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A Safe Harbor
Vigilance
As guardians of our homes, what does vigilance mean? Keep the bad out, writing grievance tickets, holding evil at bay?
Constant Vigilance
Or does vigilance mean lling our homes with encouragement and nourishment?
Explain the limbic brain - emotional, How can i make life better in the next 10 minutes?
If in a desert, and a box of cookies appeared, how long would your will power to avoid cookies last?
If a box of cookies appeared in this environment, how valuable would they be? (not so much) our homes should be more like the nourishing grocery store and not a desert of warmth and affection.
Isaiah 51:3
For the Lord shall comfort Zion: he will comfort all her waste places; and he will make her wilderness like Eden, and her desert like the garden of the Lord; joy and gladness shall be found therein, thanksgiving, and the voice of melody.
Triggers
B oredom L onely A ngry/Anxious H ungry S tressed T ired D iscouraged/Depressed
Triggers for addiction, temptation, etc. Notice how common boredom, hunger, tired. Can occur daily.
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Pres. Henry B. Eyring: Brothers and sisters, our Heavenly Father wants and needs our help to bring His spirit children home to Him again. I speak today of young people already within His true Church and so are started on the strait and narrow way to return to their heavenly home. He wants them to gain early the spiritual strength to stay on the path. And He needs our help to get them back to the path quickly should they begin to wander. I was a young bishop when I began to see clearly why the Lord wants us to strengthen children when they are young and rescue them quickly.
Children under 2 spend twice as much time watching TV and videos as they do reading books.
ACTIVE?
use these ? for ourselves and for our youth to use for themselves
Setting Boundaries
1. Regularly teach children how to use digital devices wisely. For example, teach them what is appropriate to post on social networking sites and how to handle cyberbullying or inappropriate texting. 2. Let children know that iPod players, cell phones, and other devices are subject to unannounced parental spot-checks. If you have older children who use social networking sites, become a friend. 3. Keep the computer in a public area of the home. 4. If you decide your child is old enough for a cell phone, dont enable the Internet on it. You might consider a cell phone that can block all incoming and outgoing numbers except those selected by the parent, making the phone for emergency use only. 5.
Set up a family recharging station where children plug in cell phones each night at bedtime. 6. Establish acceptable times and rm time limits for technology use. 7. Set a regular time each day or week when the family unplugs from digital devices especially before going to bed. Some families also establish technology-free zones in certain areas of the home. 8. Block peer-to-peer or sharing applications, many of which encourage stealing and open a portal to unlterable content.
In our family we get six TV Tickets at the beginning of the week. One ticket equals an hour of screen time. On the back of each ticket is a list of things we need to do before we can turn a ticket in, like cleaning our room, nishing our homework, and doing our chores. Instead of using technology all the time, we like to read, play games with each other, and play outside with our friends. Trevor and NicoletteC., ages 10 and 13, Utah
In our family we read for 30 minutes before using media. We ask our friends to do this as well when they are at our house. We also only do games or video/TV watching on Fridays and Saturdays so were not distracted on the nights we need to do homework.
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see them as children of God, ask questions from a neutral, safe place
And again, inasmuch as parents have children in Zion, or in any of her stakes which are organized, that teach them not to understand the doctrine of repentance, faith in Christ the Son of the living God, and of baptism and the gift of the Holy Ghost by the laying on of the hands, when eight years old, the sin be upon the heads of the parents. D&C 68:25
What is our job as parents as dictated from the scriptures? to teach right from wrong or? Its more powerful to know the keys of how to change than to just know whats right.
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9 PM! Lights out No phones between 8 and 9 PM Computers off at 8 PM Parents lights out at 10 PM
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Morning System
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5:15 ! wake up - Scott 5:45! out the door 7:30! wake up Sam 8:35! out the door 6 PM! dinner Scott set daily at 5:45 Family clear together Stay at table until family is nished or a parent excuses you Everybody puts own dirty dishes in dishwasher Dinner time discussion
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Each person is responsible for talking about 3 positive things learned or accomplished each day. All discussion without Rupert must be about the Ruperts subject matter. You are responsible for teaching your friends how to play (Rupert rules), no exceptions.
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Scott will babysit 1 BOD per month 1 Temple trip per month 1 DWAP per month 1 open 8:15! leave Dad & Scott 8:30! leave mom and Samuel 4:30! dinner 5:30 ! family band 8:00! family prayer See Dinner-time system with the following exception Each person shares two gospel subjects discussed during block Only Great Minds in use during dinner
Sundays system
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Take Aways...
Awareness of media use in my family Resources to help with media use How to have safe talks How to plan time to have safe talks How to protect our family at night