ommandment #3: Set some goals
. That·s not the same as beingdisciplined. Discipline is setting your alarm at 5:00 a.m. and makingyourself get up when it goes off. Goal-setting is knowing
you setthe alarm at 5:00 a.m. in the first place.... What did you plan toachieve? How did you plan to achieve it? If you·ve ever done anysailing, you know that finding the wind isn·t always easy. If you don·thave any plans to go any place special, then any wind is the rightwind. But if you have a certain water-side restaurant that you wantto make by noon, then you need to pick a
direction andfind the
wind. Winners expect to win in advance. Life, for them,becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Choice, not chance, determinesdestiny. Make some choices; set some goals.
Learn to get along well with others
. HRD studiesreconfirm over and over again that people do not lose their jobsbecause they don·t have the technical know-how or skills. Morefrequently, the difficulty is that they can·t get along with other people.You may not please all the people all the time, but you can pleasemost of the people most of the time³if in no other way but by beingopen to their criticism. Weigh it against others· considerations.People seldom improve when they only have their own yardstick tomeasure themselves by. I can assure you I·ve made moreimprovements in my own life and in my own business as a result ofothers· criticism than their praise.Measure yourself with someone else·s yardstick occasionally. If onyour first job, your boss comments that you lose your temper tooeasily, and your parent or your spouse comments that you lose your temper too easily, and your friend comments you lose your temper too easily, it stands to reason that probably,... you lose your temper too easily. When you hear such feedback, listen before you deny it.Evaluate it. Weigh it. Do you think changes are in order?Regardless of criticism, to get along with other people, you have tocare about them genuinely. Live the Golden Rule and you·ll get thegold. The gold medal of love.... The gold medal of satisfaction.... Thegold medal of peace of mind.... Friends are some of God·s best giftsto us. We don·t have friends in our lives until we make room. Until we