responsibility nor our concern to try and teach our partners. It's rare enough that wecan truly understand what our personal lessons are; it's nearly impossible to trulyunderstand what someone else's lessons are.I bring this up because we don't have any control over the "karmic" elements of ourrelationships. If I'm in a relationship with someone, and my Pluto sits exactly ontheir Moon (for example), the only thing that I can do is to be aware that this personmay be experiencing issues relating to power and security through our relationship—and there is nothing that I can do about it other than be as aware and as sensitive toit as possible. If and when these issues come up, all that I personally can do is toaccept that my partner is experiencing his or her own issues; that these issues areprobably not my fault, although I have become the focal point for their lesson.
The universe, however, tends to be very efficient, and it's rare that only onepartner in a relationship has a lesson to learn.
I personally always try and lookfor what it is that I'm supposed to learn from a situation, and where my personalresponsibilities lie—and where they don't. It's not always easy, but then again, wedidn't incarnate on Earth to take a vacation.
That being said, the "karmic" issues in a relationship can be seen through theconnections between the outer planets (and I almost always include Saturn inthat category) and the partner's personal planets and angles.
Before I briefly describe each planet's primary "themes"
I again want toemphasize that the outer planet person is usually not directly responsible fortheir partner's reactions; they are simply someone who can help their partnerto play out, identify, and hopefully heal their individual issues.SATURN:
Saturn aspects tend to relate to issues with authority, particularly withmale authority figures. Saturn of course rules responsibility and limitations. Saturnaspects to personal planets in synastry often feel limiting or restraining; sometimesthe Saturn person can fall into a parenting role, or be perceived as a parent incertain situations. Saturn aspects, however, both "easy" and "hard" are almostalways present in long-term relationships.
Chiron, an asteroid/planetoid that orbits between Saturn and Uranus isfrequently related to healing, both physical and spiritual. Chiron's wounds tend to bevery deep and exploring them can be very frightening. Strong Chiron contacts topersonal planets or angles can sometimes indicate that a major theme of therelationship will be healing—and that can often involve moving through crisis.
Uranus aspects have to do with the disruption of business as usual. Howan individual reacts and responds to outer planet contacts is entirely dependent onhow well that individual works with Saturn. If they hold on too tightly to the illusionsof Saturn, then the energy of the outer planets will always feel threatening to them,whether it is experienced through transits or through relationships. Uranusconnections in synastry often present opportunities to experience and heal issuesrelating to rejection and abandonment.
Neptune aspects almost always relate to boundary issues. When Neptuneis involved, all boundaries become blurry; we find it difficult to make distinctions andoften lose touch with "reality" and escape into "fantasy". Strong Neptune contacts