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Divorce Advice For the Christian

Divorce Advice For the Christian

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 ==== ====Divorce helpdivorce.shared4u2.com ==== ====With every marriage covenant made between a man and a woman, there is also a Christiandivorce option. If fact, the twenty-first century has taken divorce to a new level. This "modern"attitude is a far cry from the teachings of divorce found in the Old Testament as well as the NewTestament. For the Christian in a monogamous marriage, divorce should not even be a questionto consider, however it has certainly become one. By definition, divorce is "a legal dissolution of the marriage relation." Yet to the modern marriage,Christian divorce can be simply defined as a convenience. In 1948, Harvard sociologist Pitirim A. Sorokin noticed a change and even a disintegration of theAmerican Society. Of his findings he wrote: An illiterate society can survive, but a thoroughly antisocial society cannot. Until recently the familywas the principle school of socialization for the newborn human animals, rendering them fit forsocial life. At present this vital mission is performed less and less by the family. Sorokin's concern was triggered by what he thought was an alarming change in the divorce ratewithin America. He had seen the divorce rate rise from 1 in 10 in 1910 to 1 in 4 in 1948. The divorce rate had risen from 10 percent to 25 percent in just thirty eight years. That is anincrease of 150 percent. It would be nice to assume that the divorce rate has leveled off, but that isnot the case. By 1970, 2 out of 5, or 40 percent of marriages ended in divorce. In 1973 the number of marriagesending in divorce had grown to 50 percent. In the 63 years since 1910 to 1973, divorce has seenan increase of 400 percent. Now in the twenty-first century, marriage breakups are an epidemic.Few people, including the children involved, are untouched by the lasting scars of divorce. Divorce is so much common place in society today that even the laws of the land provide a varietyof grounds for a legal divorce. Suffering physical and mental cruelty and adultery are all legalreasons for divorce. In fact, it is not uncommon in our nation to be granted a divorce for no reasonat all. Adopted by society is the no-fault grounds for divorce in which the spouse no longer mustprove that the other has committed a marital wrong. Unlike the North American society, the Bible has taken a clear stance on Christian divorce. Thedivine ideal for marriage in scripture is clearly a lifelong bond which unites husband and wife in a"one flesh" relationship (Gen. 2:24; Matt. 19:5). The marriage union is a holy condition founded by God and is not to be dissolved at the will of
human beings (Matt. 19:6). In fact, separations of the marriage bond displease God. The prophetMalachi expressed this when he wrote, "And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth.For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one's garments with violence"(Mal. 2:15-16). The Law of Moses seemed to allow a man to divorce his wife when she found "no favor in hiseyes, because he has found some uncleanness in her" (Deut. 24:1). The main purpose of this lawwas to prevent the husband from taking her again after she had married another man, "anabomination before the Lord" (Deut. 24:4). This law was not intended to encourage divorce, ratherit was meant to discourage it. A public document known as a "certificate of divorce" was grantedthe woman. This permitted her the right to remarry without civil or religious sanction. For the Jewin the Old Testament, divorce could not be done privately. The Mosaic Law called for severe penalties for certain types of "uncleanness." Adultery carried thedeath penalty by stoning for the woman. A man who believed that his wife was not a virgin whenhe married her could have her judged by the elders of the city. If they found her guilty, she couldbe put to death (Deut. 22:13-21). Even though a man was allowed to divorce his wife, the wife was not allowed to divorce herhusband for any reason. Legally the wife was bound to her husband as long as they both lived oruntil he divorced her (1 Cor. 7:39). In Jesus' day, there was much confusion about the grounds for divorce. Even the rabbis, Shammaiand Hillel, could not agree on what constituted the "uncleanness" of Deuteronomy 24:1.7 Followers of Rabbi Shammai felt adultery, or any moral delinquency in the woman, was the onlygrounds for divorce. Those who followed Rabbi Hillel were more liberal and accepted manyreasons, including such things as poor cooking. The gospels record four statements by Jesus concerning Christian divorce. In two of thesestatements Jesus allowed divorce in the case of adultery. Jesus comments on the situation of boththe woman and her new husband in Matthew 5:32. He said, "Whoever divorces his wife for anyreason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a womanwho is divorced commits adultery." In another statement, Jesus describes the position of the man who divorced his wife. Jesus statesthat, "Whoever divorces his wife except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commitsadultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery" (Matt. 19:9). While these two statements seem to allow Christian divorce because of unfaithfulness, two otherstatements made by Jesus seem to make no stipulation for divorce (Mark 10:11-12; Luke 16:18). In light of these two differing statements by Jesus, there is reason to wonder what was the intentof Jesus concerning divorce and moreover, Christian Divorce. Jesus' statements in Mark and Lukewere made in conversations with Pharisees about the Mosaic Law. The Pharisees believed divorce was allowed on grounds other than adultery (Deut. 24:1-4). Jesus'main point in these statements was that divorce is contrary to God's plan for marriage and should
never be taken lightly. Even though Moses allowed divorce, this was an exception granted underthe law because of their "hardness" of heart (Mark 10:5).9 Even if the divorced couple had notbeen sexually unfaithful to each other, they would commit adultery in God's sight if they marriedother partners. By allowing divorce for the reason of "immorality," or illicit sexual intercourse, Jesus' perception isthat a person dissolves his marriage by creating a sexual union with someone other than themarriage partner. Adultery violates the sacred "oneness" intended by God when he united Adamand Eve in the first marriage relationship (Gen. 2:18-25). Christian Divorce on the grounds of adultery may seem to free the innocent partner to remarrywithout guilt (Matt. 19:9). However, this is sometimes questioned. Even though Jesus alloweddivorce for adultery, He did not require it. Instead Jesus insisted that divorce disrupts God's planfor marriage and left the way open for repentance and forgiveness. Paul was essentially in agreement with Jesus' teachings on marriage and Christian divorce. Paul,however, was forced to deal with new situations involving divorce between two believers andbetween a believer and an unbeliever. For the two believers, Paul exhorts them to follow theLord's teachings and be reconciled. Under no circumstances is either allowed to marry again (1Cor. 7:10-11). In 1 Corinthians 7:15, Paul says that a Christian whose mate has abandoned the marriage shouldbe free to go through with the divorce. Paul says that, "If the unbeliever departs, let him depart; abrother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases." Many scholars hold that the phrase "notunder bondage" means that a deserted Christian spouse may go from divorce to remarriage.However, other scholars disagree with this interpretation. Which ever the case may be, Paul stillencourages the believer to keep the marriage together in hopes that the unbelieving partner mightbe saved (1 Cor. 7:16). Since the time of Paul, Christian divorce has become as much of a "disease" as it is for those whochose to live an ungodly life. In fact, within Christian circles there is an attitude in which believersrationalize divorce by saying they "married the wrong person" and are therefore out of God's will.This type of thinking not only limits God, it also ignores the clear teachings of scripture in regardsto the marriage covenant. God does not make mistakes. When a believer says that they married the wrong person, it islimiting God. God could, and is willing to, turn a bad marriage into a healthy one. The Bible clearlystresses in clear terms the sanctity of marriage. This principle is clear throughout the entire Bible. From Genesis (2:24) through to the teachings ofJesus (Matt. 19:4-6) and Paul (Eph. 5:31), a committed and monogamous marriage isemphasized. The marriage commitment is a covenant that must not be broken while bothmembers live, even if they think they may have made a mistake. Marriage was instituted by God when He declared, "It is not good that man should be alone; I willmake him a helper comparable to him" (Gen. 2:18). For this reason God fashioned a woman andbrought her to Adam. On seeing the woman, Adam exclaimed, "This is now bone of my bones andflesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man" (Gen. 2:23).

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