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Thinking Positive, How to Think Positive?, Benefits of Positive Thinking, Clear Mind, Clarity of Good Thoughts, Objectives of Thinking Positive, Thinking Positive Helps Develop Good Relationships, How to Develop Positive Relationships?, How to Control Emotional Thinking, Develop Positive Thinking

Thinking Positive, How to Think Positive?, Benefits of Positive Thinking, Clear Mind, Clarity of Good Thoughts, Objectives of Thinking Positive, Thinking Positive Helps Develop Good Relationships, How to Develop Positive Relationships?, How to Control Emotional Thinking, Develop Positive Thinking

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Positive Relationships Helps Build Good Relatoinships and Thus Good Nation. I strongly recommend you to learn more by clicking on the link http://tinyurl.com/79u7suj
Positive Relationships Helps Build Good Relatoinships and Thus Good Nation. I strongly recommend you to learn more by clicking on the link http://tinyurl.com/79u7suj

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 ==== ====Click Here for More Informationhttp://tinyurl.com/79u7suj ==== ====When I checked my emails the other day, I saw a thread of messages from some colleagues,about a work related issue. As I read them I could feel myself getting tensed by the amount ofnegativity in the content of the messages. I have lost count of the number of meetings I have attended where opinions and negativenonconstructive remarks got exchanged routinely. I assume most of you can relate to this in someform or another... People suffering from mental health conditions like anxiety disorder and clinical depressioncommonly present with negative cognitive patterns as part of their illness. These usually fadeaway along with recovery from an illness episode. We can more easily avoid negativity coming from people we only meet occasionally. But what ifthat 'circle of negativity' was at home or had embedded at your work place and you have had toface it every day? How easily can you avoid it then? Let us begin by looking at 3 key reasons why we need to stop feeding negativity. 1. Negativity can waste valuable time and resources Picture this for a moment - you go to work with an intention of completing your tasks for the day.You find your colleagues discussing about a change introduced recently by management. Yousomehow get drawn into the debate. If not mindful you could get caught up in an endlessdiscussion and waste your valuable time resource. Similarly, gossiping, arguing your case for the sake of a "hard to please" ego not only wastes timebut also reduces productivity. 2. A negative mindset affects your health, negatively! A negative mindset has an overall negative health outcome. It makes one more prone to theharmful effects of stress, releasing more stress hormones and reducing endorphins (the so-called"feel-good" hormones). Scientific evidence shows that a negative attitude can adversely affect ourimmune system, making us prone to infections and other physical and psychological ailments. Individuals with a habitually negative disposition could have a higher risk of memory and mentalhealth problems, including depression compared to people with a positive disposition and outlookon life. 
 
3. Focusing on the negative only contributes to its power Negativity has a growing ground. Just like one rotten apple in the basket can spoil the rest - adominating, firmly held negative belief can influence your thoughts and state in a way that do notserve you. You soon become quite negative and cynical. You fail to communicate effectively and trivial things seem to matter leading to pointless conflictswith others. You soon become part of the problem rather than part of the solution. Why do we feed negativity? Adopting a negative stance does not take much effort (although energy can get expended),whereas to think and behave in a positive way requires some persistence and commitment. A fear of 'loss' can drive negativity. Unfulfilment of our needs could also feed negativity, forinstance a lack of loving or meaningful relationships, ill-health, ongoing stress, tiredness,exhaustion and so on. We may get into a "negative state" from time to time, due to external stresses or internal conflict.Some people with past negative experiences may consciously or "sub-consciously" expect moreof the same, thereby making 'negativity' a conditioned but unhealthy response. Let me share a few ways of addressing negativity in your life. 1. Cultivate an open and positive mindset People who project negativity on a consistent basis typically have low self-esteem. They feel badlyabout themselves, and their negativity could reflect those feelings. Adopting an open mindset should enable you to listen non-judgmentally, practice genuineempathy, and to appreciate the viewpoint of others. You do not have to share their views or try tosolve their problems for them - only encourage them to look for solutions themselves. Keep adistance from the negative emotions of others if you want to help them in a meaningful way. Research has shown that our expectations of people can influence their behaviour and vice-versa.When we label someone as "negative", we expect them to complain, be pessimistic and focus onproblems most of the time. This expectation or prediction often comes true. Would it help to say that no such thing as a "negative person" exists, only a person with negativetendencies? 2. Infuse energy and enthusiasm When you look after yourself well, with passion for your life, the vibrant energy will sooner or laterrub off on those around you. Positive energy vibes can have a contagious effect! 3. Use language mindfully 
 
Try repeating the following out loud (with emotion for impact) "I feel crap" "This food is disgusting!" "This traffic jam is doing my head in" "This is absolutely appalling. How dare she complain to the boss about me?" Now try these ones instead- "I don't feel very good" "This food doesn't taste nice" "This traffic jam is quite annoying" "This does not feel right. I wonder what made her complain to the boss about me." How we frame our sentences and the words we use on a regular basis have a big role to play ineither feeding or defusing negativity. Words like always, never, everything, everybody, nothing,nobody, etc.can easily distort reality. So choose your words deliberately and mindfully. 4. Stop blaming others (and yourself) You need to accept that you cannot control external events and that no one can make you feel acertain way - only you can! No matter how bad the situation, no amount of blaming, cynicism orback-lashing will change it. Seek to learn and experience something positive from it, no matterwhat. 5. Positively energise your thoughts! Negative thoughts and accompanying emotions can wreak havoc when allowed to run their freecourse. Rather than resisting them, first accept their presence. Ask yourself "do they serve me andmy loved ones?" Your body will send out vibes. If these make you feel uneasy, remind yourself ofthe consequences of holding on to these. Make a conscious decision to discard and get rid ofthem for good. Discarding them will create an empty space in your mind. Fill it with positive andhappy thoughts, and charge these up with physical and emotional energy. This will make you feelpositively energised! 6. Have a break Mental exhaustion can challenge you from staying focused and from maintaining a positiveattitude. Noises from the outside world compounded by your own value judgements, innerdialogues and "things to do" lists can distract you. Give your body and mind the break it deserves even if only for 5 minutes every hour or so. This

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