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12 Simple Secrets of Happiness

12 Simple Secrets of Happiness

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Published by BestSummaries.com, Building 3005 Unit 258, 4440 NW 73rd Ave, Miami, Florida 33166 © 2003 BestSummaries.com. All rights reserved. No part of this summary may be reproduced or transmittedin any form or by any means, electronic, photocopying, or otherwise, without prior notice ofBestSummaries.com. Copyright © 1997 by Colin Rose and Malcolm J. Nicholl.
Wisdom in a Nutshell
isdom in a Nutshell
If you are looking for a guide to human relationships, this is the simple andwonderful way to discover how we can enhance our joy in other people. If youare looking for a way to manipulate others into doing your bidding, this is notthe book for you. The 12 Simple Secrets are outlined with clarity, they are:
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Generosity
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Hope
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Kindness
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Friendship
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Empathy
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Love
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Forgiveness
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Acceptance
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Understanding
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Encouragement
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Communication
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GratitudeIf you are seeking more out of life and your relationships, this is the book foryou. Become the person everyone loves to be around. Loaded with usefuladvice to help you in nurturing friendships, marriages, family, and workrelationships, in easily digestible chapters, 12 Simple Secrets of Happiness isa life manual stemming from the universal rules of unconditional love andrespect. Learn to accept people for who they are, identify what people need tofeel good about themselves, make your relationships blossom, get along withdifficult people, effectively deal with conflict, develop a sincere interest inothers, build on people's positive qualities, encourage, and forgive.
 
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Finding Joy in Everyday Relationships
inding Joy in Everyday Relationships
 Author:
Glenn Van Ekeren
Publisher:
Prentice Hall Press
Date of Publication:
2000
ISBN:
 
No. of Pages:
195 pages0735201390
 
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Generosity
The joy of a giving spirit
Hope
How do you make people feel?
What kind of person can selflessly give up his or herown success so someone else can reach his goal?In this modern dog-eat-dog world, few people stepoff the track and allow someone else to receive theglory. Sacrifice something so someone else can behappy.Practice random acts of kindness. "Kindness is theoil that takes the friction out of life." You can never betoo kind.Don't waste time on gossip. If you have nothinggood to say about another person, then keep yourmouth shut! People tend to indulge in gossipbecause they want to look better than the personbeing spoken of. Learn to speak of others graciouslyas you would want to be spoken of.People tend to avoid those who make them feelinadequate.Be somebody that people simply love to be around.How? By encouraging and supporting their dreams,appreciating their efforts, celebrating theirachievements as if they were your own. When weencourage our friends and family to be the best theycan be, we nurture them inside and build hope.Giving hope to people will make you a socialmagnet.Don't think that merely donating some time ormoney to your charity of choice is the answer. Youneed to give to people who have absolutely no wayto repay you, without ever expecting anything inreturn. They don't even have to know that you aretheir benefactor. Give unselfishly and you will seethat what you sow today is exactly what you will reapat the end of your days. People will love youbecause they know you gave of yourself unselfishly.Send a letter of encouragement to someone today!Thank the person for something she or he has donerecently. Thank that person for being uniquelyherself. Tell her something positive about herself
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The joy of a giving spiritHow do you make people feel?
and brighten up her day. Make a sincere complimentand offer your support in her current project orcongratulate her on a job well done.Every year you have 365 chances to make aprofound difference in somebody else's life. It maybe so easy to find fault in others, but how often do wepick up that pen or write that email that makessomebody's day? When was the last time you toldyour kids how proud you are of them?Hard to swallow but true, "Our worst fault is ourpreoccupation with the faults of others" - as KahlilGibran wrote. Before you begin finding fault, why notstart with yourself? What is there to improve in yourcharacter? How about your general appearance?Criticize yourself as harshly as you would criticizeothers. We put down others to make ourselves lookbetter in comparison, but when you actuallycompare yourself to that person you despise, youmay just discover something scary: The truth aboutyourself. Perhaps you need to take a good long lookin the mirror before you open your mouth to criticizeagain.If you really want to help others, start with a spirit ofaffirmation. Here are some pointers:
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Uphold people's self-esteem. Be gentle andkind. If you must give negative feedback,start first with offering positive affirmation.
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Focus on abilities rather thanvulnerabilities. Find something that personis good at and praise him for it.
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Check your motives. If you take the slightest
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Fault Finding is a Bad Habit!
Kindness
Fault Finding is a Bad Habit!
 
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"You can make more friends in two monthsby becoming really interested in other peoplethan you can in two years by tryingto get other people interested in you."
-Dale Carnegie
"You can make more friends in two monthsby becoming really interested in other peoplethan you can in two years by tryingto get other people interested in you."
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pleasure in criticizing someone -hold yourtongue. If it is painful for you, proceed withcaution.
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Keep your attitude in check. Just becauseyou had a terrible day at work or the bossyelled at you doesn't mean you should yellat your subordinates too.
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Offer to help.
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Tell yourself to meet one new person eachweek.
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Step out of your comfort zone and introduceyourself to someone new. You'll besurprised how easy it is to strike up aconversation when you show you aregenuinely interested in meeting this newperson. Some people make it a point totravel to a new place each year. Expandyour circle of influence and see how muchyou grow as a person.
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Be the first to say hello and the last to stophugging.
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Always say "please" and "thank you”
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"A warm smile is the universal language ofkindness.”
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Allow people to go in front of you in thegrocery line, or let others change lanes inheavy traffic.
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Open the door for others.Success and fulfillment in life are in direct proportionto the investment we make in people. If somebodyspent one whole day with you, would he feel filled upor sucked dry?
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Show your gratitude
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Encourage and give positive reinforcement
Friendship
Your best friend is the one who brings out the best in you.
Friendship
Your best friend is the one who brings out the best in you.
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Have faith in people
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Express your love
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Light up any room you enter
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And what about marriage?These relationships require a healthy amount ofindependence from both partners. Spouses mustseek to complement each other. The danger lies inone partner becoming too dependent on the other. Asmuch as you need to make a date to spend qualityprivate time as a couple once a week, you also needto book quality time for yourself.You can tell a great person by the number of peoplewho come to mourn at his funeral. How many dayswould go by before anyone noticed you weremissing? When you reach out and invest time andenergy in helping others, being kind to others andsimply welcoming others, you will see a profounddifference in the quality of your relationships, and youwill have gathered around you people who truly loveyou because of how well you treated them.
On getting even.
When someone deals you a harshblow, dumps trash in your backyard, or shows youcruelty, repay him with a noble gesture. Give himsomething he needs or speak well of him. Thatperson will feel embarrassed by how he hasbehaved, while you walk away looking like a class act.
Collaborate.
It takes two people to make a marriagework. It takes a team effort to win a championship. Ittakes a staff to bring in bigger profits. Life is aboutcollaboration. In anything you do, you will have to dealwith people. Human beings have evolved as socialanimals. We were designed to help each other out tosurvive.
Empathy
Reach out and touch someone, corny as it sounds. It actually work
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Empathy
Reach out and touch someone, corny as it sounds. It actually work
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"Never lose sight of the fact that the most important yardstick of your success will behow you treat other people- your family, friends, and co-workers, even strangers youmeet along the way."
-Barbara Bush
"Never lose sight of the fact that the mostimportant yardstick of your success will behow you treat other people- your family,friends, and co-workers, even strangers youmeet along the way."
-Barbara Bush
 
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The purpose of life is not to win. It is togrow and to share. You will get more satisfactionout of life from the pleasure you have brought into other people's lives than you will from thetimes you outdid and defeated them."
-Rabbi Harold Kushne
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The purpose of life is not to win. It is togrow and to share. You will get more satisfactionout of life from the pleasure you have broughtinto other people's lives than you will from thetimes you outdid and defeated them."
-Rabbi Harold Kushner
 
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