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Stephen R. Covey
Developing Habits
Character
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Principles
Principles Natural laws or fundamental truths
Universal, timeless Produce predictable outcomes External to ourselves Operate with or without understanding or acceptance Self-evident and enabling when understood
Values
Values
The worth or priority we place, things,
ideas, or principles
Self-chosen beliefs and ideals Internal, subjective, based on how we see the world Influenced by upbringing, society, and personal reflection
We are not in control, principles control. We control our actions, but the consequences that flow from these actions are controlled by principles.
-Stephen R. Covey
Paradigms
Paradigms The way an individual perceives, understands, and interprets the surrounding world; a mental map.
If you want small changes, work on your behavior; if you want quantum-leap changes, work on your paradigms.
-Stephen R. Covey
P/PC Balance
The Principle of Effectiveness
Production
The desired results produced (the golden egg, or P)
Production Capability
Maintaining and enhancing the resources of the desired results (the goose, or PC)
Deposits
Kindness and Courtesy Keeping Promises Honoring Expectations Loyalty to the Absence Making Apologies
Withdrawals
Unkindness and Discourtesy Breaking Promises Violating Expectations Disloyalty, Duplicity Pride, Conceit, Arrogance
Habit 1
Be Proactive
The Habit of Personal Vision
Reactive Behavior
Stimulus Response
Proactive Behavior
Stimulus Freedom to choose according to Values Response
Circle of Influence
Circle of Influence
A persons Circle of Influence includes those things he or she can affect directly.
Circle of Concern
Circle of Concern
A persons Circle of Concern comprises all matters about which he or she cares.
Circle of Influence
Transition Figure
Transition Figure
A person who stops the transmission of negative behaviors to others.
Any time you think the problem is out there, that very thought is the problem.
-Stephen R. Covey
Habit 2
Second Creation
The physical production of desired results
Habit 1 says you are the programmer. Habit 2 says write the program.
Money
Possessions
Self
Work
Pleasure
A powerful document that expresses your personal sense of purpose and meaning in life; it acts as a governing constitution by which you evaluate decisions and choose behaviors.
Habit 3
NOT URGENT
Preparation Prevention Values Clarification Planning Relationship Building True Re-Creation Empowerment Trivia, busywork Some telephone calls Time wasters Escape Activities Irrelevant mail Excessive TV
NOT IMPORTANT
Interruptions, some telephone calls Some mail, some reports Some meetings Many proximate, pressing matters Many popular activities
6 Evaluate
2 Review Roles
5 Exercise Integrity
3 Identify Goals
4 Organize Weekly
Habit 4
Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership
Win-Lose
Is very common scripting for most people Is the authoritarian approach Uses position,power, credentials, possessions, or personality to get thewin
Lose-Lose
Is the mind set of a highly dependant person Is the same as no win because nobody benefits Is a long-term of win-lose, lose-win, or win
Win-Win or No Deal
Allows each party to say no Is the most realistic at the beginning of a relationship or a business deal Is the highest form of win
Relationship
Agreements
Win-Win Character
Integrity
People of integrity are true of their feelings, values, and commitments.
Maturity
Mature people express their ideas and feelings with courage and with consideration for the ideas and feelings of others.
Abundance Mentality
People with an Abundance Mentality believe that there is plenty for everyone.
Habit 5
Levels of Listening
Ignoring Making no effort to listen
Pretend Listening Making believe or giving the appearance you are listening
Selective Listening Hearing only the part of the conversation that interests you Attentive Listening Paying attention and focusing on what the speaker says and comparing that to your own experiences Empathic Listening Listening and responding with heart and mind to understand the speakers words, intent, and feelings
Autobiographical Responses
Are the main obstacles for effective interpersonal communication
Advising
Probing
Interpreting
Explaining anothers motive and behaviour based on our own experiences; trying to figure people out.
Evaluating
Habit 6
Synergize
The Habit of Creative Cooperation
To synergize is not
A brainstorming free-for-all Accepting others ideas as full truth Win-lose competition Group think Always easy Only a negotiation technique
A process
Your Needs
Third Alternative
Habit 7
Mental
Spiritual
We develop spiritually through reading inspiring literature, through meditating and praying, and through spending time in nature
Social/Emotional
We mature socially and emotionally by making consistent deposits in the Emotional Bank account
Principle-Centered Living
Security
Family Spouse
Money
Possessions
Power
Self
Principles
Work
Guidance
Pleasure
Wisdom