with a cheating partner suffer emotionally, physically, and mentally. Divorce is usually the endresult. A wandering eye may lead to an innocent conversation, which may lead to a provocativeencounter. Traditional signs of infidelity consist but are not limited to; long hours unaccounted for,strange smells, coldness during sex, unexplained expenses, and changes in your spouse'sappearance and attitude. When a cheater is caught or suspicions begin to develop, the emotionalstress can be lead to erratic behavior. One might spy on the other. Privacy and trust fly out thewindow, while depression and anger sets in. Guilt can also eat away at a person. It makes that person stand-offish as well as paranoid to hisspouse, even though he is the one who cheated. A marriage can suffer severally from infidelity.Whatever problems a marriage might encounter, adultery is never a good resolution. Divorce isusually the outcome and the emotional damage can lead to future issues. All of these factors areimportant. Divorce in America are caused in many various and sad ways. The modern idea of "startermarriages" created by America's youth is definitely an unorthodox cause. Drug Addiction is aserious and growing cause of many marriages turning to divorce. Adultery is harming the valueand promise of what marriage truly is. If only more Americans tried not to rush into marriage. Ifthey just took the time to experience what a true relationship consists of before taking thepromised step, perhaps divorce rates would decrease and more marriages would succeed! Divorce in America brings a lot of baggage with it. It affects all that is involved and theconsequences can be damaging. The emotional welfare of divorces is unpredictable. Mentalstability can be a consequence that can affect the productivity in ones life. Also, children involvedin divorces can have a hard time coping with the separation of their parents. Divorce, is notnecessarily always negative, but it does always have consequences. The first topic concernsemotions. The emotional effects of divorce can be traumatic and filled with contradictory emotions. There arealso specific feelings, attitudes, and dynamics dealt by both the initiator and receiver of thedecision to breakup. For example, initiators are likely to experience fear, relief, distance,impatience, resentment, doubt and guilt. In a case of the receiver, it is not unusual for one toexperience shock, betrayal, victimization, and low self-esteem, insecurity loss of control, anger,desire to "get even" and hopes to reconcile. All of these emotions are typically felt and are normalas long as irrational behavior is not influenced. Stages of dealing and coping usually follow divorceand can take up to a couple years to fully get over. As one deals with the stage of divorce, one willtry to create ways to distance himself from his partner. Often, this distance develops into faultfinding. One will begin to exaggerate every flaw and fault in their spouse's physical being as wellas their character. This helps a little in the smoothing process of the separation. Another common and negative emotion expressed is the desperate need for vengeance. Thisneed is usually fueled by the feeling of being blameless. A lot of energy and planning can go intogetting even and the results can be nasty. Both, fault finding and vengeance are not necessaryand will hinder the healing process. Positive emotions such as acceptance, taking responsibility oftheir own actions, focusing on the future, and acting with integrity will be the ones that willinfluence moving on. Not only are emotions an important factor of consequences so is the mentaleffects.