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    Total Sex Addiction Recovery - a Guide to Therapy: A Guide to Therapy
    Total Sex Addiction Recovery - a Guide to Therapy: A Guide to Therapy
    Total Sex Addiction Recovery - a Guide to Therapy: A Guide to Therapy
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    Total Sex Addiction Recovery - a Guide to Therapy: A Guide to Therapy

    By Dorothy Hayden

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    This new book by Dorothy Hayden sheds new light on sexual addiction
    and its many forms of treatment. It is a comprehensive guide that adds
    practical strategies and therapy tools for how to address sufferers from sexual
    addiction. This book is a must-have for clinicians as it provides effective
    tools on how to address individuals, couples, and groups struggling with
    this condition. Overall, the blend of academic and real-life case studies
    throughout each chapter will help readers move in their journey toward
    recovery.Dr. Kimberly S. Youngfounder and director, the Center for
    Internet Addiction Recovery and author of Tangled in the Web: Understanding
    Cybersex from Fantasy to Addiction
    Great stuff! Solid information for those who are looking for real help
    from this insidious issue. A comprehensive overview of sexual addiction
    and treatment modalities. Its staying on MY short list of recommended
    books for our clients here at Compulsion Solutions.
    George N. Collins, Director
    Compulsion Solutions
    Author of Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn
    Obsession, and Shame
    Co-author of A Couples Guide to Sexual Addiction
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherXlibris US
    Release dateMar 7, 2013
    ISBN9781465374677
    Total Sex Addiction Recovery - a Guide to Therapy: A Guide to Therapy
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    Dorothy Hayden

    Dorothy Hayden, LCSW has been treating addiction, in particular sex addiction, for 15 years. She was trained in sex addiction therapy by Patrick Carnes, PhD. (“Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sex Addiction”) Ms. Hayden’s education began at Montclair University. For graduate training she received an MBA from Baruch College and an MSW from New York University. An enthusiastic student of Contemporary Psychoanalysis, she took the four-year program in Adult Psychoanalysis at the Post Graduate Center in Manhattan. She also attended the Object Relations Institute for a year of advanced training and has undergone a year’s training in analytic Couples Counseling at the Training Institute for Mental Health. Dorothy also has training in hypnotherapy and in Neuro-Linguisitc Programming (NLP) and has attending training in Cognitive/Behavioral Therapy with Albert Ellis, the grandfather of Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy. Media interviews include: ABC’s “20/20 interview about cybersex; British HBO document about the dark side and the spiritual side of sexuality; Anderson Cooper’s 360, as well an interview on CNN about pornography. She is regular guest on WBAI about things sexual. Ms. Hayden is a published author, having written and published over 25 articles on sex addiction and “the perversions”. She is a member of the Society for Sexual Health.

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      Total Sex Addiction Recovery - a Guide to Therapy - Dorothy Hayden

      Total Sex Addiction Recovery

      A Guide to Therapy

      Dorothy Hayden

      Copyright © 2013 by Dorothy Hayden.

      ISBN:   Ebook   978-1-4653-7467-7

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the copyright owner.

      Rev. date: 02/25/2013

      Xlibris Corporation

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      CONTENTS

      Forward

      Preface

      Acknowledgements

      Introduction: What is Addiction?

      Chapter 1 What is Sex Addiction?

      Chapter 2 Goal and Objectives of Sex Addiction Recovery

      Chapter 3 Treatment for Sex Addiction: Relapse Prevention

      Chapter 4 Cognitive Therapy

      Chapter 5 Psychodynamic Psychotherapy

      Chapter 6 Group Therapy

      Chapter 7 Couples Counseling

      Chapter 8 12-Step Groups

      Chapter 9 Hypnotherapy

      Chapter 10 Neuro-Linguistic Programming

      Chapter 11 Psychopharmacology

      Chapter 12 Mindfulness Meditation

      Chapter 13 Brainlock—a Behavioral Modification Program

      Chapter 14 Fulfilling Your Sexual Potential in Recovery

      Suggested Reading

      About the Author

      This new book by Dorothy Hayden sheds new light on sexual addiction and its many forms of treatment. It is a comprehensive guide that adds practical strategies and therapy tools for how to address sufferers from sexual addiction. This book is a must-have for clinicians as it provides effective tools on how to address individuals, couples, and groups struggling with this condition. Overall, the blend of academic and real-life case studies throughout each chapter will help readers move in their journey toward recovery.—Dr. Kimberly S. Young—founder and director, the Center for Internet Addiction Recovery and author of Tangled in the Web: Understanding Cybersex from Fantasy to Addiction

      Great stuff! Solid information for those who are looking for real help from this insidious issue. A comprehensive overview of sexual addiction and treatment modalities. It’s staying on MY short list of recommended books for our clients here at Compulsion Solutions.

      George N. Collins, Director

      Compulsion Solutions

      Author of Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame

      Co-author of A Couple’s Guide to Sexual Addiction

      Dedication

      This book is dedicated to Dorothy Hayden, Sr., mother and friend, who introduced me to the joy of learning. It is also dedicated to the millions of individuals world-wide who suffer the pangs of active addiction. Please know—what we have done, you, too, can do.

      Forward

      Since the internet went mainstream only 20 years ago, its accessibility, affordability and anonymity has spawned an eruption in the numbers of people seeking clinical treatment for sexual addiction. This increased variety of internet-based sexual content, together with the explosion of sexual hooking up via smart phone apps and social media is veritably changing the nature of human sexuality.

      It is estimated that three to six percent of the general U.S. population suffers from some form of addictive sexual behavior with self or others. However, the current lack of a universally recognizable clinical diagnosis—combined with a dearth of publicly funded research and ongoing cultural shame and stigma regarding sexual disorders in general—likely prevents many more individuals from identifying the problem and seeking help. The numbers of people who suffer in silence from this addiction are staggering.

      In the current debate about whether or not to include hypersexual disorder (Sex Addiction) in the new DSM-V, those who seek to hold it back from achieving an official diagnosis have stated that we simply do not have the empirical science to establish causality or pathogenesis for sexual behavior disorders.

      Available statistics are startling, indeed. According to US News and World Report, the pornography industry takes in more than $8 billion a year, which is more than rock and country music, and more than all Broadway productions, theater, ballet, jazz and classical music combined.

      •   Every second, 28,258 internet users are viewing pornography.

      •   Eighty percent of our children age 15-17 have had multiple hard-core exposures to internet porn.

      •   Pornography is big business—with $10 billion to $14 billion in annual sales. The author of an article in the New York Times Magazine, Frank Rich, suggests that pornography is bigger than any of the major league sports, perhaps bigger than Hollywood. Porn is "no longer a sideshow to the mainstream . . . it is the mainstream," he says.

      As the problem of sex addiction has bounded forward in the last decade, research into new methodologies for treatment is just keeping its head above water. Although a number of excellent books about sex addiction treatment are on the market, supply has not kept track with peoples’ hunger for new ideas about how to escape the stronghold of this addiction.

      Total Sexual Addiction Recovery—A Guide to Therapy makes a new contribution to the field. Besides offering an overview of the nature of the beast and information about how to achieve fulfilling sex during and after recovery, the book offers numerous chapters about how existing therapy methods can be used to treat sex addiction. The end result is that the reader is given a breath and depth of understanding about what a comprehensive therapy program for sex addiction might look like.

      Who better to write this particular book than Dorothy Hayden? Dorothy and I have been aware of each other’s careers for 15 years, in the days that we were both the singular writers about sex addiction for PsychCentral.com. Ms. Hayden is not only trained in sex addiction, but has remained an astute student of contemporary psychoanalysis. She’s the rare combination in a therapist of one who has not only the concrete skills of an addiction counselor, but the psychological sophistication to understand and treat all aspects of the addict’s personality.

      Put this together with her over-30 years of personal recovery in a 12-step program, her training in Hypnosis and Neuro-Linguisitic Program, Group and Couples Counseling, and you have the exact person to write a book about the multi-dimensional aspects of sex addiction treatment.

      Dorothy not only helps people to stop compulsive, destructive sexual acting out, but she uses her analytic skills to pull the disorder out from its roots for the fortunate who have been her clients.

      Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S

      Founding Director of The Sexual Recovery Institute

      Director of Sexual Disorders Services at Elements

      Behavioral Health and The Ranch.

      Preface

      I wrote this book because I saw a need for current sex addiction treatment models to become more comprehensive in its approach). Existing sex treatment centers focus mostly on behavioral modification skills to stop compulsive sexual acting out. However, the high rate of people who repeatedly return to their preferred sexual behavior despite treatment attests to the fact that current treatment philosophy is insufficient to achieve satisfactory results.

      I hope to present an understanding of addiction in general and sex addiction in particular that brings a previously undeveloped depth and breath of knowledge to the field. If sexual acting out is the tip of the iceberg, representing a symptom of the problem, the personality deficits that give rise to addiction are the bottom of the iceberg. These deficits need to be addressed and healed for there to be any significant improvement in the person’s overall life satisfaction.

      Treatment that merely stops the sexual acting out is no treatment at all. The symptom can clear up, but what gave rise to the addiction behavior can remain. Sex is not the problem in sex addiction. The problem lies much deeper. Sexual acting out is merely the symptom; total recovery is assured from the use of different therapeutic techniques that go blow the surface of the iceberg (DEL) to heal the personality problems that give rise to the unwanted behavior. The comprehensive treatment suggested in this book pulls out the problem up by its roots.

      This book differs from other books about treatment because it offers looks into a number of different therapies that help individuals recover. While some of the techniques promote abstinence from the unwanted behavior, others deal with such things as resolving childhood abuse, conflicts, recovery from emotional, physical or sexual abuse, changing the thoughts and beliefs that keep the addiction alive, learning self-soothing techniques to replace the sense of safety and soothing found in the addiction, addressing the intimacy dysfunction is concomitant with the disease, and changing the person’s arousal template from deviant, compulsive sex to experiencing del related sex that is vital, alive, exciting and that can bring someone to the heights of sexual ecstasy.

      The book is divided into three parts. The first part offers a discussion on the nature of addiction itself and provides a multi-dimensional look at the phenomenon of sex addiction. You must know the enemy before you can do battle with it.

      The second part of the book describes different therapeutic methods that can be used in sex addiction recovery. My hope is that familiarity with these various techniques will give you a deeper understanding of the compulsion and provide you with the hope that not only does treatment work in addiction recovery, that there are various ways that it can be achieved.

      Finally, the third part of the book could just as well be entitled Is There Sex After the Revolution? Most books about sex addiction, and most treatment philosophies, don’t offer a replacement for sexual abstinence. Sex is such a pivotal part of who we are and is so much fun, who wants to be abstinent from it? The final chapter seeks to provide you with ideas and techniques to achieve full sexual potential. The pleasure of related, connected sex will make the fleeting pleasure of addictive behavior seem like child’s play.

      My true motivation for the writing the book is to deliver one predominant message: There is hope. There is a way to go. There is an end to the

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