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Separation Varahamihira in his 'Bruhajjataka' adds: If there is a mix of good and bad planets in the 7th house, the native will have more than one marriage. This view is also supported by Kalayna Varma in his 'Saaravali'. 'Phaladeepika' says: If Venus or 7th lord is hemmed between malefics, or conjunct with malefics or aspected by malefics, it is a sign of losing the partner. Kalyana Varma in his 'Saaraavali' says: Mars in 7th house leads to loss of partner and if that Mars is aspected by Saturn, then death of partner can be predicted. The planets Saturn, Mars, Sun, Rahu and Kethu are considered natural malefic where as the planets Jupiter and Venus are natural benefic. When Saturn or Rahu involve with 7th house affairs, we can say the spouse has past life debts to be repaid in terms of marriage relationship. Saturn and Rahu represent separation, sometimes owing to the death of the spouse. If Mars is involved, then it denotes one of the partners becoming aggressive and wild thus spoiling the relation. Separation is indicated when 7th house lord is in the house of its enemy or if 7th lord is debilitated or 7th lord is receiving aspects from malefics or is in 'astangatva'. Astangatva represents close conjunction with Sun. Separation is indicated if 7th lord is posited in 6th, 8th or 12th houses and is weak. Here weakness represents conjunction with bad planets. Separation is indicated aspected by malefic planets. if 7th house is occupied by malefic planets or

In judging the horoscope the basic rule of "Separative Influence" is to be analysed which gives a clear view of its influences. The rule says that, "Sun, Saturn, Rahu and 12th house lord and lords of sign occupied by these planets are Separative" in character, that is to say, these planets cause separation from or abandonment of the traits of the house etc., which they influence by association or aspect. For example, if two or more of the above-mentioned planets influence the 4th house and its lord, one is forced to leave his home or country of birth. If they influence 7th house and its lord, one is separated from his wife or husband. If they influence 10th house and its lord and Sun, one has to be separated from the benefits of the ruling powers, viz. resigning from service, termination of service, change in profession, etc. So in view of these, we provide a few yogas:

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1) Jupiter in 7th house generally, even lord of 7th does bestow very un satisfactory results. He causes great disappointments and dissatisfaction in married life. He causes undue delay in marriage. 2) Marital disorder may occur seeking separation when Venus is found in Kritika, Moola, Aridra or Jyeshtha Nakshatras. Out of these Kritika is most inauspicious and gives very bad results. 3) When 7th lord is in 6th and afflicted by separative influence, there may be separation. Similarly, when 7th lord or significator joins the 6th lord and is afflicted by aspect or conjunction of malefics, similar results are likely. When strong Jupiter makes a link with the above combinations in any form, the separation may be saved but the husband and wife will experience quarrels. 4) 6th house denotes legal disputes and connection of malefic 6th lord with 7th house, 7th lord or significator may result in legal action and separation. Also when 7th lord or significator joins 6th house being afflicted by malefics. 5) When 7th house, 7th lord and significator all are afflicted, conjoined, associated or aspected by malefics, unhappiness in married life is indicated. Significators are Venus for males and Mars in case of females. 6) When Rahu and Saturn join Lagna, one is likely to face strife and separation in married life. When 7th lord is retrograde and is also afflicted, similar results are experienced. 7) When in a female chart, Aries or Scorpio Lagna rise and 7th lord is weak, combust, retrograde and is also afflicted, she will be abandoned by her husband. 8) If combination of Sun and Mars in either horoscope is in 2nd, 7th or 8th house, it holds out excellent prospects for discarding, separation and disunion. It does not necessarily involve loss of partner. 9) To analyse marriage, affliction to Venus by situation, association or aspects of malefics have an adverse effect on morals. Venus represents the other partner of marriage. 10) When lords of 2nd and 7th houses are in constellation of evil lords, particularly in the constellation of 6th lord and are afflicted, there will be separation, divorce, litigation etc between the couple. Kalathra Dosha The word Kalathra means spouse. Among the planets, Venus is the Kalathra karaka (planet indicating wife). Among the 12 houses, 7th house is the Kalathra sthana(house indicating spouse). Any malefic planet in 7th house creates Kalathra dosha. Also, kalathra dosha is created if the 7th lord and venus is afflicted in the birth chart. Kalathra dosha delays the marriage and it is very hard to find a suitable partner for marriage. Even after the marriage, they lack good understanding and live a separated life. They also lack conjugal bliss which ultimately ends up in divorce. In some cases, the

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spouse suffers due to health problems and even death may occur in severe cases. Similarly, 8th house is called as Mangalya sthana (house indicating marital tie). Malefic planets in 8th house create Mangalya dosha. Planet Jupiter is called as the Mangalya karaka (planet indicating marital tie). If the 8th lord, Jupiter and 8th house is afflicted, then the person faces trouble in marital life due to Mangalya dosha. Mangalya dosha will spoil the marriage life either by separating husband and wife by sending someone away from home or else by divorce or by giving death to the husband. Common effects of kalathra dosha: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Delay in marriage Unhappy marital life Misunderstandings Lack of conjugal bliss Separation or divorce Ill health to spouse Premature death of spouse

Mars Dosha: Mars in 7th or 8th house: Mars creates kalathra dosha in 7th house and Mangalya dosha in 8th house. This is also called as kuja dosha or Mangal Dosha. If Kalathra dosha is created by the fiery mars, better get your horoscope matched with a manglik person for a happy marital life. Manglik people are aggressive and angry prone. If mars is aspected by Jupiter, malefic effects of mars will be reduced much and they can make a happy marital life. Sani dasha: Saturn in 7th or 8th house: Saturn creates kalathra dosha in 7th house and Mangalya dosha in 8th house. This is also called as Sani dosha. Saturn dosha delays the marriage and marriage takes place only after the age of 30 in many cases unless otherwise a benefic planet aspects Saturn. Otherwise, the native marries a person who is very much older than the native. And this age difference would be more than eight. Or otherwise they may get married to a person who is darker in complexion or the one who is inferior by social status or wealth than the native. True affection from the heart will not be there between the couples. Naga Dosha: Rahu/Ketu in 7th or 8th house: Rahu or ketu creates kalathra dosha in 7th house and Mangalya dosha in 8th house. This is also called as Naga dosha. Naga dosha creates troubles in choosing a right partner for marriage. They are mostly disappointed in the marriage life even if married early. Health of the spouse may not be good. No good relationship with In-laws. They'll always be in a fear imagining that some unexpected event would occur. The spouse might speak lies or use deceiving words. Exceptions on Kalathra dosha and Mangalya dosha: 1. If Jupiter aspects the 7th house or 8th house, then the dosha get cancelled. 2. If the lord of the 7th or 8th house is strongly placed, then the dosha doesn't harm much 3. If the planet creating dosha is placed on its own house or exaltation house, then there is no dosha.

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Particular problems in marriage agreement related to graha placement Shani in 5 The strong 3rd drishti from Shani upon yuvati bhava = idleness and stagnation in marriage. Boredom, unresolved frustration with negative habits of the spouse, and stubborn resistance to change while burdened with responsibilities for children. Stays in the marriage "for the children". Lord Shani is a force of orderliness therefore Shani alone will not enforce a divorce. But if other factors pressure a split, one of the long-term grievances of the abandoning partner may well be endurance of decades of "motion without progress" due to the stubborn resistance (Shani) of the spouse preventing any creative forward movement on matters of lingering disagreement. Conflict resolution is stalled and a pattern of work exhaustion combined with a focus on the routines of child-raising and structured entertainments (such as family vacations, school performances, sports competitions etc) tend to replace intimate marital communication. This is a rather long-term problem and it may indeed persist until death do them part.

Simha in lagna Simha or Chandra lagna faces a special set of marriage challenges. kalatrakaraka Shukra + 7th lord Shani are both enemies of lagna lord Surya. The Simha native requires an inordinate amount of attention, however the spouse tends to be focused on the external network of social relationships to the exclusion (or so it feels) of the intimate needs of the native. One may feel sidelined, or simply deprived of that focused, exclusive praising attention which Simha demands. Slightly more acute for the Simha-Chandra than for the Simha-lagna. If Simha Chandra is in rasi lagna, the perceived shortfall of personal attention, regardless of abundant attention received from the public audience, lacking from the spouse may be too much for the native to bear in marriage and divorce may result. Dhanus lagna Dhanus in lagna or Chandra lagna faces a special set of marriage challenges. Kalatrakaraka Shukra who is both 6th lord and 11th lord is the enemy of lagna lord Guru. Lord of 7th House, Budha is the enemy of lagna lord Guru. Guru-Budha animosity is responsible for contempt or patronizing attitudes in marriage. Guru who can be identified with humanistic philosophical native may become highly frustrated with the commercialized, wisdom-adversarial Budha as the behaviors of the spouse. Meena lagna Meena in lagna or Chandra lagna faces a special set of marriage challenges. Kalatrakaraka Shukra who is the 3rd and 8th Lord is the enemy of lagna lord Guru 7th Lord Budha is the enemy of lagna lord Guru. Guru-Budha animosity is responsible for contempt or patronizing attitudes in marriage.

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Guru who can be identified humanistic philosophical native may become highly frustrated with the commercialized, wisdom-adversarial Budha-behaviors of the spouse. Material Dissolution of legal marriage contract, splitting of assets, reversal of vows: Occurs in period of 6th Lord. (6th-from-Chandra dissolves the emotional balance, but physical matters are best judged from Rasi lagna.) Depending on the nature of the break-up and the rasi lagna of the nativity, a formal dissolution of marriage might occur quite some time after the psychic "death" which tells the native or the spouse that the marriage is finished. (See the table of lagnas for divorce.) Formal Dissolution of the marital financial estate may occur in period of 7th Lord who is 12th from 8th attorneys, advisors, court arguments, restoration of balance. Gochara Rahu/Ketu will return to a partnership lagna: o to nodal axis in rasi o to nodal axis in navamsha o to lagna axis of rasi o to lagna axis of navamsha o to axis of rasi Moon Ketu: Alienation and detachment: If 12th Lord is also lord of Ketu, the native is personally alienated or disconnected from the matters of the house in which Ketu resides. If 6th Lord is also the lord of Ketu, disagreements with others are not acknowledged, the native acts hostile toward others but does not see his own role in creating conflict. If Shani is house dispositor Ketu, somber neutrality and detachment applies to the matters of the house in which Ketu resides. If Ketu is with Moon, in any domain, the native is emotional detached from life. (The native may be a successful person with a good home and family; but their underlying emotional connection is weak.) If Ketu occupies 7th bhava in either rasi or navamsha, the native is disconnected and alienated in marriage. (There may be plenty of external indications of success, but the interior of the marriage relationship is disconnected.) Sometimes the spouse is a spiritual figure, but normally the partner is inaccessible emotionally, and marriage is alienated. If Ketu occupies 2nd bhava, the same alienation (cultural, religious, emotional, physical) with the second spouse. And the same repeating attempts to keep connecting. Lord of 12th House If 12th Lord is also a benefic,(natural or temporal) the alienation experience may have some highly positive aspects, such as the intrigue of foreign travel or long periods of fruitful seclusion in a research or meditation sanctuary space. Alienation can be a good and necessary thing for the accomplishment of certain goals. Typically the period of 12th Lord causes the native to leave their own country or habitual social culture during the bhukti.

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If 12th Lord is also a malefic, there is physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual imprisonment. (For Vrishabha lagna and Dhanusha lagna, the alienating behavior of the spouse may be aggressive.) For marriage, The period of 12th Lord as 6th from 7th does give alienation from the spouse. If 12th Lord is a benefic, the reasons for alienation may be good and ultimately beneficial, such as the spouse is working on profitable foreign business; or the spouse is in seclusion for professional reasons, for research or mediation; or the spouse is taking valuable medical treatment. If 12th Lord is malefic, the alienation is bitter and feels effortful (karmic). Finding whether Separation in a Marriage is heading towards Divorce? Overall condition of 7th bhava and 7th navamsha. A strong 7th bhava will withstand the siege of all divorce factors, including periods of 12th Lord. If the spouse in question is 2nd or subsequent marriage, check the lagnas for those marriages. If 12th Lord is benefic, there may be genuine benefits coming from the alienation. Benefic 12th Lord may not be a harbinger of later divorce unless there is a connection between Ketu and 12th Lord. If 12th Lord is malefic and the client is reporting a rough time, check the overall strength of 12th Lord in D-1 and D-9. Check also the next occurrence of Vimshottari bhukti of 2nd Lord or 8th Lord, which are the karakas for divorce. Vimshottari divorce lords for the lagnas Lagna 6th Lord / 12th Lord - Rashi-pati for "loss of agreement" ie., conflict, animosity and ill-will 2nd Lord / 8th Lord Rashi pati for death of partner, or divorce Mesha - Budha, Guru, Shukra, Kuja Vrishabha - Shukra, Kuja, Budha, Guru Mithuna - Shukra, Kuja, Chandra, Shani Karka - Budha, Guru, Surya, Shani Simha - Chandra, Shani, Budha, Guru Kanya - Surya, Shani,Shukra, Kuja Thula - Budha, Guru, Shukra, Kuja Vrischika - Shukra, Kuja, Budha, Guru Dhanusha - Shukra, Kuja, Chandra, Shani Makara - Budha, Guru,Surya, Shani Kumbha - Surya, Shani, Budha, Guru Meena - Surya, Shani, Shukra, Kuja

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Timing Marital conflict Vimshottari dasha timing sequences for the 12 lagnas Mesha lagna, Vimshottari period of the conflict-trigger 6th Lord Budha, is followed immediately the "I give up" Ketu period, then by the divorce-trigger 2nd Lord Shukra period. Ketu does gives time for stabilization or cool-down between the 6th Lord irritation and the 8th Lord "dead to me" experience, but Ketu can also exacerbate separative tendencies. If 6th Lord, Ketu, and 2nd Lords are strong, Mesha can experience a divorce during this bhukti sequence. Also applies to Mesha Chandra. (This sequence cannot occur in Ketu Mahadasha or Shukra Mahadasha . For Vrishabha lagna, the period of 12th Lord Kuja signals imbalance and aggressive disagreeableness for the spouse also gives withdrawal for the native. Kuja bhukti is followed by Rahu bhukti, which can enflame the passions and generate some acting-out. After Rahu's wild time comes the period of 8th Lord, Guru. Check the strength of the graha involved. (This sequence cannot occur in Rahu Mahadasha or Guru Mahadasha. For Simha lagna, periods of 6th Lord Shani can be especially taxing, and they are followed inexorably by periods of 2nd Lord Budha. Unless supported by benefics, Simha has a notoriously difficult time in marriage for this and other reasons. For Thula Lagna, it has the reverse sequence to Mesha: Vimshottari period of the detachmenttrigger 12th Lord, Budha, is followed immediately by the divorce-trigger 8th Lord Shukra. Little time for recovery of engagement between the withdrawing of 12th Lord and the 8th Lord "dead to me" experience which dissolves the union. If 8th and 12th Lords are both strong, Thula can experience a divorce during this bhukti sequence. Also applies to Thula Chandra. Vrischika Lagna has the reverse sequence to Vrishabha, with identical results: 6th Lord spousal animosity from Kuja bhukti is followed by Rahu bhukti, which can enflame the passions and generate some acting-out. After Rahu's wild time comes period of 2nd Lord Guru. Check the strength of the graha involved. Makara lagna, period of L-12 Guru for spouse's illness or animosity, is followed by period of 2nd Lord Shani for divorce. Shani is a natural malefic so this setup is worth watching during the relevant Vimshottari periods. For Kumbha lagna, period of 12th Lord Shani period for spouse's illness or animosity, is followed by period of 8th Lord Budha for divorce. Budha is not a natural malefic like Shani but Budha can still cause trouble! Mithuna, Karka, Kanya, Dhanau, and Meena lagnas have no back-to back conflict-divorce periods. Type of Divorce The total experience of divorce(social, emotional, physical, psychological, financial, familial, etc.) is defined primarily by the conditions of 8th bhava and its lord. If 8th Lord is in an auspicious graha, divorce may be amicable or gainful. If 8th Lord is a malefic, expect difficulties. If 8th Lord is a neutral planet (Budha in favorable rashis for Vrishabha, Kumbha lagnas) divorce may give a sense of neither loss nor gain, but simply moving on through the cycle of life.

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Planet(s) in occupation of 8th bhava suggest involvement with secret matters. The scope of bhava-8 includes, but is not limited to, secret extramarital sexual relationships. Placement of Lord of 8th House - Some Divorce Effects (must be combined with the natal conditions of 8th bhava, 8th from Chandra, drishti etc.) st 1 House The divorce experience (if indicated) shapes the native's personality. This native is prone toward sudden, forced changes in life - divorce or death of spouse being only one example. If 8th lord is benefic, native is associated with privileged, secret, transformative processes. If 8th lord is malefic, frequent accidents and shocks can be expected. Financial proceeds from settlement of joint accounts, if any, will fund development of the physical vehicle including intentional changes made to the body and brain. This native likes to change their appearance and social identity frequently. Karaka for multiple cycles. nd 2 House Proceeds of divorce or death of the first spouse are re-invested in the second marriage, or used to develop the traditions of the native's birth family. This is more typically a setup for widowhood from the 1st marriage and less frequently divorce. 3rd House Divorce lord has entered the mentality house. Monies from the joint assets of marriage or divorce settlements may be invested in business communications, into the siblings, or into mental pursuits. Frequently the native fears more sudden changes, and purchases insurance policies as protection th 4 House Divorce lord has entered the sheltering house. Divorce if indicated advances the native's philosophical awareness and emotional stability in life, causing maturity and redoubled commitment to a good home life. The mother was likely also divorced, and she may provide valuable guidance to negotiating the changes.. 5th House Divorce lord has entered the creative intelligence house. Divorce (if indicated) benefits the native's career. Settlement funds may promote speculative investment such as stock market or financial backing of creative ventures. The divorce process stimulates the native's awareness of the cycle of life and death which promotes creative harmonization with that cycle. Exaggerated cycle of gains and losses, but if the planet is a benefic, native will see that nothing at all is lost. Trouble for the oldest child who may have mysterious or difficult to diagnose conditions. Surgical procedures toward fertility, or upon the eldest child. th 6 House Divorce lord has entered the conflict house. Assets acquired through joint efforts of the spouses gets redirected to managing perpetual post-divorce conflict. The native is gainful financially after divorce but he must spend heavily for policing of the terms of the settlement; agreements are often broken. Distributing the marital estate is a contentious, conflicted process that may continue indefinitely. Lots of trouble getting a lasting agreement on rules for distributing joint assets. However the total effect of separating his assets from his spouse's control, despite the
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method of distribution being constantly in contention, is profitable financially. Continuous disagreements with and interference from the ex-spouse. Along with financial gainfulness, this conflict destroys creates ill-will toward and sometimes hidden illness. Ironically the native's post-divorce gainfulness is proportional to the level of conflict. 7th House Upon divorce (which is likely with this yoga) joint assets of marriage will tend to remain with the spouse. The native may give up all claims to the joint assets, and go wandering. 8th House Assets of marriage tend to remain with the native after divorce. If strong and auspicious+ 8th lord in swakshetra suggests that sudden turns of the cycle of birth and death such as widowhood or divorce may be both frequent and beneficial. Benefits from tax schemes. 9th House Divorce settlements are financially and religiously beneficial. The native's father may have been divorced, and he can offer valuable guidance to move through the process of re-negotiation of identity. Native is favored in child-custody discussions, and often receives any children produced by the marriage without a struggle. Good fortune through sudden, mysterious changes in general. 10th House Divorce affects public standing in a mixed way, usually tends toward a negative effect. Native may suffer some mental illness or pressure to rationalize his divorce. Financially neutral, tends toward slowly regaining lost investments over time. 11th House Divorce and life's difficult transformations in general will prove to be gainful. Proceeds from divorce may permit the native to purchase properties or vehicles, or fund formal education. Divorce also increases access to friends and to more diverse areas of the marketplace. (Spouse may have been a socially restrictive force.) th 12 House No material profit from divorce settlement, but potentially good spiritual results. The process of identity loss can yield wisdom and calm, develop the imagination and stimulate creative coaching. After marriage identity loss, the native transfer identity to universal forces, which looking back will be realized as a great benefit although it was painful at the time of forced separation from the beloved. Makes a compassionate therapist.

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Planets in 8th House - Effects on Divorce (if multiple karakas in house-8, results of each karaka have to be combined and rebalanced with the other occupying karakas) Surya Self-righteous and feels entitled to keep their social standing. Generally resists divorce, would much rather seek extramarital romance. Strong ego attachment to dignity of married status. Chandra Healing and caretaking toward the ex-spouse and may continue an emotional relationship long after the legal relationship is ended. Sentimental, treats the spouse like their child. Kuja Divorce is competitive, a fight Budha Ex-spouses develop a sibling relationships, verbal, good divorce agreements is Budha is auspicious Guru Optimistic and expansive toward the divorce/renegotiation of identity process. If Guru is auspicious, much appreciation toward the ex-spouse and the native is well-treated in the divorce process; continuing collegiality aprs-divorce. Shukra Divorce may be gentle and sweet, with good will toward the ex's remarriage. Shani Divorce delayed or denied, native has long life with minimal contributions to the joint assets pool from their spouse. Requires stability of social status. Spouse from a lesser social rank, but karmic obligation to remain in the relationship at least at the legal level. Rahu Crazy and unpredictable turn of events in divorce. May divorce and remarry the same person twice or even thrice. Ketu if divorce occurs, the native is not involved in it. May not show up in court or respond to legal action. Extreme detachment from the process.

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Karakas for Divorce/Multiple Marriages: The stronger the karaka by rashi, drishti etc. the stronger its divorce-remarriage effects: Surya in house-7 (self-righteousness in marriage) Surya in house-5 (native craves romantic attention) Rahu or Ketu in house-7 Rahu/Ketu yuti rasi L-7, or (to a lesser power) Rahu-Ketu yuti navamsha L-1 or L-7 indicates craving for new partners, frequent remarriages 7th Lord in dushthamsha Mutual drishti of enemy Grahain navamsha 1/7 axis Guru and Rahu drishti upon L-7 or Shukra

Shani in yuvati bhava is not a divorce karaka but rather signifies determined hard-working plodding through an an arduous or disappointing marriage. Gives determination to tolerate a emotionally or financially withholding, or low-caste or underperforming, spouse. Depending on other "permission" graha, the native may not need to accept their marital oppression indefinitely. This placement of Shani/7 typically shows sustained karma of a troublesome spouse for a long period, even if divorce does eventually occur when bhukti of a divorce graha (see table above) releases the karma.. Best results with an Older or conservative spouse. For social reasons, Shani in bhava-7 is generally an easier placement for a female.

Divorce-related Transits: Irreconcilable differences leading to physical separation frequently occur at milestones of 9-10, 14-15, 17-18, 27-28 -or- 29-30, 36-37, or 45-48 years. Legal Divorce may occur some years after the physical separation, depending on the strength of the arudha lagna. There are very few divorces after 45 years of marriage. (Yes, there are some, due to vimshottari dasha considerations not affected by these transit cycles.) o Rahu cycles are 9, 18, 27, 36, 54, And63years. o Shani cycles are durations of 14-15, 29-30, Or 44-45 years. o Any of these milestone "returns" that might occur simultaneously with bhukti of 2nd Lord or 8th Lord, can contribute considerable momentum to a divorce.

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Psycho-emotional connections: If these connections are not present, structural weakness in the marriage enhances likelihood of divorce: o her rasi Moon axis should matches either his navamsha nodal axis, or his navamsha nodal axis o her rasi Moon axis should matches either her navamsha nodal axis, or her navamsha nodal axis o for non-traditional committed unions, partner-1 must match partner-2 as above o if one's rasi Moon is not "matched" to the navamsha lagna or nodes (or possibly, navamsha Moon) of the other partner, One remains "emotionally invisible" to the partner. Where we are lucky enough to have verified birth data for both spouses in a divorce case, it is almost always the case that one spouse will be "invisible" to the other and that this inability to recognize the other person's psycho-emotional reality is the underlying cause of "irreconcilable differences" in divorce. Physical separation vs. legal divorce Timing of "divorce" most often means, he bhukti and gochara nodes in effect when couple physically separates with a clear intention to divorce. "Moving out" and "starting over" often happens years before a final legal settlement is reached. Divorce related events such as when the legal divorce petition is "filed" or when it is "final" do often follow quickly, and are completed within the initial physical separation bhukti.. These actions are less personal and more about social position, property, custody, etc. If the twelfth house (of illusions) has a very strong Arudha lagna -- which is to say there is a strong power of Power of Public Illusion> Public Illusion functioning in the person's life -- and he seventh house <IIIbpa/Bhava/7yuvati_bhava.htm> is also weak - the public admission of divorce (legal decree) may occur many years after moving-out. In real life the gap between an internally (spiritually/emotionally) weak marriage and the external, public appearance of a strong bond is often found in couples who are public figures, pillars of their community, who hold political or religious office, or otherwise have an instrumental need to maintain a convincing public "face" of continuing marriage long after they have separated. Should a person's rasi chart display this combination of weak-7th with strong Upapada, they are not marked as a hypocrite or a compulsive liar. Usually the forces of public expectation are much stronger than the individual's own courage to be honest, and the consequences of public announcement of divorce too painful to one or both parties. Watch for the period of the lord of 2nd-from-Upapadato see the public announcement.

Upapada and Darapada: The Power of Public Illusion

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Marriage is not only a private relationship, but it is also a public institution. Regardless of private truth, public perceptions can determine the marriage public status. o A12 is the arudha lagna of 12th house which is named upapada o A7 is the arudha lagna of 7th House which is also named darapada o if the Upapada (A12) is strong, but the 7th house becomes weak And 8th house effects are felt, o this will mean physical separation between the couple and marriage as such may continue to survive in this world of illusion. o Thus people or outsiders will continue to consider the couple as husband and wife when they are physically separated. The second house from the Upapadagives the exact timing of the Actual breakage of marriage as everyone gets to know that this separation, divorce or death of spouse has occurred. The eighth house from Venus will bring those people who will Activate this breakage of marriage either PHYSICALLY, OR ACTUALLY. If the lord of the second is associated with Darapada then the person had physical relationship before the marriage and this by itself can be a cause of break of the first marriage.

Physical Separation 2nd from any house shows the saturation(death) of matters contained in that house. 7th house rules marriage, the first marriage in particular. Timing of "saturation point" when this life's karma in the matter of marriage relations is completed, is set by the scheduled period of the lord of 2nd from-current-marriage. o from the first spousewhether by death or divorce is seen in the bhukti of lord of 2ndfrom-7th , randhra bhava. [After age 32, also consider 8th-from-Moon.] o from the second spousewhether by death or divorce is seen in the bhukti of lord of 2ndfrom-2nd , Sahaja bhava. [After age 32, also consider 3rd-from-Moon.] o from the Third spousewhether by death or divorce is seen in the bhukti of lord of 2ndfrom-9th , karma bhava. [After age 32, also consider 10th-from-Moon.] Of course the regular dasha rotations of separation-causing house lords do not guarantee separation of marriage partners. Far from it! o Marriage as The core social and emotional bondof adult life, will remain secure by defaultunless significant destabilizing yogas affect Venus, Jupiter, or the marriage house(s). o Marriage is a powerful yoga! For most people, ego-attachment to the marriage partner's body/personality is second only to ego-attachment to one's own body/personality! o Only if other factors are leading to instability in marriage, do we go looking for the culprit "2nd-from" lord to indicate timing of separation.

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Sri. B.V. Raman - A Catechism of Astrology

Q. 111 : From which house or planet do you predict a second marriage? Ans: Venus and the 7th house indicate marriage. If you are sure that the first will either die or separate from the husband, take the planets in the 7th or associated with Venus. o The strongest will determine the second wife. o In a female horoscope, take Saturn in the place of Venus (Prasna Marga). o Some authors want us to read the 11th house and this may also be adopted."

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Shukra karaka for spouse? o Mainly for male nativity. Shukra = karaka for marriageand all other contractual agreements also. Shukra = karaka for harmony, partnership, balance, mutual support, diplomacy. If there is damage to Shukra (e.g., Shukra + Ketu) then the marriage expectations are weakened and the liklihood of second marriage increases. Naturally the Vimshottari Dasha timing must trigger a divorce, but without the pre-existing weakness no trigger will work. Shukra and bhava-7 specifically indicate marriage for men who prefer to marry women. As Shri Raman says, Women have their own system in Jyotisha. For women, Shukra is not the direct profile of the husband but rather the disposition of marriage contract and her expectations of harmony in the union. Guru indicates the first husband, Shani is the 2nd husband, and graha associated with Shani indicate third and subsequent husbands. In my records, there is a case of a woman known to me who was married and divorced five times before the age of 42. In her nativity, all graha except chandra-rahu occupy a rashi of Shani. Marriage-1 comes from Guru. Marriages 2-3-4-5 come from Shani and three graha with Shani. After she exhausted the karma of each of Guru in a rashi of Shani, then Shani, then three graha with Shani, she stopped getting married and entered a monastery. She is now a great healer and saint. Many Westerners have three or more marriages.

Rahu-Ketu In my practice (at least so far!) I find that 2nd Lord is the best significator of the 2nd marriage partner male or female, and that most public aspects of the 2nd spouse's life can be read from 2nd bhava as lagna. (e.g., career of 2nd spouse = 10th-from-2nd, = native's bhava-11). 9th Lord is the significator of 3rd spouse; L-4 = 4th spouse; L-11 = 5th spouse; etc.
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Timing of a Second marriage Bhukti of one of these classic marriage-makers: o Shani, Shukra, Rahu or Ketu o Navamsha of 7th Lord or 1st Lord o Rahu/Ketu transit through one of these axes D-1 or D-9 nodal axis D-1 or D-9 lagna axis D-1 or D-9 axis of Moon What to expect in the next spouse:

Marriage and all remarriages will follow the same timing rules:

Public characteristics of the next-in-line spouse are seen through the following lagnas: o 1st spouse lagna, take 7th House o 2nd spouse lagna take 2nd House o 3rd spouse lagna take 9th House o 4th spouse lagna take 4th House

Determining Spouses previous Marriages (children, relatives, and business affairs by counting geometrically from the lagna of the relevant spouse-house.) E.g.,

o career of 1st spouse = 10th-from- 7th = bandhu bhava [also see the rasi o o o o
lord of the 4th navamsha] career of 2nd spouse = 10th-from-2nd= labha bhava [also see lord of the 11th navamsha] career of 3rd spouse = 10th-from-9th= ripu bhava [also see the of the 6th navamsha] (previous) children of 2nd spouse = 5th-from-2nd = ari bhava the rasi lord of the 6th navamsha] (previous) spouse of 2nd spouse = 7th-from-2nd = randhra bhava the rasi lord of the 8th navamsha] the rasi rasi lord [also see [also see

Marriage vs. Love Marriage is seen via Yuvati and Romance , Entertainment, love-affair and love-of-children-- is seen via putra bhava Even if no marriage is forthcoming, your love life might be fabulous! If house-5 and its Lord are strong, periods of L-5 will bring plenty of love. L-5 love is not concerned with social duty but rather is a celebration of the self. Typically L-5 periods produce

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pure love (with either lovers or children) that does not require the social validation bondage of legal marriage. It is quite possible to have a life filled living completely free of marriage - and vice versa! with marvelous romance while

Benefics in yuvati sthana o Guru in yuvati does not prevent divorce, but rather creates a friendly post-divorce relationship. o Guru or Shukra in randhra bhava is also helpful for positive resource sharing post-divorce: generous alimony, continuing friendly concern for the welfare of the ex-spouse, cooperative co-parenting, etc.

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