“Make” Him Commit
Why is the title of this article “Make”
Commit? In general, women are only toohappy to commit and therein lies the problem. They usually want to move therelationship along faster than men do, whether it’s from casual dating to a monogamousrelationship to living together to getting married. They try to convince the man byineffective methods such as repeatedly talking about it, nagging, whining, threatening,issuing ultimatums, begging, crying and arguing. Would that type of behavior make
want to commit?What if I told you there was an easier way to achieve your goal? According to the book,Love Tactics, “It’s very possible that a person is
to love you but is not yetconsciously aware of it.” So how can you help your guy get in touch with hissubconscious feelings? What I’m about to tell you will go against every fiber in your being, every bone in your body, but it is, I believe, what usually works best when youwant to move a relationship to the next level. It is two simple words: Go away. Yes,that’s right, go away. I’d always heard that men fall in love “in the spaces”, that is, whenwe’re not around. Unlike women, who are usually quite aware of their feelings for someone, men usually get in touch with their feelings when they realize they miss their woman. If women are always there complaining and begging for a commitment, theymiss out on giving their man the gift of missing them.I was recently listening to a radio show where a young man in his early 20’s called in.Since I was taping the show at the time, I have his words verbatim: She would ignore meand I’d want her more. I would ignore her and she’d want me more. We’d both makeeach other retardedly jealous and then have great sex later. I guess she played me for solong and I played
for so long I’m actually starting to sadly have feelings…Now she’s back home for the summer for a month and for once I don’t feel like hooking up withanyone else. So I go hook up with another girl, what’s that gonna do for me?So here’s this young man who is faced with the situation of not seeing his girl for a monthand he realizes he has feelings for her. She didn’t need to do anything, except live her life and go home for a month.A similar situation happened to me. I was living in Italy with my boyfriend of 5 yearswhen I decided I wanted to check out Los Angeles and see if I wanted to live here. Theone time the “m” word had ever come up, he’d said rather smugly, “I’m never going tomarry you”. In typical Lucia fashion, I answered, “I don’t care.” I had been in L.A. for about a month when he called an asked me to marry him. He’d realized I was the one for him, he didn’t need to keep looking and he was willing to wait as long as it took. I hadnever discussed marriage with him, never had “the talk”. I just did my thing and when Iwasn’t around, my absence forced him to face his true feelings for me.