness’ in comparison to others. As wesuppress our self in this way we suppress our natural happiness making any lasting contentmentimpossible.
The Superior Mask
 
We wear this mask when we think of our self as the one who doesn’t just know but ‘knows everything’the most clearly and the most deeply. We think of ourselves as the ‘greater one’, the one who has asolution to everything. There will be an air of superiority and an attitude of ‘I know better’. This is aself image that guarantees we will see others as threats to our throne. There will be the fear thatmaybe we don’t know best/deepest/clearest and that ‘they’ actually do. This will gnaw away at ourhappiness on the inside but we probably won’t notice it.
 
The Seductive Mask
 
This is the mask of the needy, worn when we want others attention so that we can feel valued. Weattempt to attract others energy to us. This is not reffering to ‘seductive’ at a physical level. Thatgross self image based on form has already been transcended (!). Seductive here means the elegentwords, the flattering observations, the warmest compliments all expressed in ways that are mentallyand emotionally attractive to ‘the other’. We then create and carry a certain pride when othersgravitate towards us as a result of what we believe to be our magnetic attractiveness. This becomesa dragon that needs to be fed regularly and when the food is threatened, as it will be every day, theanxiety will dispatch any happiness with clinical efficiency.
 
The Sensitive Mask
 
This is a popular mask worn when we see ourselves as the one who cares most and best. We arealways on the lookout for opportunities to ‘be there’ for others in their emotional and personal crisis.

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