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The Origins of Love

The Origins of Love

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Published by Bob Yacobucci
A discovery of the origins of Love.
A discovery of the origins of Love.

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The Origins of Love
By Bob Yacobucci February 12, 2012 I’ve wondered when the first person experienced “Love”, or how it came into existence. You know,the early monkeys (or is it apes?) we supposedly evolved from, when did they begin to “love” oneanother? Or maybe love began to surface after the apes evolved into the caveman. Maybe a cavemanwas dragging his mate by her hair (picture cartoon please), a rock dropped on his head, and it dawnedon him that he loved his mate, so he turned to her and said, “You woman, me love you!” Okay, enoughhumor, I think you get the point. At some point in time “Love” had to come into existence. Before we begin discussing when Love came into existence, let’s define the word, or should Isay, “define the words.” We hear phrases on a daily basis like: I love my car, I love my house, I lovegoing shopping, or I love watching football. Maybe the word “love” in these circumstances is onlymeant to be taken figuratively because it is not possible for humans to love objects or activities, atleast not in the context that we will be discussing. If there is some doubt in our mind about our abilityto love an activity, let’s consider the following sentence: “I love my child and I love going shopping.”Does the act of shopping and our child have the same level of affection? Would we be willing to dieto go shopping like we would for our child? Hopefully, we do not value our shopping experience asmuch as we do our child. But, unfortunately, the word love is used interchangeably between the typeof love a person has for an activity, and the type of love a person has for another person. So maybewe need to define “love” (lowercase) more appropriately to mean “really like”, while the word “Love”(uppercase) is bond between two people, a bond which attaches the soul of each person together, thatif separated, causes a deep pain and sense of void. Unfortunately, though, dictionaries appear to onlyhave the “love” definition. Maybe dictionaries should have both words defined since we interminglethese two words so often that we have totally destroyed the meaning of the word, “Love.” So to reduceconfusion in this article, we’ll be discussing the capitalized version of the word. Before we begin discussing where Love originated, I would like you to do something for me. If you’rereally going to get the message of this article, I need you to set this article aside for 30 seconds, andduring this time please close your eyes and think of someone that you really Love. This person mightbe your child, your spouse, a parent, a sibling, or a friend. Think of the Love you have for this person insome sort of context. The context may be an activity you do together, or it may be the way the personlaughs, the way they walk, or their sense of humor. Just think of something that will bring the Love youhave for this person to the surface. Now stop and think of this person for 30 seconds. This is the Lovewe’re going to be discussing. In the song, “What The World Needs Now (1965)”, by Jackie DeShannon, the song begins with thesewords: “What the world needs now is love, sweet love. It's the only thing that there's just too littleof.” John Lennon wrote a song called, “Imagine.” In this song, John didn’t use the world “Love” in hisPage
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lyrics which aspired to a harmonious world where people lived as “one.” I am assuming both artistswere dreaming since our world is still divided, and yes, there is still hate in the world. Maybe whatJackie mistakenly assumed is that she thought there’s just too little of Love to go around. Not true,there is more than enough Love to go around; it’s just hindered by the sinfulness of people whichkeeps it from spreading. And John, he sang about striving for a perfect world without mentioning Love.John’s approach was more of a humanistic approach. A humanistic approach is never going to workbecause we humans naturally gravitate to sin. Lust, greed, and selfishness are just a few of the sinfulpredispositions we have that hinders our ability to fully Love one another. So there is a battle going oninside each of us right now. We are capable of Love, and some of it surfaces, especially for the personwe thought about earlier, but our full ability to express unconditional Love for everyone is still hindered,at least for now it is. And what happens when we feel the absence of Love? We have all experienced the pain of lonelinessat some point in our life. When we feel alone and rejected by the world, we sense there is a huge gapin our heart. And in an effort to try to subdue the pain of loneliness, we attempt to “self-generate”Love to fill the gap. We want to create our own Love in an attempt to “spackle” over the hole in ourheart. We tend to start “looking for love in all the wrong places” (Lyrics from, “Lookin' for love” byWaylon Jennings). In an effort to fill this gap, we might purchase an expensive car, hurriedly rush intoa relationship, participate in promiscuous sex, or try to impress our friends by doing something wenormally would not do, all in an effort to attract attention to ourselves with the ultimate goal of feelingLoved. And when we learn that attention is not a substitute for Love, we fall into a sense of regret,neglect, disappointment, or worse, depression. And since Love cannot be self-generated, do we have the option of living without Love like animals doin the forest? Animals roam around in groups for the purpose of safety and reproduction, but I suspectif we humans acted the same way we’d be doomed to failure. For humans, Love is an important partof our daily interactions and we cannot escape this fact. We may do without Love for a bit of time, andthis is okay, but I suspect none of us desire to be without Love on a permanent basis. We inherentlyhave a deep desire to be “Loved” by another person, not because of basic survival instincts like animals,but instead, because we need to know another person values the uniqueness of who we are. In otherwords, we don’t want to be just a number, we want to know our existence matters to somebody else! Since Love is an integral part of who we are, we need to dig deep into understanding the origins of Love so that we may come to terms with ourselves. Is Love an internal emotion? Not really. Angeris an emotion. Despair is an emotion. Hopelessness is an emotion. Happiness is an emotion. Theseare emotions based on external interactions with our environment and each other. Love, on the otherhand, is a core desire we all have. As a motor needs electricity to function, we need Love to properlylive life. Just like the electricity for the motor is delivered through a wire, we need a source of Lovebecause it is external to us; we must receive it from others. And if others provide Love to us, where dothey receive it? An evolutionist may suggest we evolved from a pond, and if this were true, why wouldwe evolve to require something so greatly as Love which we ourselves cannot reproduce? And since wePage
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